Thai wives

adelight

Most of the people assumed to be a "thai bride" actually aren't. The ignorant observer might assume there are hundreds of them near me but these women are actually mostly filipino nurses who came to work at a new hospital and just happened to meet british men. Many of those I know are very mature for their age and want to settle down and have a family, often men who want to do this too are 5-10 years older than them and I personally think filipino women look younger than british so the age difference may look like 15-20 years.
I think of the sites used to meet genuine brides are just very upfront dating sites. Woman wants a family and access to the UK and opportunities here, man wants to meet a wife but maybe doesn't know many people or just wants to keep it simple/easy without loads of courting or rejection or... an "obedient" wife. I know two couples who met through this sort of arrangement and luckily both are very happy and have been together for a long time now, one met young and have a big family, the other met later in life when their children had grown up and the wife kept her home in russia so now they have homes in england and russia and both get quite a good deal out of it.

meritaten

I havent read the whole of the Thread! just wanted to answer the OP!
My cousin had two failed marraiges then went out to work in Thailand and of course came home with a Thai wife!
I believe his marraiges failed because he couldnt handle a modern Welsh woman - too fiesty for him!
His Thai wife is absolutely perfect for him - they have been married I think for over ten years now - and she has changed him! he cannot do enough for her and he indulges her in a way I would never have thought to see! she is a lovely woman and I am hoping that next time they come over she passes on to me her secrets for handling men!

miss_independent

There are a good number of Thai brides in the area I live in and I have also got to know a few taxi drivers who have Thai brides too. I don't think you can make a sweeping statement and say it's the same with every couple but I have noticed some things in common. I most often see them at the supermarket, the man is usually late forties to sixties and the wife anything from 15 to 30 years younger, and I am usually horrified by the attitude the men have. I can think of one couple I frequently see, he is about 58 and seems to be allergic to smiling whatsoever or being pleasant at all, he is unspeakably rude and to his wife and is always complaining about how much money they are spending and acting disgusted at everyone around him, on the other hand she is always smiling and laughing and is extremely glamourous - I honestly don't know how she puts up with it. I'm not a spiteful person but one day I was stuck behind him at the checkout and he made me boil with rage at the way he treated not only his wife but also myself and the checkout girl, I honestly had to bite my tongue not to say anything, inside I was thinking "no wonder he has to buy a wife, I can't think of a single woman who wouldnt run a mile from such a chauvinist." Also, I was driven to near tears when seeing a young Thai woman who looked like a teenager being treated like dirt by her English husband who was at least 30 years older - he was bossing her around and making her feel guilty for everything he was buying ( at the end of the day, most likely for HER to cook) and she looked so young, scared and unhappy that my heart went out to her.

Ironically, I am quite traditional and I look forward to being wife one day who does cook the meals and do the housework and look after my husband - I don't expect him to do half of everything - I enjoy being a little bit Stepford and I'm only in my 20's. I have never been above a size 10, I look after my appearance and don't slob around in front of the tv and neither do my friends so that is a load of bull. I'm well mannered and certainly don't sleep around, again neither do my friends of a similar age and I have to say my friends are stunning girls, just as glamorous as the Thai girls I see around. So these men can't blame the british women, there are plenty of us decent ones around. Maybe it's just the fact that they are not very nice people and that's why a lot of women don't want to be with them.

Incidentally, I also know a couple of men who have lost nearly everything in divorces with Thai women. The women in these cases had children back in Thailand and I think calculated a plan to get some cash fast. I don't particularly admire either party - isn't it just prostitution?

tescobabe69

I know five blokes who married Thai girls.
One married for lurve brought her back here and has two kids, no different to most other couples.
One married a much younger girl and sold up and moved to Thailand , hes never been heard of since we think as soon as the income stream was sorted out he was "disposed of"
Two married younger girls, brought them back here and then when the girls realized how much money could be taken when they left, demanded a divorce.
The fifth was a confirmd bachelor and travelling bum, he has settled in Thailand with a younger bride and started a family although he is in his fifties.His facebook page is updated regularly and he is deleriously happy.
I always suspected some that I met were redundant prostitutes.

**Patty**

LisaB85 wrote: »

I have heard the same thing too, apparently we are too independent, laddish, easy etc just a few examples.

But if the go for the Thai bride it saves me from ending up with a man who will expect me wipe his backside for him.

My sisters boyfriend mum is from the Philippians and although I don't know her well I couldn't imagine her ever being sub servant so I imagine a lot of these men who go for Thai brides for that reason might get a shock

Although my sisters boyfriend waits on her hand and foot, he has also said once she has children she won't need to work she can stay home and look after the kids......

Both feet in......

What's wrong with that?

skillywilly

I think I'll buy one. Sounds like they're worth it.

All my old lady cooks is ready meals and she's not exactly a looker anymore.

aylithuk

My Father is happily married to his thai lady. Me and my Brother were a little 'shocked' when he meantion he met someone but she turned out to have a better grasp of english then some people I know, she used to work in admin in Bangkok and managed to get a part time job doing the same in the UK. She is mid 30s and my dad is late 50s but they seem very happy together and that really all i care about.

Hell one of my dad's BF has a thai wife also but she works with him doing...roofing work!! because that was what she did in Thailand as that was the family business.

I don't believe you can judge as each relationship is different but she did tell me that Thai ladies do pefer older men as they are meant to be more 'worldly'

property.advert

I know guys married to or living with many women from SE Asia through to Hong Kong and Japan. I think there are two distinct "classes" in play here amongst the men.

Educated, professional guys who are well traveled end up with partners from these areas because their business takes them to such places and as such, it is purely natural. Then you have a lot of blue collar workers who are disillusioned with western women of a certain age, mostly due to the size of their hips, overdraft and emotional baggage they are carrying. The guys are often divorced and as such can still be dealing with the fall out from that. Given the choice between a younger, more attractive model and a more mature and developed western woman, shape and form can win out.

No-one is kidding that a lot of these guys are hardly prize catches themselves. Given the choice of available alternatives open to them, it is hardly surprising they sometimes look farther afield. When I see some of the lard buckets which pass as women, both young and more mature these days, I know I would not be chasing after Miss Piggy and if I had no other options, why not consider a relationship of some convenience. After all, when you dissect many relationships, their is a financial imbalance, just look at any footballer !

DUTR

property.advert wrote: »

I know guys married to or living with many women from SE Asia through to Hong Kong and Japan. I think there are two distinct "classes" in play here amongst the men.

Educated, professional guys who are well traveled end up with partners from these areas because their business takes them to such places and as such, it is purely natural. Then you have a lot of blue collar workers who are disillusioned with western women of a certain age, mostly due to the size of their hips, overdraft and emotional baggage they are carrying. The guys are often divorced and as such can still be dealing with the fall out from that. Given the choice between a younger, more attractive model and a more mature and developed western woman, shape and form can win out.

No-one is kidding that a lot of these guys are hardly prize catches themselves. Given the choice of available alternatives open to them, it is hardly surprising they sometimes look farther afield. When I see some of the lard buckets which pass as women, both young and more mature these days, I know I would not be chasing after Miss Piggy and if I had no other options, why not consider a relationship of some convenience. After all, when you dissect many relationships, their is a financial imbalance, just look at any footballer !

Yep, there was that article where peter Crouch was asked "what would you have been if you were not a footballer?"
His reply..."a virgin"

But yes, you raise some good points (although some debatable)
in other threads you would get chastised for the post, though for me irrespective of creed I'm not taking on a GF with a tummy or legs larger than mine, if I have to put effort in then so do they, think it's called give n take :eek:

margaretclare

Callie22 wrote: »

I know a few men who've married Asian/Eastern European women and almost exclusively, they are men who, without being cruel, have struggled to find a partner in the UK (or they're blokes who've lost a lot in a divorce and are very bitter). These men are the sort who don't like 'independent women' - by that I mean that they are generally men who think that women shouldn't answer back or have an opinion, that women should bow down to their every whim and need, and should be a goddess in the kitchen and a tart in the bedroom. From experience, these are the kind of blokes who moan about 'women's lib', and who think that a woman's sole purpose should be to cater to a man's every need.

This is what I meant about the guy who used to post on the AgeUK discussion boards and also the bloke I met in that pub. There was I hoping for a bunch of flowers or something, or at least that he'd offer me lunch, but his agenda was about finding a replacement cook/housekeeper the same as his late wife who'd had to cook every meal for 35 years and never had even a cup of tea made for her. Poor woman. Not even when she felt ill - my first husband wasn't any less of a man (whatever that means) because he brought me a nice breakfast after having a baby at home, was capable of changing a nappy and could make his own sandwiches!