MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

turtlemoose

dizziblonde wrote: »

I always loved the look of utter indignation when they smacked themselves on the head and were so cross trying to figure out who'd just done that.

Hahaha :rotfl:

And you get a re-run of this when they first learn how to shake rattle-type toys. Whack off their own face, then look at you all accusing, as if it's your fault :rotfl:

tazzyb

CW total with you on how hard it is when baby comes along. So much changes and you be one responsible for this tiny person. I am finding it difficult to adjust, especially spending so much time in the house. I am a total workaholic. I am used to working 7 days a week. I have my own business and a job.
I need to pluck up the courage to go to some groups. Fancy baby massage, has anyone done it?

sunshine_1988

Hello Ladies :wave::wave:

I am rubbish at posting atm, so sorry.

Hugs to those who are struggling, it really will get better I promise. I definately second whoever said about getting outside, I used to aim to get out the house, walking, at least once a day. Even if I just walked round the block a couple of times, it really calmed my LO down and it gave me some headspace too. I also found him being in the car helped, so sometimes we would drive into town, and then walk around for half an hour, maybe have a quick coffee or snack and head back, it definately helped to break up my day of the crying etc.

Aiden used to flap his legs and arms about too, always kicking his socks off and doing a little excited dance

All this talk of tiny babies makes me think about how big he has gotten now I love how much he changes everyday, but I miss little Aiden!!

We had him weighed at the Drs last Friday for a cough check up, and he is 21lb 5, he has lost a little bit and is on the 75th centile now, but he is constantly moving around. He has stood on his own afew times too which is exciting!

Katie, how did you get on at the docs btw?

Nutella, how is your sleeping going? I am trying so hard to not have him in our bed...not going great though!! He falls asleep perfectly on his own, he rolls about for 5, possibly 10 minutes - no tears or noise, and he is gone. But at 12:00 or 2:00 he will not settle on his own, he won't even lie down in the cot with one of us sat there. I perservered the other night for over an hour to get him back down in the cot, but an hour and a half later he woke up again with the same performance so I gave in as it was 4:30 and I had to get up for work at 6.

Hope everyone had nice Valentines Days?! We just ordered a pizza for tea, stupidly I thought I would order 'Vegitartian Volcano' just thinking it would be a nice vegetable pizza. It was spicy as hell :mad: my tongue was on fire!! Not good lol.

xxxx

Gillyx

When my baby was born I actually thought !!!!!! have I done? But like Fluff says the percentage of crap time gradually reduces and the good times increase. One day you wake up and don't dread the day and then eventually you wake up and look forward to it :j

Hugs though it's hard x

tazzyb

Gillyx wrote: »

When my baby was born I actually thought !!!!!! have I done? But like Fluff says the percentage of crap time gradually reduces and the good times increase. One day you wake up and don't dread the day and then eventually you wake up and look forward to it :j

Hugs though it's hard x

Gully you have no idea how much better your post has made me feel. That thought has gone through my head more then once. Tore myself up for even thinking it.

I am in for a sleepless night. LO usually has a big feed this time if night but decided to only feed for a minute or so and go back to sleep. Going to change his nappy and see if that wakes him up. If not off to bed for as long as he allows me.

moneypenny21

Glad it's not just my baby that beats herself up! Though she has started smac king herself less, the fingers are always in her face and scratching her eyes out and taking off her mittens to do this! Savage - I know what your an about stretching, of we have to wake her she does a five minute stretch and grunt routine it's very sweet!

Tazzy - I felt a bit housebound at first because of feed lengths & crap weather but now I try to go out each day, sometimes for a walk or I'd the weather is crap I drive & go for a mooch around the supermarket

moneypenny21

The erratic routine of newborns in the first two weeks were awful we'd be lucky to get out of the house by 4pm! It does get better, I'm not sure how it does but it does!

missbunbury

Hi everyone, just to add I felt exactly as awful as everyone is saying for the first six weeks about 90% of the time. Gradually I am finding myself enjoying more and more as she gets more interesting. Still have hard times though, last night was dreadful, I've got a bad shoulder from somewhere and A decided she wasn't sleepy and wanted bouncing all night, which hurt my shoulder more, I ended up in tears by 4.30am. But today has been good, OH took the day off bless him and cleared out and rearranged our bedroom and put pretty new bedding on love him. He also got me a heart shaped biscuit, he's very lovely. Then he sat watching the cycling with the baby explaining all the technical lycra gubbins to her while she listened intently with her wise-little-owl face!

Gillyx

tazzyb wrote: »

Gully you have no idea how much better your post has made me feel. That thought has gone through my head more then once. Tore myself up for even thinking it.

I am in for a sleepless night. LO usually has a big feed this time if night but decided to only feed for a minute or so and go back to sleep. Going to change his nappy and see if that wakes him up. If not off to bed for as long as he allows me.

I felt incredibly guilty in the beginning, and used to shy away and say how in love I was with my baby because I thought it was expected of me and people would think less of me because of how I felt.

But you can't help it, they are like leeches draining every last ounce of energy and sanity from you. Especially in the newborn days. I used to put the pillow over my head and cry at night, while my OH tried to settle our little one back to sleep. I truly hated it, hated myself, hated being a mother. I don't do well at failing and I felt like a big fat frumpy failure.

Do whatever you need to do to feel human again, if you need a pee/a drink of water/5 minutes peace, put them down, yes they will probably cry but you will be back in a flash and all is forgotten and you will have regained a small bit of sanity.

Getting out every day is a fab suggestion and one I still use now, we both get bored and frustrated stuck in, it rained constantly for about a week there and I was going mental by the end of it as I needed out, and so did baby.

It does get easier, and I feel like such a fraud saying that, because when people used to say it to me, I honestly wanted to drop kick them in the face, as I didn't want it to get easier in the future I wanted it to get easier NOW.

It does gradually get better though, it's you getting into a better routine, baby sleeping for longer (hopefully!) and being slightly more predictable (although when they do start to get like that they start teething or get the cold and it all goes boobs up again! ) I remember the first time I left the house myself with baby, I think I offered him 3 feeds in 3 hours as I was petrified he'd get hungry and start yelling his head off.

Now a year on I'm still stressed out my head, there are only so many times a day you can say "no don't eat the yogurt pot from the bin' 'please don't take your dungarees off' and 'yes it's attached it's not going to come away so stop yanking at it!'

But for the most part I am very happy, but I do remember the early days very well please do not be too hard on yourself it does and will fall into place.

martafdz

How sweet missbunbury!
I told my DH that this Valentine's day we should put a £10 limit, otherwise I end up spending.a.fortune!!! I like giving presents, I feel excitement in finding the "right" present and await for the reaction. But this year I managed to almost stick to it, only went a fiver over! Although to be fair, the achievement was partially thanks to lack of stock in an online shop lol. I bought chocolates and a mug for DH, he bought me roses and got the dinner too. I initially had bought two mugs because I could not decide between them... Indecision indecision... A couple of days later I got a refund one due to lack of stock, so it was decided for me which one to give!! I saw so many I would llike for myself whilst browsing though!

I would go outmore but when I get a bit of time for myself I like watching tv series I'm recording, I like sci-fi and fantasy a lot and I just chain one episode to another when I can. She's brilliant now in the last few weeks I started to understand her cries and more importantly her routine. She needs to eat every two to three hours she might stay awake afterwards but not for more than an hour and a half, if she does not have at least a catnap at that time, she would cry until she falls asleep. She never cries because of a wet nappy, only dirty ones but you can tell because of the stinky smell!!! Her cry for boredom is like a kitten "meow" or half a second cry very cute. Her cry for cuddles is similar but it builds up slowly. Now I think she might cry a total of 60min adding up the whole day, she moans and grunts here and there, but nothing close to the cryin she used to do. Such an improvement since the weeks when she would not stop for hours and hours!!!

Let us know how you do with the carrier. I'm so happy with it! She's a completely different baby since I have it! When you want to rest from walking around, just sit down slowly and recline back, your lo will continue to sleep in that position, which you might want to use to get a nap too since s/he cannot fall from the carrier. I only do it when I'm sat upright, not laying down, I worry I would turn and crush her if I'm laying down.

Missbunbury, have you got a gym ball from pregnancy? I sit on it and bounce, instead of walking around and bouncing my lo with my arms as it gets so tiring. With the ball you work your thighs, legs or abs but not your arms or shoulders. You can find them for around five or seven pounds if you haven't got one.

Our first week was awful. Without exaggeration, we spent five days straight living exclusively in the living room, we never saw the bed. I was stuck to the reclining chair trying to breastfeed constantly and my DH was laying on the sofa having short naps and bringing me food and water. I think I had like two to three hours sleep every 24h, and never in a single go. Things improved afterwards but for a few weeks we had only about three hours of happy or sleepy baby in the day to ten of crying and red faced high pitch! I think things started to improve at the end of the sixth week, and kept improving since.

Fluff I'm checking that link now, I bought the last recommended book here (baby week by week) and it is brilliant.