MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

twigpig

turtlemoose wrote: »

Twigpig I too am in the process of dropping night feeds, last night was night one for me. I went for any waking before 10pm, no milk. Any waking after 10pm, milk, but for strictly 5 minutes then back in cot. He protested quite a lot the first time (about 11:45), but the second time (around 4am) he settled in the cot in under 10 mins. Tonight will be 5 min feed max again, then the next two days will be 3 mins, then no more milk after that. Eek!

Ooo, a buddy :j
I'm pretty much when he goes to bed at 7.30am, no milk til I wake him at 7am (before dropping him at nursery I give him his morning milk). How old is your LO? Mine is almost 1 now, and it's only in the last 2 weeks after being ill he won't let it go again. I will make you sleep all night again little man........:)

savageHK

martafdz wrote: »

Oh and I still haven't got the red book!!! They keep saying they are waiting to get more delivered, but it's been ages now. Is there anywhere I could go or contact and ask for it? Midwife said the hospital should have given it yo me subsequent midwives said "next midwife will have it", last midwife said "HV will have it" and HV said "we never have them, mw should give it to you". Everybody has put me in a list apparently but nobody has contacted me yet with regard to this. Is this normal?? What kind of info is in the red book? Am I missing something really important?

My 10 day midwife posted me one (she would have given me one but she'd already run out by the time she got to me). It's probably worth phoning the midwives again. I've not had a health visitor contact yet though (3weeks,3days) and am trying to chase that up at the moment... GP says phone hospital, who say to phone GP.

turtlemoose

Twig pig, Reuben is 7 months (and 4 days!). 730-7 is what I'm aiming for too

Fluffnutter I am reading a book called Gentle Sleep Solutions by Angela Grace. Kira recommended it to me, and it is marvellous.

It is broken down in to sections, so for example there is a full introduction, but also a 1 minute, 5 minute or 10 minute version - depending on how much time you have. The author clearly knows what she is doing!

Anyway there's lots in there about understanding how babies sleep etc and there are case studies. The methods used are flexible, and altered to individual circumstances.

There's a case study in there, a baby called Leo (funnily enough, Reuben was nearly a Leo!) who is 7 mo, fed to sleep, goes to bed in the cot but by morning is in mum and dads bed. Spot on to my situation! The process of going to sleep, of disassociating sleep and booby, the whole thing is blooming great. At no point am I leaving him to cry alone, but I am letting him cry without picking him up.

Anyway, I was sort of doing half the method for about a week, then got the book and read it properly, so we are now 2 days in to doing it properly and the difference is amazing. What's even more amazing, is that by extension his napping is getting better. I actually couldn't tell you the last time he napped on my boob....sometime last week? I can highly recommend it.

Also the book is split in to sections - so by age, by type of sleep problem, by type of feeding, by night feeding or not night feeding or wanting to stop night feeding etc. I got it from the library but its prob fairly cheap on the usual websites.

moneypenny21

Thanks Nutella for the info about Sainsbury's. Of course we have a cupboard full of Huggies which I bought with the HUggies vouchers (and didnt cost me much to be fair) but they leak so we have had to stick to Pampers which we have none of and don't seem to be as cheap as Huggies anywhere so this is helpful

Love the post about dadadadadada. I said to my little one today "does mummy love you? she does doesn't she!" and she smiled. I'm positive it wasn't wind :rotfl: she wouldn't do it again though so perhaps it wasn't a smile after all! ;):rotfl: (I know 3 week old babies don't really smile in response it just made me happy!)

We still haven't got the hang of day and night. Frustratingly today little one had a five hour sleep in the day - the longest she has gone, I had to wake her up to feed her and she was all dozy so ended up stripping her which woke her up (was starting to worry after that long sleep) - of course the maximum she sleeps at night is 2-3 hours max. then wants feeding. Its not the feeding that is frustrating me in the night, its the faffing afterwards, the winding makes her come to life again and then she wants more feeding then she falls asleep in any number of positions in my arms, on my chest. The second she goes in that moses basket, she is wide awake and thrashing about for more food. :eek: and so the whole rigmarole starts again (of course nappy changes in between which make her wide awake!) so 2 hours after we started the feed, mummy grabs an hours sleep before it all starts again! :eek: For the last two hours I resort to putting her in her bouncer for two hours as she settles straight away - which she seems to love. If only they could sleep in them all night! I wonder if the moses basket is too cold for her after being close to me after a feed? But surely the bouncer would be too? I don't know! If only babies could talk and tell you what was wrong! :rotfl:


Hope everyone is doing well

missbunbury

Bamama, I second what others have said about being specific. Also, try to have a chat with him about it, but not when you're tired or annoyed.

Bamama

He wants to start putting Dewi on a bottle once or twice a day. I told him I wouldn't be bottle feeding him myself as what's the point? I'm wary of bottle feeding too soon. I really don't know what to do for the best.

I thought he'd be more on board with helping do other things while I was feeding.

Dewi doesn't wanna be put down during this cluster feeding atm. Should I be picking him up everytime or trying to leave him cry it out?

Gillyx

It really depends Hun, some babies can switch between bottle and breast completely fine, others get lazy and find the breast too much like hardwork when they go back to it. If you don't want to do it though, dont as it's hard to reverse.

I wouldn't leave him to cry it out, I think he's too little, any skin to skin even if he's not feeding will help boost your supply.

missbunbury

Personally I feed whenever she wants, I can't bear to leave her crying. Do you ask your OH to do specific things? What reaction do you get?

turtlemoose

Bamama here is a link to kellymom, a great breastfeeding site, this page is about cluster feeding and fussy evenings.

http://kellymom.com/parenting/parenting-faq/fussy-evening/

I feel your pain, I really do. I read online about women gushing about how helpful their husbands were and they had a shower and blah blah and I was thinking "f£.k me I haven't had a p!ss for 12 hours and can't remember the last time I ate or drank, let alone took a shower" while OH berated me for the washing up not being done because I was "home all day". It took a lot of cross words for us to get past that. And really, I think if I had another baby...well I'm not sure he would be any different because he thinks he was right and I was just being lazy.

I now know, really about the first 8-10 weeks, forget everything else, just focus on baby and as much as you can, yourself (because you are looking after bubba and you need to be strong enough for that). The house can be a !!!! tip, the laundry can be overflowing out the windows, your armpit hair can reach your knees. Whatever, none of it matters while you get the hang of that baby! Then suddenly it gets better, easier, and you can get stuff done and it's not as crazy and hectic and hard. (although it's not easy!).

This is TEMPORARY. OH needs to step up and support you, and you need to tell him (although in a more diplomatic way than that).

If you don't want to give bottles, don't. I was bullied in to 100ml of formula once (by a paediatrician of all people!) and I regret giving in. But if you want to - then fine it's your choice, just make sure it IS your choice.

Bamama

I haven't done skin to skin since we've been home really. I don't like to leave him cry but OH thinks I should sometimes. He also can't see the point that Dewi might go off the boob... dunno what to do for the best.

Best for me and Dewi would be on demand... but then how do you tell that he's asking more attention?

Best for OH and to stop arguments would be to give him a bottle and leave him cry longer.