MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

camNolliesMUMMY

After having my first ds1 and him getting stains on his nice clothes n baby grows, I always use stardrops or bicarb n vinegar mixed into a paste to spot treat before washing works a dream, this time il save lots of clothes hehe.
I keep a bag of nappies in the bedroom/wipes/bags by my bed side drawers for changes in the night.
The dummy has been a god send n he's only 2 weeks but breast fed this has ensured my boobs aren't so sore n he gets a good feed rather than little feeds when I need him to feed as I have school run to do, and it's going well so far.
Ds1 is about to turn five and he's keen to help out and grab me things.

*Ro*

Aimless - too true about spending a lot of time in bedroom, sadly I could not feed in bed nor sit up to feed which made those early days stressful, my back is much better now can lay on my back for 5 mins lol. We did have people visit in my bedroom but I did not care and they were close family

Happy- it is obligatory for every mother to have a tip of a house, sign that the baby is the focus re the iron thing have you been tested? On supplements? I am now on a liquid supplement. It will get easier and agree that son could be a great help x

Cam - always wondered what you did with stardrops :rotfl:

camNolliesMUMMY

*Ro* wrote: »

Aimless - too true about spending a lot of time in bedroom, sadly I could not feed in bed nor sit up to feed which made those early days stressful, my back is much better now can lay on my back for 5 mins lol. We did have people visit in my bedroom but I did not care and they were close family

Happy- it is obligatory for every mother to have a tip of a house, sign that the baby is the focus re the iron thing have you been tested? On supplements? I am now on a liquid supplement. It will get easier and agree that son could be a great help x

Cam - always wondered what you did with stardrops :rotfl:

It's the best thing ever I use as an all round cleaner diluted in a spray bottle with lavender essential oils for an antibacterial cleaner and costs pennies lol and saves money but can be used for loads, even use a blob in my dishwasher when no tabs left or washing machine.:T
But great for stains.
You can buy a bottle from home bargains or around 80 p it lasts me 8 months lol

Crabapple

Loads of helpful tips there. Not sure I can add to that except to say that things do get better and more organised, and you get to a point where you can do the things initially you don't feel possible. For example getting out of the house to the shops with baby in tow!

Feeling low and frazzled today, so definitely can't be helpful to anyone else. I can't wait for DH to get home so I can let him have LO for a bit. His ruddy bike is still off the road though so I'm on week 3 or maybe 4 of picking him up which means being stuck in traffic with a usually grumpy baby next to me, no matter whether I've fed her first or not.

Last night I told him I wanted to stay off work to the end of my AML, and he pretty much panicked that I would have no money coming in for that time and couldn't help with bills. I know we need money but I have enough in my savings to cover the time, just not to help him out a lot with day-to-day expenses. I think we can do it, and normally he trusts me even if it takes me a while to convince him. I guess he will come around but I hate the idea of going back to work so much I want to know I don't have to. It's not just the idea of leaving LO, but that my current job has been such an awful environment for so long that I can't face it. If I could find something better in the meantime then that would be different I guess but I don't think he realises how much it will cost to do nursery etc anyway.

I love DH to bits, but he is rubbish with money and I'm feeling bitter about the last few months when I have been giving him a lot of extra money, and the money he's had before that and now I can't have two or three months off from my share of the bills?

Baby just seems to keep crying and complaining today and I want some time to myself really badly. Just tired and grumpy I guess, and sorry but needed to vent a little.

Hugs to dizzi and those others who need them.

*Ro*

Cam - now I know why you do the grocery challenge 80p :eek:

Crabapple - ((big hugs)) no fun with a grumpy baby in the car and job/money stress. Sorry you are feeling low. I have worked in jobs I've hated before so understand where you are coming from. Perhaps try and get down money outgoings on paper I hear that MSE has a good tool for that when you feel less tired. If its there in black and white that you can do it then more of a persuasive argument. Also keep nose to ground for something better job wise. I do think in some ways although we have the technology if someone wanted to be a SAHM it was easier to do in earlier generations. I did not settle in my previous job and knew we wanted to try properly so left job but we had MAJOR stress and discussions. Hubby is the sensible one with money and was petrified. But it is over a year later and we are ok, hubby still stresses (he is not on a big salary at all) and I have an unhealthy obsession with the grabbit board. This site is amazing for saving money, the tesco delivery I have just had was knocked down with a lot of ecoupons, cash back all courtesy of this site. Your not the first to feel like this and I know I would be going the same thing now if I was in the same position and I don't think a few months is too much to ask good luck working on him xx

happydays77_2

Ro - yes they tested my iron levels before I left the hospital and I was borderline for a transfusion but hey sent me home on tablets instead. They are playing havoc with my stomach and have had to be changed twice this last week. I'm sure it would have been easier just to have had the transfusion.

happydays77_2

Crabapple - sorry you are feeling rubbish today. Sounds like you have a lot going on at the moment and it always helps to vent to others. I can't give any advice about your OH as mine !!!!!!ed off before baby was born so that's one stress I don't have to deal with.
X

*Ro*

happydays77 wrote: »

Ro - yes they tested my iron levels before I left the hospital and I was borderline for a transfusion but hey sent me home on tablets instead. They are playing havoc with my stomach and have had to be changed twice this last week. I'm sure it would have been easier just to have had the transfusion.

Sympathies with the iron tablets (a particular hate of mine ! But some are fine on them) I have this time round had 1 type different from those in the past which I did not take and now onto prescribed iron syrup as could not tolerate tabs. Dr said not as strong dose the liquid but so far side effects not as bad yet but I reserve judgement as she said it will have same effects. Dried fruit, peanuts orange juice are being eaten a bit more to help.

happydays77_2

Did your iron levels go really low Ro?

dizziblonde

Latest update from the maternity ward from hell... she took overnight an entire bottle of breast milk (I'm expressing in the hope of restarting bf when she gets older and better at feeding - basically attempting to keep my options open a bit) twice. Then we dropped back a bit but we're still taking 3/4 on most feeds... doc's on about removing her feeding tube tomorrow and sending us home on Sunday which is A Blooming Terrifying thought - they didn't DO how to handle ones in XXSmall in ante-natal classes... do I take her out and about like normal, or do I hide away until she's big enough to be equivalent of a term baby? No idea on that one at all! Started trying to transition her onto the bottles we have at home as well - just to make sure we don't get home and have to hunt down some obscure brand immediately with a starving baby to hand.

Didn't get out and about today - they've had NO transitional care worker on and been a staff member down all day so no one to help MIL with feeds so we could escape for a few hours - on top of which we've had some midwife from like the 1950s who's spent all day yanking curtains back on everyone who didn't have baps out whenever she went past, and the world's loudest receptionist, coupled with the world's loudest midwife - so there's been naff all patient confidentiality at all when everything's yelled full blast from the nurses' station... hope to god the night shift are nicer when they come on (the utter angels were on last night - including one who's had a baby in transitional care herself so knows how hellish it is - but I know they're off tonight).

As for making life easy - I've got mirrored stocks of changing stuff up and downstairs anyway - including changing mats and the like... just seemed to make sense to set it up that way. I THINK I was very organised when I last was home - got a few bits to site in-situ and set up (like moving the moses basket into our room, bringing the pram downstairs and the like) but god knows what mess I'm going back to after so long of relying on people to bring things in for me.