MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

Lirin

Sunshine, that's grating to have to put up with- I've been there!

Lirin

Turtlemoose, that rings a little like stress/depression over it- have you tried telling your GP? It's hard thinking about how it will be like, and planning choices- I can understand why you feel you have had them stolen from you.

sunshine_1988

mozzyc wrote: »

Hubby's sisters and 2 nieces are coming to visit from Scotland next week. I'm so excited that Charlie gets to meet some family. Besides my brother and my mum (when she came over for a few weeks from South Africa after he was born), he hasn't met any other family. Then in September i've got my folks coming over for a few weeks, this time my dad is coming too!!! Yay!!!! I haven't seen my dad since Nov 2010!!!

ahh how lovely for little charlie and u of course x

turtlemoose

PS and don't even get me started of the BF'ing problems that we are still having, a lot of which I feel are directly attributed to our poor standard of care in the early days.

As for nappy contents as mentioned above, daddy just won't listen to me about being prepared, and has been weed on many times...lhilarious every time!!!! Although I have had a wee in my face :-/

janninew

turtlemoose wrote: »

*ro* tears in front of him is fine (although until the arrival of pregnancy/baby related hormones its very rare for me to cry!), just this particular topic we have talked about over and over, and he feels I am making it worse for myself by going over it and that it can't be changed etc - he's normally great to talk to on most things but about my birth experience, I just cant get him to understand that I WANT to not be upset about it, but that the upset is something I can't control, I'd rather be not bothered but can't help it :-/ I didn't get to hold my baby properly until day 3 - and he wasn't in intensive care or anything, it was sheer hospital incompetence coupled with complications from my section...l.but with proper hospital support I would and should have been able to hold him. I can never have those 2 days back and it not only upsets me but I'm furious that they effectively stole that time from me.

My OH sounds similar to yours and he thinks that I should be able to move on and forget! I have started to do that now and I tell myself that going over it in my head will never change anything. I try and concentrate on the here and now and be grateful for my Daughter.

I really don't want that to sound harsh as I really do understand how you feel. I couldn't hold my baby for 10 days and it was awful. That is how I cope and I don't think about it nearly as much anymore, I think it just takes time.

xx

turtlemoose

Lirin, haven't seen my GP yet but he's pretty useless tbh and if I blurted out how I feel about it then he'd probably just say "oh dear" and recommend I take it easy for a bit......he's a "new" doc and still has to refer to the other docs sometimes, saw him a few times throughout pregnancy but he's a bit....friendly but useless! Tbh I don't see a value in talking to the doc about it, and my health visitor is wishy washy to say the least!

sunshine_1988

Lirin wrote: »

Sunshine, that's grating to have to put up with- I've been there!

Thanks hun xx

turtlemoose

Janine, the trouble at the mo is (apart from deliberately talking about it on here right now), I don't talk about it, I don't think about it, but it creeps up on me and catches me unawares. The other day I was having a wee (lol sorry but true!) and just burst in to tears - no idea why but all the bad feelings just washed over me and took over - and I do try to ignore it (cuddles with Reuben help wonderfully!) but sometimes it just can't be ignored :-/

*Ro*

Turtlemoose - (((((hugs))))) its very hard for you it's very raw, I understand what your saying just wish I could make things better for you. If you can't talk to him because you go round in circles then might be an idea to speak to someone outside as suggested but it all all depends on what you feel is best for you. We are all listening to you though xx
Re the bf I have yet to find anyone of my friends who actually had any support in hospital properly at the beggining to bf I struggled, baby lost too much and all of my friends the same happened and we all ended up combo feeding because we had to. Sadly it seems to be very common. we are bottle though now as after a few months Scott wanted just bottle.

Edit - perhaps close friend/female relative might be better or see someone other than your normal gp

janninew

turtlemoose wrote: »

Janine, the trouble at the mo is (apart from deliberately talking about it on here right now), I don't talk about it, I don't think about it, but it creeps up on me and catches me unawares. The other day I was having a wee (lol sorry but true!) and just burst in to tears - no idea why but all the bad feelings just washed over me and took over - and I do try to ignore it (cuddles with Reuben help wonderfully!) but sometimes it just can't be ignored :-/

Ohh I know what you mean, I cried in Sainsbury's the other day when I picked a bag of sugar up and thought that Poppy wasn't that heavy at birth. It does get better with time though, I don't cry as much as I use to. Do go and chat to your GP though, my OH made me and it really helped.
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