what would you do if!!!!!!

tinktinktinkerbell

victory wrote: »

You can't control his thoughts even if you are married, there is no vow that says 'now you are wed, you will never ever think about another person in any shape or form, you will solely concentrate all your thoughts on me, me only and will never look/think about/talk/fantasize/have a laugh and a joke about someone else, ever you get that':rotfl::D

wow, twisting my words there a bit *roll eyes*

carefullycautious

To Lunar Eclipse above
Banter goes on across the boards irrespective of upbringing morals etc. It does not have to be insulting or derogatory. It certainly does not get acted on.

What I think is being discussed here is sexual harrassment a completely different situation.

If the op had come on here saying her husband had asked this woman if she wanted paying for sex and given her a detailed acount of what he wanted to do to her then I would be in complete agreement with you.

I will put my hands up and agree with you that i am a 'filthy, quiet one' if it makes you happy. My hubby whom i have been married to for 36 years would laugh his socks off if I read him this.

victory

carefullycautious wrote: »

What I think is being discussed here is sexual harrassment a completely different situation.

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Sorry are you saying that this thread is about sexual harrasment and not just male banter/high jinks/wishing/ego boosting/daft nonsens?

Peater

tinktinktinkerbell wrote: »

wow, twisting my words there a bit *roll eyes*

Erm, not by much. Exhibit A:

tinktinktinkerbell wrote: »

i dont care what it is, the fact he was even thinking about doing things with another female is a no no for me!

*rolls eyes*

victory

What is coming across in this thread is that there are two divides, one that think no harm done, men will be men and it is just a bit of machoness and the other in the opposing side that think it is derogarory(sp) insulting, rude, ignorant of the partners feelings, should never be heard/thought of/used/ discussed or divorce proceedings will ensue.....

I can honestly say in the exact same situation I would not be too impressed but at the end of the day no crime was committed, no affair, no disloyalty, no wandering off, it was just silly words

victory

Peater wrote: »

Erm, not by much. Exhibit A:


*rolls eyes*

You just beat me to it I was going back to see where I had twisted words and you posted Exhibit A, thanks;)

Torry_Quine

victory wrote: »

What is coming across in this thread is that there are two divides, one that think no harm done, men will be men and it is just a bit of machoness and the other in the opposing side that think it is derogarory(sp) insulting, rude, ignorant of the partners feelings, should never be heard/thought of/used/ discussed or divorce proceedings will ensue.....

I can honestly say in the exact same situation I would not be too impressed but at the end of the day no crime was committed, no affair, no disloyalty, no wandering off, it was just silly words

I think you're right in the two views. I personally would be horrified mainly because it would be so unlike the man I know that I'd wonder what had changed him so drastically and not in any good way.

They are just words but words aren't spoken in a vacuum, something underlies this that makes it acceptable and to me that is even more worrying.

tinktinktinkerbell

Peater wrote: »

Erm, not by much. Exhibit A:


*rolls eyes*

V said

you will never ever think about another person in any shape or form

i never said anything of the sort

Lotus-eater

tinktinktinkerbell wrote: »

V said

you will never ever think about another person in any shape or form

i never said anything of the sort

Are you for real? You just said that if he even thought about it, that would be it for you.
So presumably you aren't allowed to think about anyone else either?

tinktinktinkerbell

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Are you for real? You just said that if he even thought about it, that would be it for you.
So presumably you aren't allowed to think about anyone else either?

i didnt say think about person in any way shape or form