how would you feel is a teacher called your son sexy ?

lostinrates

Badger_Lady wrote: »

So we're all in agreement - her terminology was weird.

But aren't we all getting a bit too hung up on terminology? Her intentions were clear and in no way harmful.

yes and no. I think its very clear no harm was meant by the teacher, or would by result be done to the son. On a wider scale...that scale which makes the conversation possible to happen...I think it is potentially harmful, or rather...limiting for children without parents who are aware and willing to redress an imbalance in aspiration (i.e. life beyond but including enjoying sex and sexuality and being popular.)

pollypenny

An odd choice of words for a teacher - if that is exactly what was said. I have a feeling that the word 'thinks.....' might have been lost here.

Clearly OP's son is a leader and the teacher was attempting to both discipline and show understanding of him at the same time.

While teachers may well be slightly amused by a lad like this in Y7, the novelty can wear off - if he's still strutting his stuff in Y9, he'll very likely be a pain in the backside.

I have qualified amlost all my statements - as, I suspect, the teacher would have done.

cookie54

************** UPDATE*********************


My son was present as it was a joint meeting so they can put his view forward as well. I rang to request a chat with the head of key stage 3 . whist waiting the school rang to say he was still chating in class and had removed him and someone had faked a teachers signature on his report . It is too grown up for him and so it must be one of his brothers friends in yr 11. He is not telling on this person so he is in trouble. The head of keystage 3 know my son and is aware of the comments and moving of dentions and admits it not how he would handle it and the comment has spread like wildfire . We will wait for my son to come home but the school have admited to poor handling as he is too popular and they failed to move the children as they promised they would do today and that is written on the plan of action

jjww_2

Slightly confused in regards to OPs last post.

Are other children being moved because your son is talking to them?

Please do not take offence to this but you seem to excuse your son's behaviour by shifting focus onto something else. For example forged signature= Brothers friend. Detentions= teacher has it in for him for not tucking shirt in. Talking in class= too popular and teacher thinks he is sexy.

You need to stop blaming other people and allow your son to take responsibility for his own actions, he obviously asked someone to sign the report, he talks and disrupts a class full of children who may not be as quick learners as him therefore seriously affecting their learning, he needs to realise being popular is all well and good but it is not an excuse to behave however he may want to.

cookie54

regarding the moving of children there is a group of talkative children all together and others have been told off so they are moving them all away from each other to help all of those involved not just my son . The report was given out this morning and my eldest has spent the day at home on study leave so we know he didn,t sign it we just dont know who did and MY SON is now protecting whoever did and the school is worried about that so they are hoping to find out ... I am aware he is no angel and does need to be told off but there are 350 per yr and 12 forms and there tutor is like hilter compared to some !!!!!!!!!!

olibrofiz

I would feel :eek::eek::eek: that isn't an appropriate thing for a teacher to say about an 11 year old, and definately not in front of him! That, to me, is a bit creepy! I'd have to go to the school, couldn't leave it.

angelil

I'm a teacher (and a fairly young one at that - I'm only 25) and wouldn't have used that word myself. I'd have said he was popular with the girls or something like that. Would even hesitate before saying anything like a kid simply being good-looking, let alone 'sexy'. I'd leave it for now but if it happened again I'd be onto the school. I'd also agree with the suggestion of closing the facebook page down.

[Deleted User]

Didn't the government say that the WMD reports had to be 'sexed' up during the recent conflict.The terminology used in today's world is not only baffling but confusing to someone like me I have heard children in the playground use the term 'gay' as meaning not very good when talking about another child but they don't mean that the other child is homosexual.It all seems to be a bit of a storm in a teacup and one that no doubt the 'Daily Wail' would love to get their mitts on:):)

MarilynMonroe_2

I find it odd to say that considering he's only 11.


(After saying that theres a story in the daiy mail today about a mother of 7 seducing a 11 yr old and was found in bed with her! )

KiKi

Ill advised, but clearly no bad intention.

And your son shouldn't have a FB page, he's too young.

KiKi