MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

mozzyc

Welcome ladies! Nice to have you join us! x

Ro, hope Scott is no longer a grumpy bum x

happydays77_2

Well I think I did too much yesterday cos I'm shattered today.
I had an awful delivery and it is something that still makes me very upset if I think about it. I am very anaemic at the moment and feel completely shattered but as I'm on my own, and have an 11 year old, I don't have a choice but to do these things.
I went for a walk yesterday, against people's wishes, and I now accept I shouldn't. I now agree my body is going to take a good while to repair itself and I'm just going to have to be patient and spend as much time just resting.
When I had my first at 23 I felt a lot fitter and stronger but it's definitely took it out of me this time.
Needing as many tips and tricks as possible to make my life easier. Just remembering to eat at the minute is an uphill battle.

toniq

Happy I had quite a traumatic end to my pregnancy and after baby was born I tried to do too much to quick, I learnt from the agony my c section scar was in to slow down. It must be hard being on your own, and yep being older certainly takes it toll,I'm 39........just, and really feel i'm not as nimble as I used to be!

Jessica had 12 week Hv check yesterday, she now weighs 13lbs 7oz, and is 62cm long, which puts her on 75th percentile! Bless her! she only drinks 4oz feeds 3hourly , so isn't on large amounts!

At 2pm Jessica has her 2nd set of injections, not sure if 1 or 2, it's awful weather here so dreading the effort involved in getting her into car without getting her wet.

Does anyone here give calpol before injections? or do peeps wait till after?

Ro we use the sleepcurve in Jessica's crib and have invested in one for her cot, It felt strange putting her head into the dip but she is totally fine with it, which is all that matters!!!
Right gonna try and do some comps before we go to dr's as Jessica only catnaps in the day so don't have long.

Ohhh happydays, when baby is asleep I make my sarnie for lunch and leave wrapped in clingfilm in fridge in case baby doesn't let me make one later, at least that way I know i'll have something to eat even if she is on my lap doing her "hold me or i'll scream for ever" thing! Luckily managed to get a chicken stew into slow cooker today so hubby will be pleased! xxx


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dizziblonde

*Ro* wrote: »

How are you all getting on to the new mummies?
Hope you are recovering well, it does take quite a while for the body to get back to normal and I hope you have some choccies to keep you going at night. Hubby still looks after LO until 10pm in the evening so I can go to bed early and am in charge if he wakes as hubby works. If you have any trouble with bf hope you ask for local support, we ended up combined feeding as LO lost a lot of weight the first week. Anyway good luck xx

I've had a bag of bitsa wispa sat by my bed for days now - can't muster the enthusiasm for chocolate at all.

Wish to god hubby could take some of the burden from me - but since we're still in hospital, and it's only set up for mothers to stay - I'm basically stuck doing it ALL.

Minor rant alert... I'm sick to death of saving the NHS a flaming fortune doing ALL the care for Erin myself - this whole transitional self-care thing is one collossal moneysaving exercise. We asked, and thought we'd arranged for MIL to come sit with Erin for a few hours tomorrow (she's coming back down from the Scottish Islands to help out again) - with the staff ducking in to do the feeds for her since she's still tube fed and it's horrible having to deal with that... and today they turn around and say they won't have the staffing to do something that takes the staff who are experienced at this about 10 minutes at most... so my imprisonment continues... just getting out for a couple of hours, being able to walk the dogs with hubby for half an hour and have a bath would have helped my mental health state no end - and it's something they've been promising they'd do... but now, nopes. So basically I AM just here as a prisoner and nursemaid.

I was so desperate to get that couple of hours as our relationship's under sickening strain over it all - and I think we need the time together as a couple really - plus I'm utterly utterly beyond breaking point with it... and I catch myself feeling slightly resentful of Erin, like "why can't you just figure out how to drink your bottles for however many hours they demand it" or starting to think about my broken baby and stuff... and she doesn't deserve her mum to be thinking those things - because I know in my heart of hearts that she IS a little miracle and an utter trooper - and it's just my stress losing my sense of perspective... and I just know what half an hour in the park with hubby and the dogs, and a bath or shower in a room where I'm not tripping over blood and sanitary towels shoved everywhere would do for my welbeing.

The sleep deprivation in contrast is a piece of cake, even the 3rd degree tear is a piece of cake and the wrecked back and posture is a doddle.

happydays77_2

Thanks toniq. That is a good idea and I'm gonna go and make myself a sandwich whilst he is asleep as yesterday I didn't eat until 3pm and I think that makes me feel more rubbish.

Dizzi - you really are having a rubbish time. I did read your post on the pregnancy thread but I can't remember every detail except for the general awful way you have been treated. You will get through it, even though it may not seem it now, and it's awful you are not getting the additional support you need from the staff. How is Erin doing? Do they give you any inclination when she will be strong enough to get home or is it too early for that kind of talk?

*Ro*

mozzyc wrote: »

Welcome ladies! Nice to have you join us! x

Ro, hope Scott is no longer a grumpy bum x

Hello Mozzy all I will say is it's a good job have 6 boxes of formula in the cupboard :eek: he's trying to drink the house dry!! Hope all is well with u and LO x

mozzyc

Happy and Dizzi, I don't have time just yet to reply, but massive hugs to you both. I know you'll keep hearing it, but it DOES get better, I promise. I spent the first few weeks constantly crying and in shock of everything including the birth, but since about week 4, I'm starting to cope better, with life and Charlie. I now love him more than anything in this world, but it took a few weeks to get there xx

*Ro*

Hello all

Meant to finish doing posts earlier but Scott grumpy.

Happydays - I did the overdoing it thing after thinking I was feeling better. Was in agony with the stitches and back. But you learn!!! Your body has to recover in its own time. You do need time to get over a difficult birth but things will not feel so fresh soon enough and LO will be your focus. It does help though to get things off you chest as us women do go through a lot and then get handed this little bundle to care for too. Will think about what things I do to make things easier and do a post as I am sure others will have good ways too.
Ro xx

*Ro*

Dizzi - so sorry you are feeling so fed up. Are there any individual rooms at your hospital? I was in a single room (had forceps, long labour etc) and the second night begged nurses for hubby to stay (they said discretion of night staff) as we were in single room they allowed it as a one off (plus they were short staffed so i was one less to worry about, they brought in a camp bed) Sorry if it really is not possible but thought I would mention it. I found the tiredness was what did me in and made things worse. If you feel as you do there must be more support available I hope you can get more help if you explain how you are feeling to the staff or get your husband to say something. Your lo is a little miracle and is worth all the carp. Is your husband able to help during the day enough? Hope that your mil is able to come and help a bit. I hope she makes it so you can at least get a proper shower.

*Ro*

Toniq- hope lo's injections went ok and she is not too grumpy. Have not given any calpol, just had it on standby in case.
Scott been ok on his mattress for Naps fingers crossed for tonite!