MSE Newborn to 1 year Baby Club 1

*Nutella*

sunshine_1988 wrote: »

Hi all

Back from santa. Aiden was not too keen lol. He liked the reindeer though.

Nutella, is her room done? Post a pic! X

I'm with Aiden - I think raindeer are much cooler than Santa! I used to be terrified of him, I still remember being traumatised when he visited my nursery - and all I got was a satsuma!

Her room is almost done - will post a pic when it's ready. Just need a few finishing touches like a rug and some fairy lights

sunshine_1988

*Nutella* wrote: »

I'm with Aiden - I think raindeer are much cooler than Santa! I used to be terrified of him, I still remember being traumatised when he visited my nursery - and all I got was a satsuma!

Her room is almost done - will post a pic when it's ready. Just need a few finishing touches like a rug and some fairy lights

Lol! Aiden got a toy dog, guess what her name is??? Glenda. Seriously. Its on the label. x

*Nutella*

sunshine_1988 wrote: »

Lol! Aiden got a toy dog, guess what her name is??? Glenda. Seriously. Its on the label. x

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Speaking of labels, when LO was born our neighbours gave us a pack of 3 small soft toys. The labels were huge and almost swamped the poor little animals, so I cut them off. As it happens, the label is now LO's favourite part of any toy - never mind textures, colours and all that - she goes straight for the label, and it can keep her occupied for quite a while as she studies it in intense concentration. I'm now feeling very guilty about cutting off those labels...

Sammie_03

*Nutella* wrote: »

Don't make him come with you - just go and spend his money whilst he's at work earning more

:rotfl:

sunshine_1988 wrote: »

Hi all

Back from santa. Aiden was not too keen lol. He liked the reindeer though.

Nutella, is her room done? Post a pic! X

Reindeer are cool. :cool:

Noah has been asleep since 12.30 :eek:
Xx

dizziblonde

Anyone got a spade handy? Giving serious consideration to planting my MIL under the patio.

REALLY annoyed - as usual - never get any backing from hubby on it... she has no concept at all of personal space - last time we met up with her she proceeded to ram her nose an inch away while I was doing a nappy and wouldn't move... just constantly judging me and twitch twitch twitch - telling ME to be quiet around my own daughter and stuff... hubby wouldn't get her to back off then either (even in the hospital where she barged me out of the way of my daughters first bath and things).

So she's invited herself down pre-Xmas... I get NO say in the matter - she's rolling up at X time, will be here all the following day while hubby's at work - meaning I'll have to be judged and scrutinised and picked at and entertain her then... and she pushed to store all our old baby clothes in her house - and now she's dragging her feet massively getting stuff back to us - all "oh you'll have to wait till February" and "I'll wash it all and sort it" - I don't WANT her to wash it and sort it - I want to do it, I know what tops and bottoms belong together as outfits, I know what stuff is in the wrong sized bags (there's things like socks which are in the last age size bag that they were worn for but need moving around) and I just actually want some blooming time going through stuff, some of which has quite painful memories if we're honest, ON MY OWN without her grinning and gurning at me and judging me (and she constantly disregards and tries to obliterate the prematurity thing from memory - refuses to accept it had any impact on us - just denies it existed basically).

Add in the endless, and this is REALLY irritating "oooh she says" which drives me up the wall - because it's ALWAYS done to cast aspersions on me - "oooh she says it's time for a nap" etc - when I know full-well it isn't, or demanding that "isn't it tea time now" - no it isn't - our meal times are as they are to fit around what works for US.

I'm just so frustrated - so I won't have the moses basket till the end of February (and she's complaining about the cost of petrol to bring it down to us) - so I can't wash it and get that all sorted in advance - and it's only getting things organised well in advance that means I can remotely keep my anxiety levels (I'm actually pretty ill on that front) under control - plus it's only because I DID have things like the hospital bag packed by 30 weeks last time - that meant we weren't completely caught out when she arrived so early... she just doesn't ever listen to me - hubby never backs me and just makes me out to be utterly unreasonable and I just feel like a flipping incubator... I don't WANT her here making snidey comments about our house all weekend and physically shoving me out of the way and the endless endless comparisons between me and SIL and the babies on both sides of the equation (ours is abnormal because she's quiet and calm - it's not compared nicely).

I'll be crying in the bathroom from frustration over it all as usual.

Oh and when I put scan photos on FB (I didn't last time but these were really really clear ones) I did with a comment that "normally I can't make anything much out on scan photos - it usually just looks like I'm having a duck or something"... tagged hubby in the photo so she could see them (I won't add her to my FB as it would be used as a way of scrutinising me - I defriended SIL cos every status update was getting passed to her)... she goes off on a rant about "how day you compare MY grandchild to a duck" on me (you'll note the nice wording about who the child belongs to here).

Hubby as usual's gone off in a flounce because the woman just winds me up no end and as usual I'm the bad guy and, as usual, I just feel like crying after they've had their weekly shove the baby on skype and complain how quiet she is and how bored she must be in front of the camera (that YOU demanded she was put in front of) session.

I'll go kick the kitchen wall or something now to try to get some of the frustration of it all out of my system - but I still reckon the patio, decorated with some tinsel and bad lights is a good plan!

*Ro*

Dizzi - mils are a nightmare at times but don't let her get to you as it won't do you any good hun. Hope things calm down, can oh not fetch the things you want ie Moses basket etc so that you can feel more organised, I'm sure that it's understandable you would feel better having things organised. Re the watching nappy changes I had that with mine, telling me he had nappy rash etc when he didn't... I was in holiday with her too (:eek:) so I positioned the changing area so she could not see what I was doing !! There's always a way round these things but it's still frustrating and no doubt pregnancy hormones are adding to your woes hope it gets sorted x

Edit - I don't have a spade but have some manky tinsel

Elelyn

Dizzi, your MIL sounds like a nightmare. I feel really annoyed on your behalf that your OH isn't sticking up for you more too. I know it's easier said than done but try not to let it get to you too much. Take a walk and get some fresh air if you need a break. You need to look after yourself.

I want to take Theo to see Father Christmas but DH thinks it's a daft idea because he's too young to understand. I just think it would be a nice photo opportunity as it's his first ever Christmas. Our local pub are doing "breakfast with Santa" and I want to book for that. Will have to work on DH.

Does anyone have any experience of flat head syndrome? Theo has got it really noticeably on one side of his head as he always sleeps with his head on that side. I asked the Health Visitor about it this week but she wasn't particularly helpful. I have been told that you can buy special cushions/pillows to help but I'm not sure if they're any good once the head has already become flat. The NHS website suggests that the problem may correct itself once he starts sitting up and moving around more but I don't see how it can go back to being rounded once it has become flattened? I don't want him to have a funny shaped head forever :-(

Oh, and Nutella (I think it was you who mentioned it) the giraffe is back! I can't even remember why I removed it now.

*Ro*

sunshine_1988 wrote: »

Hi all

Back from santa. Aiden was not too keen lol. He liked the reindeer though.

Nutella, is her room done? Post a pic! X

Glad Aiden liked the reindeers ! Bless him not liking Santa x

*Ro*

Elelyn - hello, Scott has a flat spot one side, tbh we did not know about flat head until he already had it, it has stayed the same, we did not see anyone about it as such, hv just said do more tummy time , change position of cot so they face different way etc but if you want advice and hv no good ask your Gp. We just had Scott on a sleepcurve mattresses whilst in Moses and crib but we are not using the curve part in his cotbed now as he moves around too much. I don't have answers as scotts is mild but I know that there are helmets or something for severe cases. Hth

Meant to say that we got the sleepcurve mattresses to prevent it getting worse I don't see how they can cure it do to speak, but the body is in a better alignment to take some of the pressure off the head and allow the head to move more freely.

jediquigley

Glad to hear you had a slightly better night Katy, things aren't great with Nialls sleep. We spend about 2 hours trying to get him off then he will wake after 45 mins, last night he then did every 2 and a half hours which wasn't too bad, then came into bed with us at 4pm. Those short daytime naps definitely make things more managable. I had an hour snooze today and a lay in yesterday.

Mil and mothers can be a nightmare. Dizzy have you every told mil how her comments make you feel, as in when you say blah blah it makes me feel like blah blah. I know with some people you don't have the kind of relationship to use this. I did it with my bro the other day when some of his comments hurt me and he apologised.

My dh took Niall out for a couple of hours today so I got a bath woo hoo! And lunch calmly for once and did a bit of housework. Got my mum coming to help me out for a bit tomorrow.

Debating whether Niall might be teething at the moment, there is drool, hands in mouth, a bit off his feeds in the day although feeding great at night. He was very upset last night, we had about an hour and a half of crying could still be wind but not so sure.

7 weeks till weaning ...looking forward to it.

Laura