MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

fluffnutter

I met my HV before Freddie was born and received my red book then. As far as I know they're the HV's responsibility, not the midwife's. Midwives discharge you after 2 weeks (a month at most) whereas the red book lasts until the child goes to school. I think your HV is talking nonsense, marta. Do you have a contact number for your health visitor support team?

twigpig

alamaya wrote: »

............. Also was admitted to hospital at 1 and a half weeks as lost 10% body weight. Now all the bleed issues aside hes never been a good feeder. We have been through every bottle. We found hospital teats work best but they wont let us have any and the ones i have are now clouding. He takes 50-70ml per feed 8 times a day.

My little man lost 11% after 2 days, so I know how hard it is just trying to wake them/feed them. We used a syringe a couple of times (not the needle ones obviously, but baby ones to load with milk, a bit like the ones that come with calpol bottles). The hospital gave us some of these a few times when we struggled to get him feeding. They were really supportive in trying anything as he desperately needed to gain some weight.

One of the hospital midwifes also gave us an enormous amount of confidence in saying to ourselves and the little man "right, you ARE going to drink this [STRIKE]might[/STRIKE] *milk". She said to be firm and none of this messing around. Show him who's boss. It was good advice

*typo

fluffnutter

twigpig wrote: »

One of the hospital midwifes also gave us an enormous amount of confidence in saying to ourselves and the little man "right, you ARE going to drink this might". She said to be firm and none of this messing around. Show him who's boss. It was good advice

So true. When Freddie was in hospital he wouldn't feed well, to the point that he had a top-up of formula because I was so worried about him. The midwife fed him for me from a tiny cup. She said it was easier for her to show me and do it the first time because mothers were often too worried about hurting/upsetting their babies and as a consequence weren't very firm about getting it in their tums.

martafdz

Arff... I've been awake since 5am. She hasn't cried but has been feeding tiny amounts, then waking up after an hour. Whoever said formula babies sleep lots hasn't seen this one. She's getting chubbier though, I think she's finally doing well with regard to weight, specially considering she had lost 14% by day 5. Today is day 25 and I think she's gaining enough to catch up with the weight she should have had normally by now... and a bit more!

I'm going to try to go through the day without the sleep and go out, we haven't been out yet and she'll be 4 weeks soon!! We are going to Boots to buy the comfort milk, gripe water and some multivitamins for DH. I now have lots of plan Bs to try! Tomorrow I'll have the Dr Brown bottles which apparently get air out of the teat and are like the Dyson's of bottles, plus the comfort milk, plus the infacol, plus the gripe water, plus the variable flow teats for the current avent bottles if she doesn't like the Dr Brown!!! I want the Victoria slinglady's wrap but the one I want has sold out and I've contacted her through FB and the website and she hasn't replied any I wanted to know if I should wait for the "smith" ones to become available again,.or order the normal stretchy one, but no reply, so I do not know what to do!! Is she still doing them? I want to know how long it would take to receive it, to see if I should look somewhere else, but it's been 3 days now and no reply yet Maybe she's on holiday?

Gillyx

Marta has your wee one been checked for tongue/lip tie? Just a thought, as it could be why she wasn't efficient at breastfeeding and I know with both of those it can mean theyre letting in more air with bottle feeding.

My little boy has lip tie and we tried TT bottles, AVent and Dr Brown before finally settling on Mam as they were the only type he'd take a good amount from and helped with wind.

And I wish formula babies slept more :rotfl: think its a myth

dizziblonde

This red book shortage is getting stupid - they were out completely of the boy books (just different charts in the back and a different picture on the front) when my girl was born - back in April! Ours are given out by the hospital - not the health visitors who just bring leaflets... lots of leaflets... most of which the hospital have already given you.

To be honest the only pages 99% of people use in it are the vaccination record and the weighing in sheets and charts at the back.

Suppose I should bite the bullet and go to the supreme horror of baby weighing today - down at the health centre anyway at the docs so it's only a case of going down a bit earlier and hoping the really snarky clique aren't there (who glare at anyone else daring to go down and are really intimidating - might keep them off my back about the 9 month check for a bit if I show my face.

As for the trapped wind thing - we had a similar situation with Erin - not only was she officially an utter nightmare to wind, defeating every staff member on the post natal ward who tried - even the ones experienced with preemies, but a lot of the time the wind would come down and out rather than up - god that child could trump! For winding we found a couple of slightly different things that worked with her being so tiny - sitting her on her bum and rocking her gently forward and backwards and side to side and around with her bottom as the pivot point (think of those weeble toys to get the idea) had some success, as did standing her up and then sitting her down on your lap... or wearing her in a sling and walking around usually got the bulk of it out - it just improved over time. Infacol worked for us - it works by making all the small bubbles into a big bubble (which you still need to get out of course) - in just producing 2-3 big orange scented burps instead of like a million little ones, but doesn't work for everyone - a friend's having success with colief at the moment with her baby. As for the stuck trumps - massaging her tummy in circular motions (I think it was clockwise but I forget - if you goggle colic massage you'll find it) helped getting some of it unstuck in one very very unladylike fart - which no one ever believed came from the baby.... she's still a somewhat flatulent creature now, only now she's delightful and lifts her legs up to let them rip in your face!

martafdz

No she hasn't, I asked about it when the breastfeeding issues but I got told she didn't because she latched.correctly according to the hospital notes, so they didn't check!

DH thinks something is wrong with her and insists on going to baby clinic tomorrow to check about her mucousy noises, the straining and trumping, plus crying whilst feeding. I kind of think it's normal and we just have to figure out what works for her, but there's no harm in going and checking.

delain

My twins were parpy when small... They sounded like grown men!

Squeak, now 2, delights in doing it and loudly saying 'i've got a stinky bum!' the clearer her speech gets the more embarrassing it is :rotfl:

Best thing I've found with mine was just sitting upright and cuddling them against me so they were upright but supported my me, IYSWIM.

twigpig

fluffnutter wrote: »

NB. I had a c-section and was happily driving a week later once the OH went back to work. Didn't think anything of it TBH.

Wow, I couldn't even lie flat on the bed to sleep overnight for almost 2 weeks. I think realistically, I was ok to drive from about 4 weeks, but hubby took 6 weeks off work anyway so he just took us wherever we needed to go...... Just a note if anyone does drive earlier than the recommended 6 weeks, you have to ok it with your insurance company or you could have some trouble if you end up with a claim

twigpig

Gillyx wrote: »

Infacol made things a lot worse for my wee one, forced the wind down and gave him a real sore tummy.

Have you tried the comfort milk yet? X

My pharmacist friend explained that infacol helps bring all the little bubbles of wind together to help the baby pass the wind, where as Colief (although it's faffy to prepare in the milk) actually breaks down the wind, so it's more technologically advanced.

Colief was too much faff though so we stuck with Infacol