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CH27 wrote: »

You teach them to stop interupting.

I actually think this is a very important skill to teach children. It doesn't stifle their curiosity, but it does teach them that there are times when their questions can't be answered right now, but will be a little later.

I have a daughter who is quiet, I have a niece who is a right little chatterbox and always has been. But if adults are talking, she knows to say "Auntie balletshoes" or "Mum" before starting her spiel, and if one of us says "in a minute chatterbox, I'm talking to ...... just now" she has to wait.

Constantly getting interrupted by young children can be very wearing if you're not used to it.

elantan

"In a minute chatterbox I'm talking to... just now "

WoW WoW WoW ... I actually can't think of anything else I want to say to that that can be printed

GlasweJen

I think she put chatterbox in instead of the wee ones name.

Would you really be offended by a parent saying "in a minute John, I'm talking to Mary" or "in a minute Sue, I'm on the phone?" or "in a minute Peter I'm in the loo?".

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elantan wrote: »

"In a minute chatterbox I'm talking to... just now "

WoW WoW WoW ... I actually can't think of anything else I want to say to that that can be printed

maybe I haven't explained myself clearly enough (not sure) - obviously Chatterbox isn't my niece's name, and I don't call her "chatterbox" I call her by her name.
"in a minute" is usually less than a minute - usually its a case of one of us finishes our sentence, the other might reply, end of conversation. Then say to my niece "yes now real name, what did you want to ask?"

As an adult I think its rude to interrupt other people in the middle of a conversation without an "excuse me" etc, so I think its a reasonable thing to teach children too.

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GlasweJen wrote: »

I think she put chatterbox in instead of the wee ones name.

Would you really be offended by a parent saying "in a minute John, I'm talking to Mary" or "in a minute Sue, I'm on the phone?" or "in a minute Peter I'm in the loo?".

thats exactly what I meant, thanks GlasweJen .

elantan

but you think it ... so ....

balletshoes

elantan wrote: »

but you think it ... so ....

I'm really not sure what you're getting at - chatterbox isn't a bad thing. Neither is quiet.

elantan

ok .......

Oldernotwiser

elantan wrote: »

ok .......

I think that I'm not the only one who doesn't understand what you're getting at. Are you actually saying that you disapprove of an adult saying to a child that s/he has to wait for a bit while the adult is talking to someone else?

January20

cheepskate wrote: »

ONLY A MOTHER CAN SUGER COAT HER CHILDS BEHAVIOUR.

You and your husband find their behaviour challenging which really means ........ they dont do as they are told.

Come back when your child is 7 or 8 and by then you wont find this challenging behaviour endeering anymore.

Just what I was thinking.
OP I don't think your mother prefers your sister's children, but what she is saying is that it is easier and more fun for her to look after them than to look after yours. After all, you are not there when she looks after them are you? So you don't really know how "unique" and "fun" their "strong personalities" are? Might be too much for your mum alone when both you and you OH struggle with the kids.