Anyone Got a Good Man?

lostinrates

leanneq wrote: »

Well I knew I'd get shot down for writing my opinion... It's fairly obvious that there are successful relationships around, we all see them around us in our family, friends etc.
For the record, when I was single, seeing bad relationships made me realise why I was single, waiting for the right man to come along. The reason I wrote that I'm in a relationship is because otherwise people would make the assumption that I was unhappily single.
And yes, I admit that I am skeptical about some relationships, I see men and women who pretend to be the perfect partner but I know have cheated and will continue to cheat and their partner hasn't a clue!

I don't think disagreeing with you is shooting you down. also, I think some people genuinely do see more dysfunctional relationships that satisfactory ones.....some of the treatment people inflict and put up with suggests parametres way outside what I consider functional, whereas its in their frame of reference as ''not so bad''.

jackomdj

I am another lucky one with a great man. I had come out of a horrible marriage before I met him which makes me love him even more.

We met when I was visiting someone and he was on a course. He came to visit me 2 weekends later, came the seemed after that and moved in the weekend after(!) as he was getting based near me. 15 years later, we are still as happy and now have 2 lovely children. :-)

secretshopper75

I'm married to a wonderful husband, kind, considerate, takes care of me, will happily cook at weekend and is always there with a smile and a hug just when I need it most..

leanneq

lostinrates wrote: »

I don't think disagreeing with you is shooting you down. also, I think some people genuinely do see more dysfunctional relationships that satisfactory ones.....some of the treatment people inflict and put up with suggests parametres way outside what I consider functional, whereas its in their frame of reference as ''not so bad''.

I agree but unfortunately these women are so worn down that they won't see it and will assume all the people on this thread also have similar lives as they see it as the norm.
Having worked with these women, I promise you this thread will not be their lightbulb moment!

lostinrates

leanneq wrote: »

I agree but unfortunately these women are so worn down that they won't see it and will assume all the people on this thread also have similar lives as they see it as the norm.
Having worked with these women, I promise you this thread will not be their lightbulb moment!

well....my previous LTR was a dysfunctional and somewhat violent one..so I guess I once was one of ''these women'', and I guess I know how I feel about things and what my lightbulb moments were. perhaps the thing to do is accept we are different and interpretation is different, and this thread fulfils a function for some and not others?

BitterAndTwisted

This thread is not intended to be a "lightbulb moment" for anyone but (I believe) a celebration of all that is good about relationships. Hanging around on this forum for longer than five minutes could lead you to believe that there are altogether too many relationships which only exist to make people more miserable than anyone thought possible.

HOORAY FOR HAPPINESS!

Mojisola

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

This thread is not intended to be a "lightbulb moment" for anyone but (I believe) a celebration of all that is good about relationships.

HOORAY FOR HAPPINESS!

And that's got to be a good way to start a new year!

emsbet

I think this is a lovely thread OP Sometimes this board and life in general can be pretty depressing and it's great to focus on good things.

My DH is wonderful, we have been together two and a half years and married nine months and I am so grateful to have him in my life. We have been through two miscarriages this year and he has been my rock through it all. When I felt like there was no point in carrying on he has picked me up and shown me that we can get through it together.

He makes me feel so good about myself and always tells me I look beautiful. After some pretty sh*tty previous relationships he has helped me believe in myself again.

Oh and he also does the washing up because he knows I hate it

xx

vintagebrighton

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

This thread is not intended to be a "lightbulb moment" for anyone but (I believe) a celebration of all that is good about relationships. Hanging around on this forum for longer than five minutes could lead you to believe that there are altogether too many relationships which only exist to make people more miserable than anyone thought possible.

HOORAY FOR HAPPINESS!

Absolutely

I've had my share of duff relationships and when you read some of the threads on here you can be forgiven for thinking that most relationships are crap or abusive or about to end! It's been lovely reading how appreciative we all are of our men.

I added mine because of my past.... and because when my 2nd marriage ended I was 39 with 4 kids to bring up, loads of baggage from my past, debt etc etc. I remember sobbing on my 40th birthday cos I thought I'd never have sex again.... who would ever want me? True, I got on with it and decided I'd make the best of my life. Who'd have thought at the age of 47 I'd meet the love of my life... certainly not me. So it's a celebration, an acknowledgement of good fortune and that we never know what's round the corner or what's coming next.

I for one am not a sentimental person but I get a lump in my throat reading some of these responses..... Happy New Year everyone:beer:

lilrahi

I am very happy to say I have a lovely husband. I wouldn't change him for anything. I married him in spite of family opposition and with dire warnings that it wouldn't last etc... but 6 years we're still together and very happy.

We have our ups and downs, but at the end of the day when he comes home from work, I greet him with a smile (and a magic cup of tea in hand) and its all sorted.