MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

Gillyx

While Kira reminds me, one midwife recommended to me, get a sock, fill with rice, tie the end, heat in the microwave and then put on babies tummy while there tummy is next to yours, helped with bottom wind a lot here obviously just make sure it's not too warm x

martafdz

I'll try those tips next feed and microwave tomorrow when DH is awake, the switch for it is right on top of the cupboards and far from reach for me.I don't have it connected usually because it makes a funny noise even when it's off and you actually can tell if it's connected because you "feel" it when you pass by, which is probably not right, but I do not use it often enough to justify the cost of a new one, being integrated and all that.
I did not know that infacol could give them "bottom wind", I think that's one if the main things why she's uncomfy.

Kira, I'm planning to, the HV said I should buy the variable flow teats if I want to use the comfort milk, I ordered them on Amazon and I'm getting them on Tuesday. I really need "something" to work!! She is just getting more unsettled the older she gets, instead of the other way round, it makes you feel you are not doing things right!!

moneypenny21

Marta- we don't have the wind issue so badly but definitely have unsettled problem! We had a few 6 hour stints in week 1-2 where she fed cried wriggled burped pooed got changed then started the whole cycle again before finally tiring herself out. It just stopped !for such long periods but she still is hard work to settle after a feed. Hence why I'm awake now. Fed at 3.30-4.00. Changed her twice and tried to settle her since. Ended up giving up and putting her back on to feed yet she is still looking at me with wide eyes. Her best way of settling is to lie her on her front on my chest she really settles down falls asleep and then goes in her basket easier. Very hard not to fall asleep with her on me though. Hope you find something that works. None of my methods are working tonight! We are on round two of feeding so I'm sure more changing wriggling & pooing before she goes back to sleep!!

martafdz

I resorted to change the nappy before a feed because otherwise she would always wake up, and I think my lo still don't understand she can fall asleep without having to have a teat inside her mouth! She would ask again for a feed if I change the nappy after a bottle, then get so full that she ends up throwing up or with stomach pains. Having her on my chest works but only if I walk endlessly around the living room. The best so far is having her tummy against my leg / tummy and rub her back walking around as in a sling position (straight against my chest, with head below my shoulder level) and for DH bouncing on his knee. All those techniques settle her eventually, but not necessarily put her to sleep, so she might just tire herself out or go through that wide awake until next feed.
Last night she started crying but the tummy position calmed her quickly. However, since midnight she's been waking up every 60-90 min asking for a feed! I don't want to try to wake her up and get her to finish the bottle when she starts to nod off in the middle if it, because I rather be awake this often than putting any strain on her stomach and having her cry all through the early morning!!! She can go 4-5 hours with the intermittent crying, and I live in a flat! I just fed her 1.5oz, which is the minimum she would normally have, and this time she started screaming when I tried to wind her! so she's back to sleep now. I guess she'll be awake in another hour or two, she hasn't eaten that much. DH wants to take her to the baby clinic at the GP this Tuesday, and see if we are dealing with normal wind, colic or what.

I can't believe she'll be a month next week!

I keep having like sharp pains in my legs, as if it were the blood circulation, but I have no visible varicose veins and no blood clots that could be forming, as those also have swelling of area, increase temperature around it and other stuff. It's just as if something was pinching a vein inside or a small area if skin, always below my knees and above the ankles. Anyone else felt this? Is the extra liquid retention? Is it the veins? Am I getting "still invisible" varicose veins? :-/ I got lots of stretch marks, I could do without the varicose veins as well. At least all my marks but a tiny few (where I didn't put my cream often enough or at all) are white / faded, but still!!

Oh and I still haven't got the red book!!! They keep saying they are waiting to get more delivered, but it's been ages now. Is there anywhere I could go or contact and ask for it? Midwife said the hospital should have given it yo me subsequent midwives said "next midwife will have it", last midwife said "HV will have it" and HV said "we never have them, mw should give it to you". Everybody has put me in a list apparently but nobody has contacted me yet with regard to this. Is this normal?? What kind of info is in the red book? Am I missing something really important?

delain

Hard to explain marta. It's where all your baby's medical info is kept... I cant see how they haven't given you one! I was always given one before any of mine were even born and the hospital used it from birth onwards. Try ringing your gp surgery and explain you're being passed around!

I've been feeling blimming awful the plan was to walk to school this morning (I made all the lunches last night, got up way before 7) but i still feel poo so I've let the kids sleep in a bit and had a sneaky cuppa

*Nutella*

Marta, the main purpose of the red book is to log and track anything to do with your child's health from birth until the age of 5. At my doctor's surgery they won't see your LO unless you bring the red book. Things like weight, height, vaccinations, records of HV visits etc. all goes in the red book. There are also pages for you to track milestones if you so wish, things like first teeth, when they first rolled over, smiled etc. You do need to get one, but you're not missing anything vitally important right now, but make sure you get one before your LO's first vaccinations as they'll need to be recorded (although if you still don't have one I presume your doctor's surgery will have a digital record and can update the book next time you're there). For weight, same thing - my HVs refuse to do weigh-ins without the red book, but this might vary from area to area.

I don't know where to get one I'm afraid, we got ours before being discharged from hospital. Could you try your local NHS PALS maybe? Shocking that you still don't have one!

katiechoc_2

We got our red book before we were discharged from hospital too, I'd call the maternity ward as I think its something they should deal with really- the hv fill it in but round our way at least they don't supply them.

George is officially crawling now, forwards and backwards! He only really started going forwards last night as I was running his bath but he must have worn himself out with it as he's still fast asleep! I've had a shower and hair wash and not woken him (and our bathroom is right next to his room) this hasn't ever happened before, I feel lost without him at this time of day .

mlbarrett

martafdz wrote: »

Thanks for the suggestions regarding apps, I'll have a look now. Also thanks to whoever recommended the book from Amazon about baby week by week, I've just.ordered it.

We're having a few difficult days here. She has a couple of peaceful feeds a day, but many of the others end up in screaming, difficulty to burp and passing wind with "straining face". She can be unsettled for hours, yesterday from 9pm to almost 3am, when she'd feed in between but would have no sleep or five minute naps, with periods of staring at the room around and sudden cries. I do not know what to do! We've been two days now on infacol, I changed to number 2 teats (avent) and she ate much more and seemed to be more relaxed during the feed (4oz), but by the end of it she wasn't sleepy but couldn't take any more and looked in pain. I bought some Dr Brown bottles (starter kit) and variable flow teats for avent, just to try as well and see if she gets less wind with any of those. I can soothe her a bit sometimes but sitting her between my legs facing one of them and bending her over it so her stomach touches my leg, and I can rub her back. But it does not always work and I'd like to avoid having to even get to that point! Any tips / personal experience?

That sounds so like here. Joel has been awake for most of the last couple of nights, feeding every 1.5-2 hours then staring at the wall/photo on wall/shadows, finally settling about 3-4am but then awake again by about 6. He fidgets so much, a mission to get him to latch without messing about. He takes ages to wind and often has hiccups which stop him from sleeping.

Problem is that he's not really napping during the day. Guess he's overtired but he doesn't give in. Tried putting in basket with white noise, cat seat, rocking/bouncy chair.

So frustrating

Edit. The little monkey is now asleep on my tummy. Taking him to do some hand/footprints on pottery at 11. Was hoping to doze for a while but I'll feel awful when I wake up, if I did.

mlbarrett

We had our red book before we were discharged too. Mw and hv have filled in bits, plus gp filled in a page at Joel's 24 hour checks. Filled in the wrong page though (what a wally).
The book also has Joel's NHS number so I can register him for our doctor surgery.

fluffnutter

JT100 wrote: »

I can't believe you were driving so soon after your c-section Fluffnutter. After my last one, it seemed to be forever before I could walk, let alone drive ... here's hoping that the surgery has progressed in 7 years and the pain is not so awful for me this time.

I think I was in such a haze of shock and sleep deprivation I didn't realise how bad I felt