Thai wives

FatVonD

property.advert wrote: »

No-one is kidding that a lot of these guys are hardly prize catches themselves. Given the choice of available alternatives open to them, it is hardly surprising they sometimes look farther afield.

I think you've hit the nail firmly on the head there, there is no way a homegrown younger/slimmer/attractive woman would even consider being with any of these men. What I find desperately sad though is that the women trade their youth/beauty (and sleep with fat, old men) thinking it's a fair trade/that the man is wealthy only to find themselves skivvying in a council flat in Dagenham, small wonder they divorce them as soon as they can, they've been duped :eek:

Person_one

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I think the problem with alot of British women, is that they are very selfish.

Only British men are allowed to be selfish of course. Silly British women, where did they come up with this daft idea that they are also people and deserve as many choices as the men eh?

Don't worry ladies, there are lots of decent men out there who do actually want an equal partner, I've actually met one or two!

Lotus-eater

Person_one wrote: »

Only British men are allowed to be selfish of course. Silly British women, where did they come up with this daft idea that they are also people and deserve as many choices as the men eh?

Don't worry ladies, there are lots of decent men out there who do actually want an equal partner, I've actually met one or two!

I don't remember saying that. Not that you seem to have a problem making things up.

Of course British men can also be selfish, however in this thread we were talking about women, I suspect in the Turkish toy boy thread, we would be talking about how bad British men are.

margaretclare

Person_one wrote: »

Only British men are allowed to be selfish of course. Silly British women, where did they come up with this daft idea that they are also people and deserve as many choices as the men eh?

Don't worry ladies, there are lots of decent men out there who do actually want an equal partner, I've actually met one or two!

Thank God there are, and thank God I found one. He certainly didn't go for me for my looks - I've never been well-endowed in the looks department. We're the same generation and yes, he can cope with an independent woman, in fact he prefers it that way.

samboette

My cousin has recently brought his Thai wife back to the UK, the family are sceptical to say the least.

He married her in Thailand back in the year and spent thousands trying to get her back here as she supposedly kept 'failing' the 'exams' she had to take, in order for her to be able to live here (well that's what she told my Cousin) and subsequently each time she failed he had to Transfer money to her to pay to retake them, I think this happened 4 times in total and because he was married he was also expected to send money over to support her. I've not looked into whether this is the process or not.

She can barely speak English and had left her daughter behind in Thailand to make a life over here, what sort of woman would leave their child behind to take on someone else's (my cousin has a son). It has also come to light that his new wife had distant relatives living here.

I know not all such marriages are a sham but I can't help but feel my cousin is going to end up penniless and broken hearted, he seems to be smitten, she's a young and pretty and he's in his late forties and IMO not a looker (not that it should matter) and this is his first 'serious relationship' since his first marriage broke up 10 years ago.

He owns his home and works away during the week, so really can't see how his wife will be happy here, being left home alone all week and barely being able to speak or understand English.

wyebird

My SIL is Thai, she met BIL when he was working in SE Asia and they have been together about 20 years . She is great, older than him, but looks much younger. older than me too and looks much younger!
Some of her friends though are married to men who make 1970s comedians look progressive....and who I want to slap at every social occasion I meet them :cool:

sunshinetours

I think there is a fine line between women remaining women (and all great things about that fact) and women becoming over emasculated and even men becoming more feminised, Womens roles have changed in society consierably in countries such as ours in the past few decades and there will always be a generation that rues that changes as well as many more who embrace that change

The emergence of "laddettes" in todays society is not a positive part of that change IMO and I can understand at least why some men would sek out differnt cultures if they have become disillusioned with their own. Women don't have to stay at home and look after childeren their whole lives or do the housework to remain women
The danger with all generalisations is that they are just that - a general view of all people together which often isn't reflective of many people's own experiences

margaretclare

He owns his home and works away during the week, so really can't see how his wife will be happy here, being left home alone all week and barely being able to speak or understand English.

Haven't the rules changed to the effect that individuals wanting to come here must demonstrate an ability to speak English? Hasn't there been a recent case of a woman who wanted to bring her husband to live here - he's a farmer in the Punjab - and her attempt to invoke her 'human rights' was thrown out? http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2075061/Ban-immigrants-speak-English-legal-A-victory-common-sense.html

vesper

I know three men that have thai wives
The first two have been with their wives for about 30 years and have completely normal lives with children and are very happy together.

The third (baring in mind he is a sexist pig in the first place and his first english wife divorced him as he hadn't worked since he was 19 due to a 'back' injury and has been on benefits since and made her pay for everything and forced her to wait on her hand and foot), has been over to thailand 4 times now. 1st year was meant to marry her, but strangely when it came to her coming over here to the wedding got arrested on leaving the country and he got a phone call asking for £20,000 to bail her out. When he didn't come up with the money, strangely she never contacted him again.
2nd one he went over and married her the same day, he has only met her that day but had been speaking to her online for 4 weeks. She came over her and he spent a fortune on her sending her on english courses. She went back over there as her ex-husband supposedly was threatening to kill her children that she had left there and her mother was dying of cancer for the 3rd time. Ended up in divorce when she met a rich american.
3rd, he went over there and she walked away as he wouldn't marry her that day.
4th, he's over there now and has only just met her, but is supposedly bringing her back in feb to get married.

This is all within 4 years, and in the end I hope he thinks it was worth it as in the process he has lost his daughter and grandchild. The oldest of them was 23. He's in his late 60's.
When I asked him why he didn't date someone around here he said that english women were too lazy and fat and ugly. And proceeded to tell me that I was a crap wife and didn't wait hand and food to my husband all the time. And that thai women will do anything to keep an english man happy.

margaretclare

This is all within 4 years, and in the end I hope he thinks it was worth it as in the process he has lost his daughter and grandchild. The oldest of them was 23. He's in his late 60's.
When I asked him why he didn't date someone around here he said that Englishwomen were too lazy and fat and ugly. And proceeded to tell me that I was a crap wife and didn't wait hand and foot to my husband all the time. And that Thai women will do anything to keep an Englishman happy.

No sane Englishwoman, or any woman from the Western world, would look twice at this guy. We may not necessarily have to become 'ladettes' but thank God we've moved on from the times when any husband was better than no husband. And for him to talk about us being 'lazy' when he's never struck a bat in all those years because of his supposed 'bad back', hark who talketh!

To say they'll do anything to keep him happy...this is not love or romance, it's basically prostitution. As Olive Schreiner wrote a century ago. They're living in appalling circumstances and have only their youth and beauty to capitalise on. They want the passport and then the access to his assets.

When I worked in Saudi with a multinational team, I was often asked about my own personal home circumstances. After I was widowed and I went out there for 3 months, I was often asked 'why I didn't live with my daughters, why didn't they look after me' which was what would happen in their countries. Another frequent question was 'where did my servants sleep?' This question floored me, and I could never get through to them to the effect that I had no servants, no one had that I knew of, unless you were talking about the very very rich or people like Princess Diana (whom they all knew about). I couldn't get it through to them. They'd all seen the films of maids in black dresses and white aprons, some had even read English literature and were well aware of the 'upstairs and downstairs' culture that used to exist. My own family members a generation or two back had been in the 'downstairs' part of that equation, so to talk about my having servants that lived in some little shack at the bottom of the garden, was laughable to me. But not to the people I worked with.