MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

Gillyx

*Ro* wrote: »

Thanks Gilly - still having a blub about it though, Scott predictably woke early as not enough naps yesterday so hungry early. Have still put boob in to see if he would suck and he did have taken it out as I know I shouldn't torture myself I know you had a bf nightmare so know I need to just get over it as its not the end if the world but am finding it very hard.

No Ro, don't be silly, it is really soul destroying giving it up. I still look back and think what if, what could I have done differently etc and just hope next time I can manage it, I still feel a bit of a failure about it but really there was nothing I could have done, he's on special formula now, so my milk would just have made him sick, unless I completely cut everything out of my diet You have done amazingly, should be proud of yourself, and sounds like you have a lazy little boy a bit like mine, we use size 3 teats just to get enough milk into him, as with size 1 and 2's he would only take an oz or 2 and then be tired! :eek:

Aimless

Always_Alone wrote: »

Morning ladies, i was dipping in to ask whether any of your bubbas were poorly after the 4 mth injections?

My lb had his friday lunchtime and was very clingy for the rest of the day. He was then sick twice before bed after a bottle. He fed fine during the night and yesterday morning but since yesterday lunchtime, i've been really struggling to get anything down him and he has been a lot sleepier than normal. He's alert and fine when awake and doesn't seem to have a temp but i'm at the end of my tether with the crying/screaming/fussing at feeds and lack of sleep (i'm worried about him being sick at night so have had virtually no sleep )

Has anyone else had an 'off-colour' bubba after jabs? How long did it last? I'm thinking to give him until later today and then maybe ringh NHS direct.

My OH's away at the mo so i am on my own. I feel so low with 3 nights of no sleep and i'm scared that i will end up losing my temper and shouting at bubs even though i know its not his fault Came very close last night and i'm feeling even worse this morning

We've only just done the first set of immunisations, rather late, so I'm not sure exactly what's in the ones you've had, but I know sickness and upset tummy were both listed as side effects to ours. I had to google the information leaflet for the vaccines because they couldn't provide one. We've not been too bad, a little fussy and his sleep pattern is all over the place. He slept till ten last night and was then bouncy and wide awake till two! Oh, the first day he kept falling asleep while feeding too.

I would say ring for advice, especially if there is any chance he's not taking enough fluid/vomiting lots up. Generally with babies they'd rather be safe than sorry, and won't think you're wasting their time.

Hope he's better soon.

Always_Alone

Thank you Aimless. He is due a feed now and has just given me a very dirty nappy so i will see how he gets on with this feed, he hasn't been sick since yesterday morning so what he's taking is staying down.

I just hate who i've become the last few days and don't know if my lb is getting even more hysterical at feeding times because he can sense i dread it too

I keep thinking that the frustration and shamefully the anger i'm feeling is something that will affect him when he grows up. To be honest it has been building for a few weeks for various reasons and i think the injections have just tipped me over the edge.

I don't want him at this early to be scared of me

Gillyx

Always_Alone It is very over-whelming having a baby to deal with 24/7 and it's only human that if baby is screaming lots and lots, you will get worked up. Is there anyone who can help out even for a few hours while your husband is away? I had a terrible time last Sunday as my little boy would not stop screaming and it was all through over tiredness, when I went to visit my mum I told her she'd have to take him as I was close to a break down, she took him out a long walk and my HV friend came to visit and got him down to sleep for me and after that I felt so much better.

If you do feel yourself getting worked up, the best thing to do is put baby somewhere safe, close the door and go sit down, have a brew or whatever take some deep breaths. It will make you feel better and less likely to take your stress out on the baby. It's all normal though so don't feel like a horrible person or bad parent. Big hugs xxxx

Always_Alone

Thank you Gilly, i did that last night when it got too much. Put him down in his cot and took some time out. I could hear him continue to cry though and when i went back in, he seemed to ramp it up as if he hated me

Feeds not going great now, he's taken 3ozs, normally takes nearer 5 but seems to just want to play and kick his feet about. He starts getting worked up as soon as i put the bottle anywhere near him although he is giving me the normal signs that he is still hungry and i've got his wind up.

I'm such a crap mom, you'd think 4 mths in my baby might actually like me Sitting here bawling my eyes out while he's making baby babbles

Unfortunatly, no-one near by to call on for help so will need to wait for my OH to get home tomorrow. It's gonna be a long 24 hours

Gillyx

Always_Alone wrote: »

Thank you Gilly, i did that last night when it got too much. Put him down in his cot and took some time out. I could hear him continue to cry though and when i went back in, he seemed to ramp it up as if he hated me

Feeds not going great now, he's taken 3ozs, normally takes nearer 5 but seems to just want to play and kick his feet about. He starts getting worked up as soon as i put the bottle anywhere near him although he is giving me the normal signs that he is still hungry and i've got his wind up.

I'm such a crap mom, you'd think 4 mths in my baby might actually like me Sitting here bawling my eyes out while he's making baby babbles

Unfortunatly, no-one near by to call on for help so will need to wait for my OH to get home tomorrow. It's gonna be a long 24 hours

You are not a crap mum, by any manner of means. The fact that you think that makes you a great mum. Babies are one big challenge, and we're not expected to know what they want all the time, they can't really understand us, and we sure as hell can't understand them. If you've done all the usual feed, changed bum, winded and he is still crying, you know you've done everything in your knowledge to help him. Could he be teething? That will sometimes put babies off milk as feeding hurts there little mouths.

Distraction is better than cure at that age, so if you can distract him anyway, bouncing him up and down on your knee, noisy toys etc.

Please please do not feel down and crap though, I know it's difficult and we all have bad days

There is a facebook group that is very busy, for MSE new mummys, I'm an admin so can pm you the link if you want to join? There is always someone around to talk, even at 3 in the morning. xxx

Always_Alone

Thank you again Gilly. He had a quick 20 min nap and then woke up and finished the rest of his bottle. Only an hour and half after he started. And then grinned while i called him grumpy.

Feeling a bit better knowing he's had a 'proper' feed now.

Would love to join the fb page but at the same time its quite nice being annoymous IFKWIM? People can't judge as easily when the don't know your real name/life...or maybe i'm just a bit cynical? x

Gillyx

Always_Alone wrote: »

Thank you again Gilly. He had a quick 20 min nap and then woke up and finished the rest of his bottle. Only an hour and half after he started. And then grinned while i called him grumpy.

Feeling a bit better knowing he's had a 'proper' feed now.

Would love to join the fb page but at the same time its quite nice being annoymous IFKWIM? People can't judge as easily when the don't know your real name/life...or maybe i'm just a bit cynical? x

Noone judges on the page, honestly! It's completely private so people on your friends list can't see what you're posting etc. It's up to you anyway, but it's there if you'd like to join just drop me a pm.

Glad he's taken a feed, my little boy is a terrible feeder, so I know how you feel xx

happydays77_2

Sounds like you are having a hard time Always.
Gilly is spot on. You are not a bad mummy at all, you are just overtired, stressed and missing your husband. All these things are making you feel like you can't cope but you can. We all go through it at some stage and all it means is that we are human. And the fact that it hurts you so much means you are a brilliant mummy.
The fb page is a godsend to me and in my time on there I have never had anyone judge me and neither have I judged anyone. It is just a place of support where ideas are thrown around and sometimes a suggestion or an idea works for you. It's also a great distraction sometimes when you feel rock bottom and can't see a way through the next ten minutes, let alone the hour. Please feel free to come and be part of it.
I hope your day improves and please don't be so harsh on yourself.
xxx

Icey77

Hi Gilly,

Could I join the FB page please, do I need to PM you?

Thanks
Icey xx