Anyone Got a Good Man?

psychopathbabble

Nothing wrong with a thread about how nice some men are.... sometimes it can get very depressing only ever hearing about all the horrible stuff going on in the world.

Keep it going!

lostinrates

leanneq wrote: »

I have to admit I'm not a fan of this thread, it's all very self indulgent, just my opinion! If I was single, I would hate to read this and reading the success stories wouldnt make me think any better about it!
And for the record, I have an amazing partner, just don't feel the need to write on the internet about it!

are DFW successes cruel post about how they beat their debt? the mfw, how they have paid off their mortgages in cases it upsets younger gen housebuyers or renters?

A lot of being MSE, IMO, is learning to count blessings: for some of us a good partner is the biggest blessing going and perhaps, successful relationships being discussed couold boith be encouraging, and inspire people struggling to look for why some relationships are so successful and others less so?

I think gloating is not nice, but rejoicing in happiness/success at not acheived through others' downfall/ counting our blessings/luck something slightly differnt and not seen enough today.

*Redhead*

I have a good man.

Didn't think I'd find someone that I could love as much as him, or who loves me and my DD as much as he does.

The things he does for my daughter are beyond mentioning. When I became single, so many people told me that I wouldn't find someone easily, whilst I had being young and not bad looking on my side, I wouldn't find someone, as having a child at my age is baggage apparently. I never expected anyone to take on bringing up my DD alongside me, just to accept that I had her and she comes first.

And yet. That's completely the opposite to how he sees things. He treats her as his own, buys little things for her that she loves, when she was poorly, he sat up with her so I could sleep, he does everything for her that he can and for that, I'm more grateful than he will ever know.

Now we're expecting our first child together, a son, in about 4 weeks, and I don't think I've ever loved him as much as I do at this minute. If this child turns out to be half the man his daddy is, he'll be a goodun.

He also helps me around the house, even though he works full time, loads/unloads the dishwasher and does the washing up, hoovers up and cleans the rabbits cages, as well as everything else.

Sure. He annoys the life out of me by leaving socks all over the house and leaving the loo seat up every time he goes upstairs, and he can't cook for toffee, but I can forgive him for that x

Desperado99

I've got a good bloke

I wasn't very well in the run up to xmas and he looked after me wonderfully.

I'm very blessed

leanneq

Well I knew I'd get shot down for writing my opinion... It's fairly obvious that there are successful relationships around, we all see them around us in our family, friends etc.
For the record, when I was single, seeing bad relationships made me realise why I was single, waiting for the right man to come along. The reason I wrote that I'm in a relationship is because otherwise people would make the assumption that I was unhappily single.
And yes, I admit that I am skeptical about some relationships, I see men and women who pretend to be the perfect partner but I know have cheated and will continue to cheat and their partner hasn't a clue!

FatVonD

I'm only amazed it took until page 5 for someone to spill some venom on the thread.

I forgot to mention before, he let me play bass in his band even though I am reaaaaaally crap and he's a guitar God just because it's more fun doing it together.

And he's 6'1", has sexy long legs and is 7 years younger than me so even in our dotage I'll still have a toy boy

tesuhoha

leanneq wrote: »

I have to admit I'm not a fan of this thread, it's all very self indulgent, just my opinion! If I was single, I would hate to read this and reading the success stories wouldnt make me think any better about it!
And for the record, I have an amazing partner, just don't feel the need to write on the internet about it!

It wasn't self indulgence that motivated me to start the thread. The amount of replies shows that there are lots and lots of lovely men out there and its good to know. I would not call them success stories. I have read them and they make me feel quite humble at all the love out there. As for being on the internet, well, its all anonymous anyway so why not.

I hope some of the poor girls stuck in miserable relationships will read this, realise what they are missing and do something about it.

tesuhoha

lostinrates wrote: »

are DFW successes cruel post about how they beat their debt? the mfw, how they have paid off their mortgages in cases it upsets younger gen housebuyers or renters?

A lot of being MSE, IMO, is learning to count blessings: for some of us a good partner is the biggest blessing going and perhaps, successful relationships being discussed couold boith be encouraging, and inspire people struggling to look for why some relationships are so successful and others less so?

I think gloating is not nice, but rejoicing in happiness/success at not acheived through others' downfall/ counting our blessings/luck something slightly differnt and not seen enough today.

Excellent post. I think that sums it all up. We are not gloating but very grateful. I love to hear about others' happiness - the world is so full of misery and doom and gloom. Its nice to share some joy.

BitterAndTwisted

Leanneq: I couldn't disagree with you more! I am single myself and have been for a very long time but I'm really enjoying this lovely heart-warming thread. Part of it gives me hope and the other part is making me fret a tiny little bit that all of the good ones have been snapped up by sensible and perceptive women already and all I'll be left with is the dross rejects.

SailorSam

leanneq wrote: »

I have to admit I'm not a fan of this thread, it's all very self indulgent, just my opinion! If I was single, I would hate to read this and reading the success stories wouldnt make me think any better about it!
And for the record, I have an amazing partner, just don't feel the need to write on the internet about it!

This is a light hearted end to the year, it seems that for the other 364 days us poor men are getting battered on here, we can't do right for doing wrong.
Come on leanneq give us a chance.