Help please

ViolaLass

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

including food? id like to know your secret if you can get all electricity, gas, council tax, tv licence, phone, food and all other expenses for £370 a month!

Food £150
Council tax £88
Elec c£40
Water £30
Internet £30-35
Date money £30

No tv, no gas. We each pay for our phones out of our own money but they're only £15 a month each. Home phone is included with the internet.

dirtysexymonkey

ViolaLass wrote: »

Food £150
Council tax £88
Elec c£40
Water £30
Internet £30-35
Date money £30

No tv, no gas. We each pay for our phones out of our own money but they're only £15 a month each. Home phone is included with the internet.

i want to live with you!:D

ViolaLass

dirtysexymonkey wrote: »

i want to live with you!:D

:rotfl:I'm flattered!

con1888

CH27 wrote: »

IMO you should put off dropping your hours until you have paid off your debts.
Also driving lessons are a luxury not an essential.
Paying your fair share of the bills is essential.

That's what the threads all about. I don't think 50% is a fair share when I will earn far less.

Driving lessons I do see as essential as will save a lot in the long run. The amount both of us spend on travel is frightening.

CH27

con1888 wrote: »

That's what the threads all about. I don't think 50% is a fair share when I will earn far less.

Driving lessons I do see as essential as will save a lot in the long run. The amount both of us spend on travel is frightening.

And are willfully depriving yourself of income.

dirtysexymonkey

con1888 wrote: »

That's what the threads all about. I don't think 50% is a fair share when I will earn far less.

Driving lessons I do see as essential as will save a lot in the long run. The amount both of us spend on travel is frightening.

youre treating him as a landlord by refusing to pay part of the mortgage, so 50% of the bills is more than fair. try moving into a houseshare and pay just your share of the bills.

do you really want to be seen as a gold digger?

con1888

CH27 wrote: »

And are willfully depriving yourself of income.

For a short term in order to maximise my income and not be stuck in a dead end job which is getting me depressed. Any decent partner should be supportive of that as it will give us both a better life in the long run especially when children come along and quite frankly if mine isn't going to be supportive then I don't want that type of partner. I am not asking him to give me money for nights out or shoes or fancy things, I am wanting him to pay a percentage of the bills based on income so that I can afford to live with him cos otherwise I simply wont be able to - if he would rather we split up than do this then that is what is going to happen.

CH27

con1888 wrote: »

For a short term in order to maximise my income and not be stuck in a dead end job which is getting me depressed. Any decent partner should be supportive of that as it will give us both a better life in the long run especially when children come along and quite frankly if mine isn't going to be supportive then I don't want that type of partner. I am not asking him to give me money for nights out or shoes or fancy things, I am wanting him to pay a percentage of the bills based on income so that I can afford to live with him cos otherwise I simply wont be able to - if he would rather we split up than do this then that is what is going to happen.

You are being very selfish not taking his wishes into account.
There is no reason you cannot defer going to college.

ViolaLass

con1888 wrote: »

For a short term in order to maximise my income and not be stuck in a dead end job which is getting me depressed. Any decent partner should be supportive of that as it will give us both a better life in the long run especially when children come along and quite frankly if mine isn't going to be supportive then I don't want that type of partner. I am not asking him to give me money for nights out or shoes or fancy things, I am wanting him to pay a percentage of the bills based on income so that I can afford to live with him cos otherwise I simply wont be able to - if he would rather we split up than do this then that is what is going to happen.

It sounds like you ARE asking him to give you money for nights out - at the moment, your income covers your outgoings with a little bit (admittedly only little) to spare. So why do you need more if not for nights out?

Also, you're asking him for a commitment that hasn't been made yet. Does he want to marry you in the long run? Does he want children? Have you discussed this with him?

dirtysexymonkey

con1888 wrote: »

For a short term in order to maximise my income and not be stuck in a dead end job which is getting me depressed. Any decent partner should be supportive of that as it will give us both a better life in the long run especially when children come along and quite frankly if mine isn't going to be supportive then I don't want that type of partner. I am not asking him to give me money for nights out or shoes or fancy things, I am wanting him to pay a percentage of the bills based on income so that I can afford to live with him cos otherwise I simply wont be able to - if he would rather we split up than do this then that is what is going to happen.

any decent partner wouldnt expect to pay just some of the bills while it suits them, but expect to have an interest in the house once it becomes useful in a money-making sense.

your coming across as a gold digger. and i dont think thats very far from the truth going off what youve posted.