MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

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((hugs)) turtlemoose and rant away if you wish. It took me and DH months to be able to talk about what happened to us and it was no where near as bad as your experience.

So nice to see pictures of all the babies!!!

My lo took his first steps all by himself on Sunday - very chuffed

*Ro*

Turtlemoose - this is definitely the place to rant if you need to. No judgements here I don't think that anyone can prepare you for what may or may not happen when you do give birth and depending on how stressful things are it does take time to get things out of your system and feel less upset about how things went. I really feel for you as the hospital let you down, I hope the formal complaint route gives you answers and prevents anyone else going through the same.
The most important thing is you have a wonderful baby and you grew them, you should feel proud of yourself. If you need to vent more about the birth then please do if it helps xx

Lirin

Hiya Turtlemoose (I feel like a fraud posting on here, I think it's been months!). Can't see the pics, but I'm sure he's gorgeous.

I know you've made a formal complaint, but have you considered counselling? I had a bad experience too, but mine was after the birth, and I'm in two minds- I've had surgery to fix it, do I wait and see, if the repair is okay, just to leave things, or do I make a formal complaint? Mine was nowhere on the scale of yours, hun, that sounds quite traumatic. I think trying not to think about it could be a bad move- but that's just my personal opinion, I mean no offense. Talking is a therapy, even if only to a bunch of internet strangers.

Smlsave- congrats on another first!

*Ro*

Newborn Thread Baby List

Janninew - Poppy - 24th November 2011 (3 months prem) :female:
Kira000 - Claudia - 13th Jan 2012 :female:
Crabapple - Naomi - 14th January 2012 :female:
*Ro* - Scott - 17th January 2011 :male:
Mozzyc - Charlie - 17th February 2012 :male:
Sunshine_1988 - Aiden - 11th March 2012 :male:
Dizziblonde - Erin 9th April 2012 :female: (7weeks prem)
Katiechoc - George - 5th May 2012 :male:
Nutella - Selma - 11th May 2012 :female:[/QUOTE]


Phew lol slipped myself back in not sure if anyone else is missing

*Ro*

Agree with Lirin it's good to talk about things event if us and also counselling may be an option if you feel you need it x

*Ro*

Lirin it's obligatory that you start posting again now your here !! X

turtlemoose

Thanks guys, I think maybe I will ...but not for a while as OH is now on his paternity leave so is home with us for the next 2 weeks, and while he's lovely, he just doesn't 'get it' about how I feel about the birth - I think it's a boy thing!! But anyway I am bound to be in tears typing about it, and that will only lead to him asking, and then end up with a frustrating conversation!

On a lighter note - strange that some of you can see the fb pics and some can't, they are defo set to "public" - anybody know why that is?

*Ro*

Crabapple - re the boobs made me laugh you saying hubby does not seem bothered he should be greatful he's getting a peek with this motherhood malarkey
Re weaning every relative and his dog tells me different things, yesterday it was my boy was not satisfied with milk so I was told to give food at 2 weeks :0 this was the 1980's :0 she still does not realise that this is wrong etc I have been told numerous times to give him a rusk now! , also that I am feeding him too much (he's on the 25th centile) he just drinks little and often etc drives me bonkers !! My mother keeps going on about when he can try a chip ofgs!!! Why not a carrot no a bloody chip !!!

Question - what do you have in terms of a checklist for the 8 month check as I don't have anything in my book think pages are missing maybe? Originally had a girl instead if boy book ! I only want to know what kind of things they will check am a bit ahead if myself though lol

Jannine - you asked about milestones Scott is 5 1/2 months ish and he is only rolling a bit and mostly by accident lol he does not get enough floor time because of Dylan. He can sort of sit but not always by ie without support. He tries to launch himself off his feeding pillow so I suppose you could say backwards crawling but that could be pushing it :rotfl: I have the view they will do things when they are ready.

mozzyc

Hello!!

Right First haha:

Kira - Yes, you should get one of those sigs as founding member haha!!!! Lovely photo's btw!!!!! She's so beautiful x

Turtlemoose - Hun, i felt the same way after my birth. Every time i thought of it or tried to think about it, I would just cry. Only lately have I come to terms with it in that I can think about it now without crying. As mentioned, I might even ask for my notes to better understand what went on incase there is a next time. I had no skin to skin either, he wasn't breathing correctly, and I was bleeding heavily. Plus, i was so dazed and confused afterwards. The whole thing was just so rushed, painful and traumatic.
But its great to chat to the ladies here, and to try understand/come to terms with it in your own time.
I was an emotional wreck for ages, that's the one thing no one ever told me about!!! But good to have you here!!!!
xx

janninew

turtlemoose wrote: »

Thanks kira

I'm wary of starting to rant as I may not be able to stop!! I had a terrible time during labour and my extended hospital stay, so much so that I made a formal complaint. But what's worst is I believe my c section was totally unnecessary, and a month on my boy and I are still facing the consequences of it, and I can't watch a video of a vaginal birth, or someone having immediate skin to skin, without dissolving in to tears, as both of those things were taken away from me by the !!!!!! staff/hospital. I don't even need to see one for it to upset me, I try not to think about it as nobody can change what happened, but sometimes it creeps up on me at the most ordinary if times, and it's by far the hardest thing im dealing with in my "new mum home alone" stage.

Hmm....turned in to a bit of a rant anyway, oops.....

Rant away - this is the place to do it!

I had a traumatic time with Poppy coming so early and being v poorly and then spending 13 weeks in the NICU. My Doctor arranged counselling, but it made me so much worse! I can't really bear to talk about the time, watch anything related to hospitals or prem babies etc. I'm sure I'm bottling up and I may have trouble in the future, but I'm coping in my own way and that's all I can do at the moment. I've been given tablets from my Doctor and they have really helped with my moods and depression.

Don't be scared to ask for help and welcome to the thread - everybody is super nice here!!