MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

Sammie_03

My ds2 has very mild autism, you would never know if you just met him but he also suffers from OCD but with help from school he is getting better. When he gets bored at school his tendencies start to show as he is very clever so gets frustrated and bored very easily. He was completing year 2 maths at the beginning of year 1!! He defiantly doesn't get it from me!

I hope your your nephew carries on making progress. Xx


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dizziblonde

Triangle wrote: »

Excatly right sunshine! Most books said babies should smile by 6 weeks - when J didn't I was so worried, it was really stressing me out. He cracked a couple of little ones by 8 weeks and in the past few days has had some very big beautiful ones Feel silly for getting so caught up on specific dates now!

I get this constantly from the docs and health visitors (and MIL determined to compare her to my nephew who's about 1 1/2 years ahead of her). Because Erin's done so well - I think they tend to forget she was premature and expect her to hit milestones on the target of when the flipping books say - of course she's not going to... the babies in the books had 2 months head start on her! Smiling I remember particularly broke my heart - I was so desperate for that first one, and of course had to wait longer than the 4-6 weeks the books were saying as she wouldn't be likely to do it till her adjusted age (based on when she SHOULD have come out) was near that range... as it was she did it slightly ahead of expectations based on that, but "delayed" based on her actual age - and gawd was I taking flack from the GP and HV muttering about possible autism and all sorts! Can't stop her smiling now - indeed she ended up not having a midday nap yesterday as we were out and about, she had a pretty dress on (was trying to get some mileage out of the very summery dress I'd bought for her to go to the wedding) and little old ladies kept coming over because of her pretty dress and then getting gobfuls of grin so they hung around! (Good job I'm not one of those mums who goes ballistic if a stranger LOOKS at my child heh!)

As for routines - ours is going to need some tweaking when we start with meals - currently she's got her long nap of the day between about 11.45 and 1.45 - which suits me perfectly at present since it means I can eat a meal myself with both hands! Bedtime we've got quite a good routine now - it was important for me to start working in a bedtime story as soon as it was realistic (yes, sad ex-reception teacher here)... but Erin slept much better in a cot than a moses basket - when you feel the horrible mattresses in them you can't really blame her can you? We've got one side taken off the cot at the moment so we can have sneaky cuddles in the middle of the night (it's secured to our bed by the high tech method of my dressing gown cord tying the legs together and a rolled up towel filling the gap between the two frames, covered over by her cot sheet that's tucked into OUR mattress on that side) which I really like as well. Considering in our NHS trust's eyes co-sleeping is evil (I've seen them yell at women who've noddded off with their babies in hospital) - I just keep quiet about it when the HV is concerned but I'll definitely be doing the same again next time around!

turtlemoose

Katie yay for dummy success...keep us updated as I'm still toying with the idea for mine...he's just zonked out by himself after baby massage though, I wish someone would give me a full body massage and then let me sleep for as long as I wanted

aimless mine came by royal mail but had to sign for it...so if your postie has been then I'd check they didn't forget to leave a card. Hope you manage to put your boobs away at some point today...:cool:

Dizzi I love the sound of your sidecar sleeping....but I worry about getting R out of the habit once we start it, iykwim. We intend to put him in his own room at 6 months so I'm not sure how it would work with being so close and then all of a sudden I'm not there, hmm. How long do you plan on keeping your current arrangement?

Ive got my employment tribunal from the 10th sept, and we are on hol one week between now and then, so I am trying to do a pumping session each day. It's hard as I don't want to create oversupply so can only pump a little each day...but I need enough for a week so got to d it ...I made the mistake last time I pumped too much and ended up with rock hard boobs, and nearly choked the poor lad with the force it shot out at him later!! But I need enough to last a whole week with a childminder. God I really don't want to leave him for that amount of time but have no choice

sunshine_1988

Feeling v.pleased with myself, took Aiden in garden and he sat in his entertainer while I mowed the lawn and dug out an old plant. Came inside and he had a feed and fell asleep.

Since then I have hung out the washing, put another load in, done dishwasher and bottles and polished. Just having a cup of tea and watching a series called no angels on catch up channel 4. I need to hoover but it will wake the boy I think.

Hope everyones having a good afternoon xx

dizziblonde

Once she starts solidly going through the night without needing a cuddle and dummy back in I'll put the side back on the cot, then move it to the wall away from the bed and gradually into her own room from there.

Sammie_03

Back from the shops, picked up some fruit and veg for Noah and some school trousers for the boys.

I'm starving now so going to get some lunch I think!!


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toniq

Managed to get Jess down for an afternoon nap!!!..........xxxxx

sunshine_1988

toniq wrote: »

Managed to get Jess down for an afternoon nap!!!..........xxxxx

Well done will she normally not go down in the afternoon? Xx

whowants2brich

Well, we are still here and going strong (not that there was any chance of anything different...) After 2 months our little Ryan is smiling, reaching up so that we can pick him up, and drinking like a trooper. He likes farting, hates burping, and frequently has hiccups. Mum's ok, but still tries to get me to be up half the night to help her with the night feeding, much to the joy of my colleagues who have to wake me up in the afternoons...

Initially, Ryan refused to breastfeed, we had to express, which meant that he had enough milk to allow him to double his birthweight by 2.5 months so we're happy. He has even started breastfeeding normally, after loads of fighting, he knows what's good for him and where it comes from so has learnt that if he can breastfeed, he'll get milk immediately rather than waiting for the sterilizer etc...

We have resorted to using one 200ml of formula a day, on days when mum can't keep up. Usually because, like in the past few days, heat is forcing Ryan to curl up on mummy's tummy, to drink practically non-stop. Which doesn't help with milk production, a never-ending battle, and doesn't let mum move off of the sofa.

Does anyone else find that breastfeeding is so much slower than expressing and bottle feeding, and get frustrated by it? Or is it just us?

And from the NCT class, only one other mum (out of the 7 in total) is still breastfeeding, the others have all given up. They had such a bad experience with the NCT class, with the birth and first few weeks, that they are refusing to go to the NCT reunion. To be honest, I don't think that the NCT class covered the topics we needed, and set several of the mums up with false expectations - so much so that it is no surprise that they now don't want to go near the NCT people...

Anyway, better go back to work now, otherwise I won't be able to go home later and see if Ryan's worked out how to lift himself up - he loves tummy time, and gets really frustrated that he can't move himself forward. He flaps his arms and legs and looks at us as if to say "why am I not moving?" - almost beats his beaming smile when I go in to pick him up, but not quite...

Sammie_03

Toniq - hope jess has a nice long nap for you!!

I was hoping Noah would go down for an hour so I could make his batch of baby food but I don't think I'm going to have much luck!!
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