how would you feel is a teacher called your son sexy ?

DKLS

Be proud that you have passed on your attractive genes and created a handsome and confident young chap, just remind him about contraception, if he doing well with the ladies.

robpw2

I would also say its inappropriate , i think perhaps just let the teacher know you felt uncomfortable but just keep it aty that

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Bufger wrote: »

I dont think she should have fed his ego like that but i dont think she was expressing her own opinion of him either, its more of an observational comment.

i wasnt ever allowed to hear what was said.

I too find it odd that children are allowed to be there when teachers are discussing their progress with parents.When I was at school children were nevr allowed to be around on 'Parents night' and you waited in trepidation for Mum or Dad to come home in case your teacher gave you a rotten report. I should think your son thinks he can get away with murder at school now .A little taking down a peg or two wouldn't hurt his ego or he will be an unbearable little monster by the time he is 15-16

shajonsom

Teachers are only human & it is probably a harmless comment however I do think it is an inapropriate comment and with hindsite she may regret her choice of words esp considering the age of your child. It's sad to say I know but that is the world we live in today where we have to 'mind' what we say when referring to children.

adamantine

i think the teacher used the wrong word when she was trying to describe why your son got thre detention and the problems they are facing. him being desirable to the girls he distracts them and admired by the boys they are copying him.

i would have a word with your son, make sure no detentions are moved for him as that sends totally the wrong message and make sure he knows that he has an influence over others and he shouldnt abuse that power and should set a good example not a bad one.

i think the teacher probably realised what she said afterwards and is thoroughly kicking herself about her choice of words!

ginvzt

I don't see anything wrong with the teacher. If anything - she just warned you of what is going on, maybe you should be grateful and start educating your son about the boy/girl thing.

As for Facebook - who set the account up for your son? Was it with your help? If not - did you allow him? In any case, this is against the Facebook rules, and should not have been allowed. The fact that you know of the pages, says that you approve this, as otherwise you would have not allowed your son to use the website, or would have contacted Facebook to close his account.

AndrewSmith

I also think it is a highly inappropriate comment for someone trusted with the safety and moral upbringing of children to make such a comment despite whether it is merely an observation or not.

'Fit and Sexy' as a description for an 11 year old child is just wrong. Nobody should view a child of that age as anything like how the teacher has described him.

On the matter of what would happed if it were a male teacher talking about a female student? There would be uproar and cries for his dismissal. It would likely make the tabloids. Why then should it be OK just because the perpetrator is female? Not all !!!!!philes are male, there are some females as well. The sex of both parties is, in my view, not the issue here. The issue is that an adult who is employed to take care of and educate a child has made an inappropriate comment about one of the pupils in their care.

It would, on the face of it, seem that the comment was innocent enough especially as it was openly made in a school report however that still does not mean that the teacher concerned is free of all suspicion. After all she is the one that wrote it. How many times do we see that someone guilty of a crime will be completely nonchalant about what they have done and even make reference to it. Look at Ian Huntly, he even gave a press statement and was considered a credible innocent witness for a while..........

In my opinion this needs to be brought to the attention of the head teacher. It needs to be done quickly but respectfully as indeed it may be a rather foolish innocent comment. Any decent headteacher would want to know about this.

balletshoes

Sounds like the teacher needed you to know how your son's behaviour influences his peers, and she was using their expressions and language to do it.

If she felt you needed to know, and you didn't have the opportunity to talk about this without your son present, I'm not sure how else the teacher could have informed you?
If your son wasn't present and the conversation had gone as you described, I personally wouldn't have had any problem with it at all.

Mojisola

cookie54 wrote: »

We had parenst review day for my yr 7 aged 11 son yesterday.

He is an extremely good looking, Fit and sexy boy who every one fancys !!!!!!

I have two problems with this - one, your son's age, and two, the fact that the teacher said it in front of him.

There would have been nothing wrong with telling you that your son is very popular and that others follow his lead. Describing an 11-year old as "sexy" is not good professional behaviour.

balletshoes

AndrewSmith wrote: »

'Fit and Sexy' as a description for an 11 year old child is just wrong. Nobody should view a child of that age as anything like how the teacher has described him.

I really think it depends on the context - and in the context the OP described, I would have taken that as the teacher passing on to the OP what her son's peers say/think about him - not what the teacher thinks.

And sorry, but you are kidding yourself if you think 11-year olds don't think of some of their peers/other people as fit and/or sexy. I certainly did at that age :rotfl:! It doesn't mean they really are aware of the adult meaning of the term or will act on those feelings yet.