MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

Bamama

I managed it last night savage. It's annoying me that he falls asleep midway through a feed. Gotta give him this thrush stuff when he's finished but he usually wants more.

Any advice? Yes I'm annoying.

savageHK

Have the same problem with falling asleep mid-feed here - tickle under chin, tweak ear, tickle cheek (this might make him turn his head, which isn't what you want), jiggle baby a bit, rock a bit so the nipple moves in his mouth - if he really falls asleep take him off and change him or something for a total change of scenery

Bamama

Thanks Gilly. So much to do around here. Should have gotten more prepared. Haven't eaten yet ><

janninew

Hi Ladies and hello Twigpig! I saw your name on another thread recently and wondered if you'd pop by to say hello! Please don't start the KFC chatting again! I remember on the less than 12 weeks thread, all I wanted to do was vomit when you were talking about the burgers!! LOL!!

Banama glad you are home and hope things get settled for you. It does take a while for things to fall into place, but they do and you'll get into a routine and be absolutely fine! When my little girl was finally discharged after many months I remember feeling so daunted the first night at home, was scary to think there were no Doctors or Nurses around, but we managed!

Off for my training next Friday to become a Star Buddy, I have to shadow another lady in the NICU and sort out my CRB check then I'm good to go. Really dreading the first time back in the NICU, hearing all the sounds and seeing the tiny prem babies again.

Off shopping to Asda shortly, need to get my weeks food shop, trying to be healthy again now Christmas has gone, its going to be hard though as the house is full of sweets/Xmas treats still!

Take care.
xx

Bamama

Heads in the shed. Someone come look after me? Lol!

dizziblonde

Bamama wrote: »

Heads in the shed. Someone come look after me? Lol!

You know what to do - just have the confidence to do it all without having to sign nine million bits of NHS approved paperwork verifying the contents of every single nappy

Trust me - we all have the "oh heck where's the instruction manual" moment - especially if you've been in for a longer stay when lots of it seems to dent your confidence that you're doing the right thing anyway.

Am now livid - I get to spend tomorrow checking out my whooping cough immunity (and praying that little miss's jabs have worked) because someone wanted to make sure they got their Christmas presents over everything else this holiday and decided to spread a little festive germ warfare. The level of concern my own parents show toward my unborn child in not actually bothering to let me know it's developed into whooping cough and that I might need to contact my midwife is heartwarming and just brings home just how little valued I actually AM in my family.

Bamama

Glad you've calmed down since your rant in the pregnancy thread dizzi. Sorry to read about it all. You have it hard enough already don't forget that we love you x

Do they have manuals? I'm so wary of doing something wrong. I want a bath later but am afraid to take him in. He needs a wash as he's only had one bath and is all flakey.

Is it ok to take him in? When's the best time to bath? What if he decides he wants to feed? Gah ><

dizziblonde

Oh I haven't calmed down - just finally let rip at my mother for the fact they don't actually give a stuff about the fact we're exposed to it all. Well as much of a letting rip as I can do when I can't type very fast on a touch screen phone!

Bamama

Lol. Well you sounded a little calmer.

dizziblonde

I know where I stand with regard my family for once and for all now at least - my wishes and needs will always come behind anyone else, including the cousin, random asylum seekers, random waifs and strays and whatever - and any time I try to express how lousy this has made me feel since it started to happen in my mid teens I'll be painted selfish, neurotic and irrational (despite the fact the midwife's sufficiently concerned to get me in for a blood test to check immunity first thing tomorrow).

I'd kidded myself that I might have started to matter since the baby was born - she might... I'm just the incubator that was the failure of the family since I couldn't reproduce for years and years.

They even had a birthday party for my mum, using a photo of her holding my little girl printed on the cake - and didn't bother to invite me... not only didn't invite me but lied to everyone (I only found out about it from my younger brother who'd been told the lie) that I'd said I couldn't come. That's the sort of family I'm from. I even got wrong for being upset the relative in question had taken my dog's name for her baby - and daring to point out that it made me feel in an incredibly arkward position and under pressure to change the dog's name... that was me being selfish as well.

Got a huge text laying out all my failings as a daughter (these are about an annual occurrence - the whole birth trauma thing is dismissed as me being neurotic and usually accompanied with a dramatic wail of "WHAT DID I DO TO YOU TO MAKE YOU THIS WAY WHERE DID I GO WRONG" angling for reassurance it wasn't her - when it was) and what a vile person I was for simply mentioning "guess I need to go check out the exposure thing with the midwife."

I'm just sick of it - yet can't extricate myself from it - this has gone on for years - it's just another example of my loathesomeness to add to the book... along with my ingratitude for being born (has actually been thrown at me several times) and my request for her not to open my mail when I was away at uni (caused a brown smelly storm for about a decade that one).