MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

tazzyb

morocha wrote: »

my baby does the same thing !


what is that toy that mimics the sound of the womb called ? been reading about tapes and soothing babies apparently the earlier you start the better.. i want to get one.

Ewan the sheep, it is supposed to be ace. You just reminded me about it off to have a look online for it. After I stop laughing as LO just got DH with wee and poo during nappy change

Candlewax

It's really dawned on me today how hard being a mummy is. Feeling quite isolated. I have had lots of visitors and been out a few times since my little man was born nearly 4 weeks ago but know I need to get out more. I haven't met any other new mums yet. Every time I say I am going to a local mum and baby group I don't go because I am tired or little one has a bad morning and I don't manage to get us ready on time. I also feel nervous about going for the first time and think I am putting it off. So have spent another day on my own with baby in the house. Hubby doesn't know what,s hit him when he comes in from work I just want to talk loads because I am craving adult conversation! I love my baby and went through a lot to finally have him but now feel like I am wishing time away for when he is a bit older and this gets easier! That is awful isn't it?

fluffnutter

Candlewax wrote: »

It's really dawned on me today how hard being a mummy is. Feeling quite isolated. I have had lots of visitors and been out a few times since my little man was born nearly 4 weeks ago but know I need to get out more. I haven't met any other new mums yet. Every time I say I am going to a local mum and baby group I don't go because I am tired or little one has a bad morning and I don't manage to get us ready on time. I also feel nervous about going for the first time and think I am putting it off. So have spent another day on my own with baby in the house. Hubby doesn't know what,s hit him when he comes in from work I just want to talk loads because I am craving adult conversation! I love my baby and went through a lot to finally have him but now feel like I am wishing time away for when he is a bit older and this gets easier! That is awful isn't it?

No, it's not awful. It's normal. I'd say the first six weeks are horrendous. But, bit by bit, things will start to improve. When I was pregnant my friend warned me that at first it would be 95% hard work and 5% joy but gradually the percentages would reverse. She was right.

Of course you love your baby. But between you and me, newborns are pointless. This stage won't last for ever, honestly. You'll soon turn a corner, have more energy, be in a better routine and feel more confident about getting out and about. Even if you don't make it to a baby group, try to leave the house each day, if only for a quick walk. It really helps.

Don't feel too worried about joining new groups. You won't be alone in feeling nervous. I've found structured ones that are led by someone far better than 'coffee mornings'. The latter just seems to be a load of women sat around and if you don't know anyone and you're not great at small talk (I'm rubbish at it) you tend to sit there in silence. The groups that are centred around an activity, e.g. baby massage, that are led by someone who's going to introduce everyone to each other and ask you a bit about yourself and your baby are far better, IME.

morocha

cw, im sorry you are feeling like that, to be honest i am in the same situation, but at least you manage to get out. I mean some days are a bit of an achivement to get dress and not be in pyjamas all day.
Give it time, you will start to feel less tired soon. My baby is 3 wks tomorrow and although this is my second baby i still feel all over the place, having a baby is such a big change in your life.

katiechoc_2

Cw I second everything fluff said, especially the pointless bit :rotfl: I mean, newborns are cute but all they do is eat, cry and (hopefully!) sleep. Not even a smile in thanks for all your hard work at the beginning! But once you do get the first smiles the world honestly brightens in a flash and from then on it just gets better. Still hardwork but on a different level.

Re groups I've found the sure start centres really good as there's usually a member of staff that will sit with you and get you involved if you're new. Also (and I wheel this one out every time this subject comes up ) try netmums.co.uk, they have a local meet a mum section where you can put up and reply to online messages from other new mums in your area. I've had a few successes on there but I know it does vary depending on where you are in the country.

morocha

Does anybody's newborn is really aware of everything and pulls faces, moves the hands constantly ? my baby does that and she is so tiny it can look scarry cos she tries to control her head but of course she cant.. oh asked me if i thought there was an issue with her ( bil;s son is severely autistic) hv said shes very awake and can not cotrol her arms yet, that is normal.

fluffnutter

morocha wrote: »

Does anybody's newborn is really aware of everything and pulls faces, moves the hands constantly ? my baby does that and she is so tiny it can look scarry cos she tries to control her head but of course she cant.. oh asked me if i thought there was an issue with her ( bil;s son is severely autistic) hv said shes very awake and can not cotrol her arms yet, that is normal.

Freddie was just like this. He's always been very alert and active. All four of his little limbs would be constantly moving, he'd slap himself repeatedly in the face and was forever twitching, gurning and jerking away. I'd be more likely to worry a baby was autistic if he or she was unaware of stuff, not the other way round!

This is your second, isn't it? Perhaps you're a bit freaked because she's not like your first? They're all different, and you haven't slept properly for weeks. Your mind's running away with you

dizziblonde

katiechoc wrote: »

Cw I second everything fluff said, especially the pointless bit :rotfl: I mean, newborns are cute but all they do is eat, cry and (hopefully!) sleep. Not even a smile in thanks for all your hard work at the beginning! But once you do get the first smiles the world honestly brightens in a flash and from then on it just gets better. Still hardwork but on a different level.

Re groups I've found the sure start centres really good as there's usually a member of staff that will sit with you and get you involved if you're new. Also (and I wheel this one out every time this subject comes up ) try netmums.co.uk, they have a local meet a mum section where you can put up and reply to online messages from other new mums in your area. I've had a few successes on there but I know it does vary depending on where you are in the country.

Also ask your health visitor - ours can book you in on stuff like baby massage (if she remembers she's said she'll do this - which she's flipping terrible for not doing) to get to meet people.

Our sure start's really good (until the county muck around with them all) - the staff also pop along to the baby weighing clinics so you can talk to them there and then at least know faces if you go along. I've found the coffee-morning type groups to be much more cliquey as they were full of childminders all ignoring their kids and drinking coffee - but the trade-off is they sell cups of coffee and slices of toast which is kind of acceptable.

I used to go to nursery rhyme time at the local library - that was OK (in as OK as sitting singing twinkle twinkle with a bunch of 30 year olds is ever going to be) but the library's closed for a total refit now so that one's going out of the window for a good few months. Tends to be the more you get out and about the more people you get to know - even if it's just in a "oh I keep seeing you and the baby around in town"

We quite often (well when I can flipping walk and drive) just decamp to either the local health centre cafe or Costa for a cup of coffee and cake to get out of the house as well - although last time I was in Costa the entire NCT group descended and, well, I've concluded the collective noun for about 30 Bugaboos is definitely a swarm of Bees. The coffee shop thing is easier now she'll sit in a highchair and loves being at a table with me (trying to nick cake usually) - but before that she'd love sitting by the window of the health centre watching the cars go by outside in her buggy.

And yes the newborn bit IS rather wearing and unrewarding... I remember it well, especially with a prem baby so you're stuck in that limbo so much longer than others seem to be - it went on for flipping MONTHS with us! - I remember reading somewhere that there's a reason smiling's one of the first things they do... it's so you don't want to kill 'em!

martafdz

Mine used to move a lot morocha, but she also did that in the womb. People used to say you feel less kicks in the last month, but she used to hurt me with her elbows and knees!

I started having showers and getting dress in the morning at week 7! Before that, I would wait for DH to arrive and lok after her whilst I had a shower. I now found a better wait: I take her bouncer to the bathroom with me after the first feed of the day and put music whilst I have my shower and talk to her. That way, she's got a full stomach, I change her nappies before a feed, so she's clean, and she's not tired because she has just woken up for the day, so she manages ten to fifteen minutes sat in there looking at me whilst I dance and talk to her at the same time I have the shower. I even managed to wash my hair!!! Lol I did not manage to dry it on the same attempt, lol. I this works wonders for both of us, it makes me feel better if I'm clean and dressed, plus the music cheers me up in the morning and amuses her. Win win.

We have her jabs on Tuesday, I'm dreading them!
Aventurine , what routine have you got? do you put her on the floor often? Mine only kicks her legs, moves her arms and also moves her head right to left all time. Other than that, no real physical milestones yet. What have you done? How long does she spend on the floor each day?

morocha

fluff, oh thought also there might be a sensory/motor issue, he really gets worried about everything then i get worried. DD1 was the opposite in evry aspect even pregnancy.
Marta, J moved a lot constantly even at the end, i mean i was getting bh and thrn she will kick me almost at the same time, i had a small bump.
i have a shower every other day when oh comes from work. i feel human again even if i am in pyjamas but i am quite proud only spent the 1 week in pyjamas this time.