MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

turtlemoose

triangle wow thats a good sleep!

My little monkey, after having been improving leaps and bounds with both day and night time sleeping, was a little terror last night! He was awake after his cot nap from 1:15 until 10:20pm! He did have one half hour snooze (mine must be on the same timer as yours katie!) , but that was it for the whole 9 hours! He then went to sleep as normal...but weve been having the first night sleep as 4hr 53 mins like clockwork....last night was only 3hrs 20. I stayed up later than i planned because OH wanted me to....so cuz of R's short sleep I actually only got an hour when im used to getting nearly 5!

At 9 ish I couldn't get him to go back down in his cot, so he is now sleeping on my feeding cushion. There is a massive label on it saying DO NOT LET YOUR BABY SLEEP ON THIS CUSHION ...but he drops off in or on it quite often. I think the lad just doesn't like to lay flat ...give him a slope or prop him up in some way and zzzzz ....lay him flat and he's awake after half an hour (or won't settle at all).

I haven't got anything exciting planned for today, have got two loads of laundry (but I put one in last night on a timer so it'll be ready to get out when I get up, to save time), need to pay a cheque in, um that's it really, gosh my life is so glamorous nowadays! I'm car booting it (as a buyer) tomorrow if the weather is ok....rock n roll

Sammie_03

Afternoon everyone

We are off camping this weekend so just packing the last few bits, we are only going local (about 20 mins away) as its the first time we have been with Noah do I don't want to be far from home incase it doesn't work out!!
Xx

katiechoc_2

Happy camping Sammie! Think it'll be a while before we try camping with George. Need a new tent too, we've only got a teeny two man one

We're going to a carboot tomorrow too turtle, hope there's plenty of bargains!

Well wake to sleep failed on the first try this morning, it's hard deliberately disturbing, like poking a sleeping lion or something! Will be putting him down again in a minute though so will try again.

RebekahR

katiechoc wrote: »

Ooh turtle I'm jealous of you're napping baby! Did he just go off on his own while you were bumbling around the room? Evenif George is happy when I put him in the cot he always ends up howling after a few minutes. I've got into a bad habit of feeding him to sleep that I really need to fix, but it's soooo damn easy! I'm going to try the baby whisperer's "wake to sleep" idea to try and get him to sleep past the half hour mark this time.

She only does half hour in the basket at nearly 5 weeks. What is the wake to sleep thing?

RebekahR

fluffnutter wrote: »

I tend to feed Freddie to sleep. It's just so easy to do. Having said that I seem to be very lucky with Freddie at the moment. He seems happy in his cot and doesn't cry when I put him in it after a feed even if he's still awake. Grunts and squeals for anything up to half an hour but inevitably falls asleep after that. He only cries once he's woken up again and is either bored or hungry depending on how long he's been there. Hopefully it will last

What's the baby whisperer's wake to sleep idea?

How long has he been putting himself to sleep for? we still hold her 24x7 and no want this habit broken!

RebekahR

Is this pnd? I seem to dread every night time when I wake from my afternoon nap now. Sundown signals the start of screaming more tierdness. On top of that I seem to be getting upset that I am only just beginning to really bond on a deep leveland enjoy my little girl and that at almost 5 weeks I have not really enjoyef much and feel guilty and a sense of loss. Guess i'm just feeling a bit weird and unsettlef inside.

Gillyx

Evening all hope you all had a lovely day in the sunshine. Me and Aaron shared an ice cream, even though he can't have dairy, he had a few licks, he loved it.

Just finished day 3 of the 30 day shred, still hurt and still sweating... not good.

In the bath tonight A let out a MMMMMM-EHHH. Sounded so much like Mummy been trying to get him to say it all week, it's made my day he also pushed his walker and took a wee step today, bless him

Anyone going to be watching X Factor? xx

Gillyx

RebekahR wrote: »

Is this pnd? I seem to dread every night time when I wake from my afternoon nap now. Sundown signals the start of screaming more tierdness. On top of that I seem to be getting upset that I am only just beginning to really bond on a deep leveland enjoy my little girl and that at almost 5 weeks I have not really enjoyef much and feel guilty and a sense of loss. Guess i'm just feeling a bit weird and unsettlef inside.

Hi hun, if you are feeling really down please speak to someone about it. People speak about the joy of having a baby and how great it is, but no one ever tells the awful truth about the first few weeks, they truly are so so difficult. If you are feeding baby yourself have you tried cutting down on dairy products? Switching to soya etc for your tea/coffee/cereal, and watching what you eat cheese and chocolate wise. For a lot of babies there little tummies struggle to process dairy/lactose and it causes them horrible pain, so they scream.

My boy screamed constantly for the first 6 weeks, we tried breast milk, Aptamil, SMA, C&G and a few prescription milks, before we finally got referred to the pediatrician, I knew in my heart of hearts something wasn't right, and we found out he had a cows milk protein intolerance. Obviously that's rare but what I mean is, if you feel the screaming isn't right, go and see your GP and don't be fobbed off.

It's not strange or weird to feel the way you do, that rush of love that people describe, some get it, some don't. They are like little leeches at the beginning, you don't get much back and all they do is take take take.

It could be reflux or something that is making her unsettled and it can be worse at night. Have you tried propping the basket up slightly can make all the difference with reflux babies. Keeping her upright for 20/30 minutes after a feed. It may not be reflux but I know when A wouldn't lay on his back at all, it was a very common problem with reflux. Big hugs it does and will get better xxxxx

dizziblonde

Quite often people don't have that instant bond - people don't tend to talk about it much as it's kind of taboo. I didn't - I'll freely admit that - my mind didn't make the mental transition from bump > thing I was pointed to in an incubator and told "that one's yours" > thing I was handed and expected to do tube-feeds for... and at more than one point in the horrible hospital stay we had I viewed her as a tiny, perfect and beautiful, prison jailer for me and considered putting her into care to give me the freedom to walk away from that hospital ward (I feel terrible about this now). Hell the first night after she was born I really was utterly indifferent to the idea that was my child on the floor below me in an incubator - and it was only at about 5am, after lying there in a bubble of feeling utterly violated and abused at all that had been done to me, that I thought "I'd better start acting how they expect me to act and ask them to ring down and see how she's been through the night" - an act of pure going through the motions.

We moved from me feeling like that, to thinking that "Ok, you're really rather cute", to gradually feeling properly like this was MY little girl and that I adored her... none of which particularly went on in that delightful hospital ward!

Another friend's first reaction to motherhood wasn't some awesome bonding experience either - it was a "oh heck - where's the instruction manual for this then?"

But people don't dare talk about it - and when they do one of the professionally offended brigade invariably will seize the chance to score some "mummy points" and feign utter horror and regale you with how she bonded from the second sperm met egg and what a ghastly person you must be... which probably is why people DON'T talk about it!

The other thing I heard recently was that "there's a reason smiling is one of the first things they learn to do - or we'd go nuts and throttle 'em!"

Lirin

Rebekah-

If you are concerned, please do visit the GP or mention to your midwife.

An instant bond is very over-rated.... There's a lot of pressure on expectant mothers to love their child as soon as they see them for the first time. You might have carried the child for a few months, but you've never really met them.

Imagine walking into a room, and someone being pointed out to you on the other side. Do you love that stranger straight off? No- it takes time to grow. You have to meet them, and find out what they like and don't like....

The first few weeks can be so bloody hard too. You've no idea what you're doing, you're desperately hoping you are doing as much right as possible, and you just want someone to help you and tell you what you're doing is alright.

Plus, the little devils know just how to time you- they wait til you are at the point of exhaustion before giving you a little respite....

Dizzi's right, it's a huge taboo to say that you don't love your child. But how can you? You don't know anything about them.