MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

Sammie_03

Ahh that's good then.
I haven't had to do the school run yet as DP has taken the boys and picked them up the last couple of days for me. I will be back on it tomorrow though! :cool: my DP is going snowboarding on Thursday until Tuesday so I will be a shivering wreck by the weekend!

Any luck with your house yet?
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sunshine_1988

Oohh hope your OH has fun!! I would be the same lol.

We have a viewing on Thursday....not holding out much hope as most people who view say its too small for them. Saw a lovely house I want though, but its about 40K too much for us we may go for a cheeky viewing though lol x

Sammie_03

I said to my DP not long ago that we should find someone to have the kids and go on a 'house viewing day' we aren't looking to move but I think it would be so much fun to nose around other people's homes!

Fingers crossed for Thursday.
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sunshine_1988

Sammie_03 wrote: »

I said to my DP not long ago that we should find someone to have the kids and go on a 'house viewing day' we aren't looking to move but I think it would be so much fun to nose around other people's homes!

Fingers crossed for Thursday.
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We havent viewed any yet, so I reeaallly want to go and see this one!

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savageHK

Bamama, I found for the first two weeks at least any cry from my baby was for food, not for anything else (we're lucky in that he isn't a windy baby and doesn't complain about wet/dirty nappies). Offer a boob at the first sign of moaning and in the early days I don't think you can go wrong, your supply is still being sorted out between you. He's also far too small to cry it out, he is telling you something is wrong (even if it's just that the world is a big scary place please hold me!) and you need to respond. Later on he'll have more of an attitude - at just over 3 weeks here my munchkin is clearly starting with 'experimental' cries - a sort of 'I'm Bored' or similar (it just *sounds* different - you'll know later on when it arrives). Go with your instincts, you're his mother (without belittling fathers, but mothers do seem to know best). We tried bottle feeding for the first time yesterday as we want to get baby used to the bottle before too long as I'll need to be away from him for almost a whole day in about a month, it was a disaster even with the Calma teat. Got most of the bottle into him to be fair but he was most unhappy. He needed boob afterwards to calm him down!

moneypenny21

Savage - we have tried a few expressed bottles, she seems to be contemplating something (probably 'this is easier!') but after 4oz in about five mins she had another 40 min feed too. Not sure if the bottle went down too quickly and she hadn't registered that she wasn't hungry any more? She screamed for more so i gave it to her. she didn't puke but she did an almight poonami in the morning! Not sure how much expressed milk they should have? Midwife just said give her as much as she screams for! Helpful! Haven't tried a bottle since but read in the bby book they hold have one every three days to get used to it if you plan on doing both.



Bamama - I agree with savage that they are too little to be left to cry so young, even now at almost three weeks I respond though like savage I'm starting to recognise different cries, we have squeals if the boobie doesn't get to her quick enough so I know she is starving etc.
I have been in bed two hours attempting to get some sleep before nighttime starts - baby is fast asleep but I can't relax! So annoying I am now frustrated at the wasted time I could have spent having some me time, instead I've been counting sodding sheep and failing! Given up now as she is due a feed soon so might as well stay awake!

Bamama

I wish that I could do that but when OH is around he doesn't seem to like it. He has stepped up to the plate much more today... and have tried to say thank you to everything I've realised he's done.

Secretly hoping Dewi won't like bottles when we do try. I like having the time with him yes... I know I've been moaning but I don't mean it.

Bamama

I've already noticed some more painful cries which breaks my heart. They're usually during a bum change from daddy.. he takes a while to start and takes longer to do it think Dewi gets frustrated.

Gillyx

I honestly don't think you can ruin or spoil a newborn with love or attention. They are just adjusting to their new world and surroundings. I think in all honesty they're too young to understand the if I cry for a while I'll just be quiet. There is a time for it though, as I've done Controlled Crying, but I remember when A was a newborn, because of his reflux we used to take 3 hour stints at night sitting up sleeping with him on our chests, as he just couldn't lay down without being in complete discomfort. I remember when it would come to the end of my 3 hours, I wanted to poke my own eyes out I was so tired, but my OH would be waking me up for him to get some shut eye.

Over time they do get a lot more content, for such a rocky start, A is so independent now and is happy to play on his own and babbles away to himself quite happily. It does get easier. Good news on your OH xxx

Bamama

I think a lot of my insecurities have come from how I was brought up and how my step-sisters are raising their children. I'm proud of my parents for the way they raised me. I was a very polite child and rarely got shouted at and was never grounded (well until I was 16 and decided to rebel as my parents divorced when I was 13). I always thought that my children would be brought up the same way. But I wasn't breast fed and my parents are sort of trying to tell me not to pick him up/cuddle him/feed him at every whimper. But that's what it feels like I should be doing.