MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

moneypenny21

Bamama - the first time our baba was sick good-style she freaked herself and us out. I'll never forget her poor little eyes looking so helpless and panicking!

Turtle - Glad you got to the bottom of it, boo for iron tablets though They are the worst! I am just off three a day (:eek:), down to 2 at the moment and hoping tomorrows blood test will render me normal so I can go down to zero per day! So fed up of them!

Gilly - Happy birthday to Aaron :T

Sunshine - So glad your little one is out of hospital x


Jonno - Sorry about work. My littlies a similar age and they have already been nudging me to come back 2 months early due to a potential change in contract. Problem is I can't really refuse - I have literally just been looking at Ewans! SIX HOURS! WOW! Do you think that was down to Ewan? Does it just help her get to sleep or does it help her stay asleep for longer? We've managed to get little miss down to sleep without too many problems the last week or two (famous last words), as long as she has a full belly she is happy to thrash about quietly in her basket for a bit before going to sleep (I'm usually flat out by then so no idea how long it takes her). If she cries it wakes me up and I know she is still hungry. She is only managing 3 hours between feeds at night, occasionally 4 hours (once 5 hours but it was a fluke!) Do you think Ewan would be a good purchase or is it just to help them fall asleep? Well done for the BF, sorry to hear you had pain It is horrible. I still have some pain but hopefully the doctor might help me tomorrow.

Nutella - Well done for going back to work. I can't even think about how awful thats going to be yet

Ooh if the list is going Little Miss Moneypenny born 19/12/12.

BF going much better in terms of positioning, had to feed under the cover a few times in a few awkward situations with a few awkward people so feeling much more confident that we'd manage it out and about :T Still some pain from this milk blister but hope to get it sorted tomorrow at the doctors (here's hoping anyway). Still would like to crack the expressing & giving her a bottle just in case I do go out one night. Going to try the Avent and MAM bottles again as we have had success and failures with them both and if not I'm going to try the Medela Calma.

That's all from me! Hope all are well

Elelyn

Hi all, I've not managed to post on here for ages but have been trying to pop on to have a read each day. Reading about Nutella going back to work has prompted me to think about getting in touch with my work to sort out my return. I want to drop from full time to 3 days a week. I don't think it will be a problem but the trouble is, I can't say which days I want to do yet. We are hoping to get Theo into the nursery at DH's work but they can't confirm whether they have a space for him until Easter and then it maybe that they can only offer certain days so we have to wait and see. I am officially due back in work at the end of May but want to stretch it out until the beginning of July by using some accrued leave.

Theo has been doing amazingly well. Last week he rolled from back to front for the first time and he can't stop doing it now! The trouble is he can't quite make it back the other way, although he has done it a couple of times by accident, so I am constantly turning him back over when he complains - only for him to immediately roll over and complain again! Bless him. I'm fed up of all the sick though. He has always been a very sicky baby and all this time on his tummy is resulting in piles of sick all over the place. Not nice. Roll on weaning - I'm hoping that will make a difference.

Feeding times have gone a bit strange though. When he has his bottle he is constantly straining, as if pooing, and making all sorts of grunting and groaning noises. He'll also turn away from the bottle but if I take it away he cries and wants it back. This goes on until he's finished the bottle, it's very strange. Feeds are a very noisy affair nowadays.

We went to our first baby music class last week and he absolutely loved it. I've never seen him engage with anything so much so I'm going to sign up for the course. Me and his Daddy both play instruments so I'm hoping he's going to follow in our footsteps :-)

Bamama

Moneypenny, he was fine other than a little dribble down his cheek. I was covered! Chest, back, hair... bedding!

We went in the shower immediately. He enjoyed it didn't even flinch when it got his face.

Re: bottles.
When I asked about going from bf to an occasional bottle... My HV told me to try the cheap poundland ones (she described them as the long teat type). Might be worth trying before splashing out on expensive ones.

missbunbury

Hi everyone! Big well dones to all the brave ones - getting out of hospitallers, starting nursery and back to workers, controlled cryers, stalwart blistered feeders, everyone has their own challenges and it sounds like you're all fab!

Someone asked about jabs - A had hers last week, she was better than I'd have thought, screamed blue murder but for less than a minute, they're like goldfish at this age, no proper memory bless 'em.

I'll go on the list if someone's updating, can't do it easily from my tablet -baby Alice born 24th November 2012.

Have been looking at swimming lessons, Water Babies v. slick but don't want to pay for full year in case either of us hate it, so going to go with a local lot Baby Splash who do 6 weeks for £42.

Kira000

martafdz wrote: »

The time for her first jabs is approaching, how was the experience for you? The c&g email I received today said that she might be unsettled and feverish for a couple of days.

I recommend making sure she has a very good feed before you go for the jabs, even if it isnt quite the normal time for her. CJ refused to take any feed for the rest of the day when she had her first ones, and that is fairly common apparently- so if it is a while since her feed before the jabs, it could be a good long while before she has a feed if she refuses.

PurpleFairy26

moneypenny21 wrote: »

Jonno - Sorry about work. My littlies a similar age and they have already been nudging me to come back 2 months early due to a potential change in contract. Problem is I can't really refuse - I have literally just been looking at Ewans! SIX HOURS! WOW! Do you think that was down to Ewan? Does it just help her get to sleep or does it help her stay asleep for longer? We've managed to get little miss down to sleep without too many problems the last week or two (famous last words), as long as she has a full belly she is happy to thrash about quietly in her basket for a bit before going to sleep (I'm usually flat out by then so no idea how long it takes her). If she cries it wakes me up and I know she is still hungry. She is only managing 3 hours between feeds at night, occasionally 4 hours (once 5 hours but it was a fluke!) Do you think Ewan would be a good purchase or is it just to help them fall asleep? Well done for the BF, sorry to hear you had pain It is horrible. I still have some pain but hopefully the doctor might help me tomorrow.

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I think Ewan really helps her both settle and I did put it on once during the 6 hours when she stirred and she went back off. It's timed for 20 minutes and she is awake when I put her in and switch it on but like you I'm long gone so before the 20 minutes is up, not sure how long she stays awake for.

Boo to work for you too, it's so hard when theyre only a few weeks to make these decisions. Mines a good job to go back to though so I don't really want to overlook that.

I hope the doctors sorts you out tomorrow. It took me a couple of visits to get sorted. I'm off again to breastfeeding cafe tomorrow but taking my older daughter too as there were some other older ones there last week and plenty of toys for her. Good positioning makes such a difference and whilst I still have to take her off sometimes, it's no where near as many times as before. It's amazing how much the whole think knocked my confidence. First time round I was feeding DD out and about when she was a week old

Will keep you posted about the job. Let me know about yours and Ewan

fluffnutter

turtlemoose wrote: »

Just popping on to see how your first day back was nutella, but sunshine beat me to it

Some of you may remember me posting about not feeling well, well I had a blood test and the results are in...I'm anemic so back on the iron tablets also something came back wrong with my liver function, unfortunately it was the receptionist telling me the info so all she could tell me was that it was "high" but not actually tell me what was high!!!! She read the dictor's notes out which said it could be caused by something viral but I have to have another set of tests in 6 weeks time specifically to look at the liver. Not particularly helpful or informative!!!!!!!

No, not particularly helpful at all. Rest assured though, turtle, if they were concerned they'd have you straight in for further tests. The fact that they're just going to re-test in 6 weeks should help to put your mind at rest.

*Nutella*

Elelyn wrote: »

Reading about Nutella going back to work has prompted me to think about getting in touch with my work to sort out my return. I want to drop from full time to 3 days a week. I don't think it will be a problem but the trouble is, I can't say which days I want to do yet. We are hoping to get Theo into the nursery at DH's work but they can't confirm whether they have a space for him until Easter and then it maybe that they can only offer certain days so we have to wait and see. I am officially due back in work at the end of May but want to stretch it out until the beginning of July by using some accrued leave.

I had a similar issue, and I think it's fairly common. What I did was submit a flexible working request, outlining the hours I'd like to work and a justification for it (I presume every workplace has a similar procedure) and then just said something like 'the exact days of the week will be agreed at a later date following confirmation of availability from my daughter's nursery'. They were fine with that, and agreed to my request. This was confirmed in an e-mail, and then once I knew which days I could be in the office, the actual amendment to contract letter was issued for me to sign and return to them. Perhaps your employers would let you do something similar to give you a bit of reassurance at this stage?

Edited to add: yay for rolling over! He'll soon figure out how to roll back again, and then there'll be no stopping him

turtlemoose

Agh major dilemma. MIL has done an about face ref childcare and offered to have him twice a week 8-2. She previously vehemently said "dont even bother asking me" and i was happy with that!!! OH of course says "great thanks mum we'll do that". Neither of them have thought this through and it is fraught with problems.

1) 8 is no good. I couldn't get to work on time, it needs to be half 7, maybe 7:45 at a push (but I'd be cutting it fine!)
2) the nurseries I've spoken to so far don't have places like that - because it would be so difficult for them to fill the random time slot.
3) she couldn't have him on any school holidays, so I would have to hope the nursery would take the extra or hope i could always book those times off work???
4) I need childcare to be fixed and reliable, but I know if she gets a hospital appointment obviously she is going to want to go, but she often only has a few days' notice so I would have to scramble to find cover (my work require holiday to be booked minimum one week in advance - ok so I may get lucky but I also may get a jobsworth who says no)
5) she will do what she wants to do, not what I want to do. Remember the refusal to sterilise saga? So if I say "no crisps because they're too salty" - well she thinks the salt thing is a load of crap as "they gave them salt in her day and hers are all fine". So she'll just go ahead and give him whatever.
6) she's getting on a bit, she's 73 ( I think), and not long had a pacemaker fitted. I don't think she's in any fit state to be running around after a toddler for more than say, an hour.
7) she's gone really deaf but doesn't realise it. What if something happens and he cries out from the other room? She won't hear him.
8) the relationship between us (as in MIL and me) is strained at the best of times, I can see that something small could easily cause extra tension.
9) what if she's ill? Nursery are unlikely to take him on an emergency basis, and money is going to be so tight I can't afford random days off unpaid here and there. Yes I know he's going to get ill at some point but I've accounted for that, I can't account for whatever days she's not going to be up for it.
10) she struggles to pick him up/hold him now, and he's 7.5 months old and he's not heavy - he's on the 25th centile (sometimes below) for his weight. He is she going to cope when he's bigger and wrigglier?


Am I being crazy and unreasonable? It just seems like a logistical nightmare to me, and that we are better off sticking ith a nursery where it goes "I pay you XXX amount, therefor you do as I say" and they agree and I agree and it doesn't deviate from that. Help!!

fluffnutter

Stick to the paid childcare, turtle. You know your MIL's not up to it. So as not to ruffle feathers, your reasons to her (and your OH) need to be carefully put. You could even tell a little white lie. Personally I'd be saying 'the nurseries need a commitment from us that he comes *this* amount of time, plus I won't be able to find alternative cover during the hols for him'.

Thank her profusely for her generous offer, assure her that she'll get to spend lots of time with him at the weekends or whenever but conclude ruefully that it's going to have to be full time childcare.

Make it look like you've given it lots of thought and serious consideration so that she doesn't feel she's been easily dismissed and relax, safe in the knowledge that, despite it costing you more money, Reuben will be looked after by someone who can both pick him up and hear him