MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

turtlemoose

I just wanted to share that Reuben can now laugh properly, and it is the most wonderful sound I've ever heard! I can't help but laugh back at him, sometimes I look at him and I love him so much I could burst. Sorry having a soppy moment!!

toniq

Jessica has yet again woken fully at 3amish, She stirred from 2am,Eventually went back to sleep at 6am to wake fully at 7:30am.I'm shattered as always but love Sundays as we have such a lazy day, Hope everyone and babes are ok xxx

Better go comp xxxxxxxx

turtlemoose

Thanks everyone for your comments yesterday and today. OH is being cuddly and friendly (do I want a drink fetching, do I want anything from asda etc). I know this is his way of apologising, and he did actually say the words "I'm sorry for telling you to f off in front of older son".

I just don't thnk "sorry" cuts it - or am I being unreasonable?

I have a huge problem re his son (about to turn 8), his behaviour and attitude towards me (and Reuben), but OH will not listen. By telling me to f off, I feel he has justified to his son that kind of behaviour towards me is ok.

OH will not believe me about his sons behaviour as he is sly and does it when he is not around. Examples - when OH is in the room and Reuben cries, it's all "oh poor you, do you have a tummy ache? Oh no" etc, lots of hugs and kisses....once when OH was not in the room, Reuben began to grizzle (not cry), and older son lent over him and said "shut up, nobody likes you when you make that noise". Another example, he was going through holiday pics today that he took on his camera, plus there were some older pics too, and I watched him (I could see the computer screen) delete the pics of me. Yet when OH then sat next to him and a pic comes up of me and OH at the bottom of the Eiffel Tower, he's all "oh dad I want to print that one".

I won't bother with any more examples but I could go on all day with examples, and I cannot say a word - he simply refuses to accept that his son could behave like that. We do actually own a dictaphone so I am going to try to catch him out but i feel ridiculous and petty - but have no idea what else to do.

Hope everyone is having a nice lazy Sunday xxx

sexymouse

Hello ladies!

I know I've asked this question quite a while back at the beginning of my pregnancy, but I'm now at 37 weeks today and wondering what breast pads to use. I had a bra fitting for a nursing bra yesterday and whereas all my maternity and normal bras have had a moulded cup (think t-shirt bra) these ones don't and I'm a bit worried about breast pads showing through (I currently have tommee tippee ones as my breasts started leaking at around 16 weeks). I've also just looked up the price of them and they seem to have gone up by nearly 50% since I last bought them too, so was wondering whether they are still economical at £4.49 for 50 as opposed to the £3 I paid last time?

Do any of you use reusable ones instead of disposable? If so, which ones? I'm hoping to be able to breast feed, so would need some that can cope with this and don't slip or leave me with wet patches through my clothes.

Many thanks in advance for your responses.

sexymouse xx

turtlemoose

Sexy mouse I personally use boots reusables, with a box of lansinoh in the cupboard for oh-crap-I-didn't-wash-them days! They were about £5 for 3 pairs and have done me fine for 3 months so far - wear one, spare one, wash one.

I think everyone is different, but for me things have settled down and at 12 weeks now I hardly ever leak (still wear the pads sometimes just in case though, as even a baby crying on tv can sometimes set them off!).

The thing I will say though is that I dutifully followed the washing instructions and they came out crusty and grey :-/ so now I wash them by hand in COLD running water and they come up clean just fine. Don't know why but the cold seems to work better than the hot. I don't use a detergent on them as they sit against my nipple (obviously!) and my baby could taste it.

turtlemoose

Oh and don't worry about wet patches....if its not your boobs it'll be sick, wee, dribble etc causing the wet patch instead...it's not glamourous this mummy business!! :rotfl:

sexymouse

Thanks turtlemoose - they sound great - will have to get some of those then. Boots incidentally are the cheapest at the moment for the tommee tippee disposables anyway (£4.09).

katiechoc_2

I use the boots reusables too, will try your hand washing tip though turtle! I need them all the time (he's 17 weeks) I find when I'm feeding him on one side the other leaks too. Was hoping that would ease off to be honest!

Aw turtle I hope things pick up for you. I don't have much (any!) advice really, having not been in your situation re OH's son but it must be so hard. What sort of relationship does oh have with him? Does he see his mum much? While his behaviour is clearly unacceptable he's still only little himself, has he been like this all the time or is it new since Reuben was born? And no, I think it's going to take more than just words to make up for his behaviour (oh I mean)! I think you both need to have a good talk about why he's suddenly changed like he has. Pnd is actually fairly common in men, not that excuses telling you to f off but maybe worth bearing in mind?

Anyway, another ramble from me, if you got this far you deserve a prize!

turtlemoose

Edited the first part out for real life safety/privacy.

I thought things would be better when we lived together (ie your house, your rules, becomes OUR house, OUR rules that we discuss and mutually agree).... But that hasn't happened and I am resentful towards the both of them for it. Hindsight is a wonderful thing and I am sad so say I find myself thinking more and more recently that I had no idea what I was getting in to. Reuben is wonderful but...was he the right thing to do?? I just don't know the answer to that, and just typing that has made me cry because it's just all so sad.

turtlemoose

Edited out because of the below sentence, and how the previous senyences might actually be read by people I know. Didn't think it through that my username is quite trackable.


I'm aware how bitter and impatient and nasty I sound, and I hate that it's what I've been reduced to. I just don't know what I can do.