MG - The Matrix Re-wired

groatie_queen

Happy Birthday KC!

Had a lovely day, last bits of Christmas dealt with. Every year it gets simpler and simpler. It's Baltic here, I had to scrape the car earlier. Pretty sparkly pavements, nice to be inside now though.

Fantasia, I'm very grateful for your comments and I'm enjoying the discussion we're all having. I get the feeling everyone is nesting or using energy just to get things done at present. Isn't it crazy that at the coldest darkest point of the year when we all feel like pulling the blankets over our heads and hibernating, we're cranking ourselves up and gearing up for a feast, with all the extra work involved?! :eek::eek:Which is why I keep making it simpler year by year.

But - I'm post-kids and post-parents: in the past I tried to make Christmas happy for others. And it wasn't always appreciated. Families, eh? I had a double whammy - a difficult mother and an impossible mother-in-law! And a father-in-law who turned out to have deceived and betrayed us all - but that is another story I won't bore you with.

Quite happy to do my own thing these days. So relaxing by comparison! :rotfl::rotfl:

MrsMoo2U

I have been reading, pondering and considering all of the posts today. I have spoken with Fantasia seperately about my own feeling of seperation from the Matrix and I would like to thank Fantasia for raising her thoughts about this. It is good to be able to discuss things on here in a grown up fashion without any sniping, bitterness or accusations. Where else on MSE can this happen.
KC and Tricia have both really summed up the thoughts that I have been having. Those of you from "the other side" know that I publicly stepped back because I felt that the time I was spending around the forum was holding me back and that my own mentality had moved on from Make do and Mend and I had nothing more to give. This is a natural cycle of events if you think about the change curve and this curve comes into play for all circumstances in our lives as we deal with change. Quite a few people have popped up and said the same thing.
I think that what KC was saying with regards to MG is a valid point. Whilst each diary has to have a story as FW points out it is unfair to expect MG to be the one that drives the thread forward all of the time. This thread has evolved into much more than MGs own personal diary as other people are posting on here more than she does (that is not a criticism just an observation), so many people have so much to discuss a lot of the time that sometimes a call for help can be lost in the melee. This is nobody's fault it is as it is. People are busy and skim read the fast moving posts. I did almost post something at the end of the last thread about the Matrix maybe not needing MG to be the one to set up the new thread and even that she may wish to start her own seperate diary to allow her to focus on her journey but I deleted it for fear of upsetting people. No courage you see, I am like the lion in Oz.
So, I continue to lurk and I will pop up if I see a situation that I feel that I might have something useful to say.

MG, Hypno has also been finding it difficult to adjust to debtfreeness and other things in her life, as Buffy says it must be difficult. Check out that change curve, it is as valid for good change as bad change.

I will blend back into the background now and follow with interest. Sorry that this is a rambling post. I will never be as eloquent and succinct as KC, Tricia, Greenbee and FW but I will always strive to be.

Aesop

Happy Birthday KC, have a great night.

Aesop

MrsMoo2U wrote: »

I will blend back into the background now and follow with interest. Sorry that this is a rambling post. I will never be as eloquent and succinct as KC, Tricia, Greenbee and FW but I will always strive to be.

I don't think it is about being eloquent or succinct. we are not all writers, maybe we all strive to be? who knows, but I think the point is, you do write something and people do read it, and do digest it, think about it and sometimes reply to it.

So don't stop posting.

Firewalker

Just watched Merlin - love it! Now about the rest including MG's blog; or any blog for that matter.

People have been mentioning that the Matrix (and this thread) have become 'about money and more money'. I suppose this is correct and this is because it always has been about money - it has just moved from 'make do and mend' frugality mentality to 'I have cut enough now I have to start building'. Being satisfied sounds great - but not when your income is uncertain and you have just managed to save your house from repossession. Especially not now - with a recession that will make anything we have experienced before look like 'the good times' looming ahead. I just had a chat with a very close friend of mine who is an economist of some note. His reaction was: 'We are not through it yet? You must be joking - it hasn't even started yet.'

It is not the time to be satisfied, however zen and new age this may be. I am all for zen but I'll make really sure that my family have enough to eat and that there is a plan B. Plan B can't be money - according to my friend the only salvation is in land. It is time to be smart and to build up some reserves. I can understand MG - she has to build because the foundations of her life and the future of her children is only half there. And this time, she has to build smart.

Sorry, got a bit distracted so now to the blog. Any blog demands persistence and commitment. It also needs to find a niche and a voice. This takes time. True, there was some material that you have seen. However, the blog should be targeted to a much broader readership than this thread, the Matrix and the UK. It is not (and cannot be) for fun (though it can be fun writing them) and is not for out pleasure - although it ought to be entertaining as well. It is each and everyone's choice whether they read or not. MG is building a business, she is creating a livelihood. BTW, I have learned masses about blogging in the period I did not post here - was just considering to share my learning (on the other side, sorry). This is my commitment to the Matrix - I learn, I share. The rest is about water and horses.

I myself, am trying to build wealth - I made this clear on my thread a long time ago. I want this because as I have said before I am no good to anybody else if I can't pay my mortgage. Although I still have negative wealth I continued to give and I will always give. Being wealthy will just allow me to give more.

Sorry, this became very long but I felt like saying it. Now the Firewalker is leaving the building (albeit temporary).

Firewalker

Firewalker

MrsMoo2U wrote: »

No courage you see, I am like the lion in Oz.

You have m uch more courage than me - you are changing your life. In fact, you have already changed your life.

FW

MrsMoo2U

Oh FW, I am so sorry but (even though you were being serious and i do take you seriously) you do make me laugh........ thanks

As for the second post...... yes I am in the process of changing my life but not there yet. Still a way to go and still expect lots of wobbles to occur. Courage? Never thought of it like that to be honest.

Aesop... I wont stop posting, i will post when I have something constructive to add but it might not be that often.

Aesop

FW, I am toying with the idea of a blog, about moneymaking, surveys, etc.

I know to make it work and for it to have effect, it needs to be good and not rushed to just get it out there....

any chance you could let me borrow some of your tips please? for someone who has their blog nearly in the top 1%, you are doing something right!

Aesop

MrsMoo2U wrote: »

Aesop... I wont stop posting, i will post when I have something constructive to add but it might not be that often.

not like me then I post lots of drivel

maryb

I was a fairly regular poster about a year ago and still read regularly although I don't tend to post much on the Matrix. That bothers me because I feel I ought to contribute a lot more than I do but the fact is, I am still struggling to know what direction I want to go in and what goals to set for myself. In the meantime, I find reading and lurking keeps me probing the question, which is better than sinking into complacency