MG - The Matrix Re-wired

groatie_queen

I think the season has a lot to do with it, also I think the UK as a whole, and the wider planet, is hunkering down somewhat just now. No matter what we do to address the general negativity in the media (I junked my TV recently), it's still a fact that we are having to be more inventive and focused and creative with everything in our lives, in the face of the zeitgeist, about how to keep ourselves motivated and inspired and believing we can each create the best version of our lives with what we have right here.

My life is changing. TDQ, yes, the de-cluttering has been a humungous task and has taken me months and months, but it has freed me up in more than just the physical. It has given me the space to think differently.

I'm considering ideas which absolutely rock and inspire me, at the moment still at the visioning stage, and I'm not asking HOW lol, because as has been said, the designer of the Forth Rail Bridge started with a dream, his first thought wasn't HOW would he build a bridge across the stormy reaches of such a wide stretch of river. He dreamed, then took it from there. And it didn't happen overnight.

Not that what I'm dreaming is another ruddy bridge! it's more modest, but you get the picture. Field of Dreams stuff. And my dream is not about physical riches, but emotional and social riches, a social enterprise not just for me, but also for some of my fellow beings. Not asking HOW at the moment!

We can all make our own lives the best version of what we want them to be, no matter what, we don't need bricks and mortar for that, in fact things can be an impediment. I know what the best version of me is that I want to be, and I'm taking baby steps to get there. I'm inspired and supported to be that better version of me by the helping hands and generous hearts of the Matrix - that to me is what we're all about. It's about creating our best life for us each individually, whatever shape and form it takes.

Dorastar

Feel a wee bit shallow after all those posts - but I also like reading and the positivity around (mostly). Do find as chevalier said it's a bit off-putting sometimes when stuff is over the 'other side' but understand why. Realistically with a demanding full time+ career (usually 60hours per week), being the household main earner and having 2 children my time for re-invention is a bit limited. Teaching is what I know, what I was designed to do and I get positive affirmations about that on an almost daily basis.

Doesn't stop me dreaming though.....;)

So today is slobbing and house stuff including sorting out the car of doom.

Marru

I don't post here that often either, lately I have been grateful to have been able to come here for support, which I always find here in bundles. I don't always have the right words for others but keep thanking posts and sending vibes even if I don't have anything to add to what others have said.

We are all very different and in very different situation but what is the common nominator is that we are taking action and making our lives better for ourselves.

ClootiesMum

Must admit, I don't post much these days either but I do still read......
I think it is to do with the seasons & weather & busy time but life is also changing for us all & we all have our own "demons".

2 years ago or so when the Matrix started did I think that I'd be unsure if I would still have a job from month to month - course not - I worked in a bank and that was a job for life.......Now I'm high risk
DH has already been through a "streamlining" (job - not him) process & came out well at the other end - but when the rug is being pulled out from under your feet you tend to keep your head down.

I look at the Matrix as like a group of old friends - you know the ones - you don't speak to each other for months on end but when you do get together then you just pick up where you have left off....

I enjoy reading about what you are all up to & if I have anything other than the drudgery of daily life, I will share - like my Christmas tree is up & looks beautiful (even if I say so myself)

Although MG started this - we are all strong people who can drive this thread forward as & when we want to - that was the thing with the Matrix as I saw it - we weren't all following - we were all equal & when we came together for something our differences made us stronger.

Anyway - enough rambling - I'm off to post cards

Have a great day folks

Memory_Girl

Morning ladies - followed the discussion from last night and had a good long think over a cup of coffee.

I have been on here a long time - and undoubtedly this is a place where I feel comfortable and a place that has helped me "cut my costs" on the journey to the DFW status I now finally enjoy.

But like everyone else my life has ebbs and flows - seasons where I am reaching for my dreams and seasons where I am happy to get through the day. The last few weeks have been of the latter - a full day of kids and Christmas "schooly" stuff, unexpected photo calls and the never ending relentless slog of working with a builder who works only evening means that I am simply out of inspiration at the moment.

I am definitely having a "by the list" kind of period - where stuff is getting done but it is like wading through treacle IYSWIM. But you know what - this too shall pass, soon the solstice shall come and new beginnings start to raise their cheery little heads and we shall be off again............... creating our hearts desires with a lighter step.

I had a chat with a couple of members who have become dear friends on the day when I found I was Debt Free - about whether this is the right place to continue to be once this milestone in my goal-life was achieved ................. but the overwhelming consensus was that I shouldn't make such a decision on such a momentous occasion. Sensible, sensible people.

But the reality is my life is moving on, I am no longer solely focussing on the "money saving" although that undoubtedly will remain at the core of how I now progress through my life. I have dreams for my boys, dreams that were put on hold whilst I focussed on saving our home. But they deserve so much more from me.

But I get the point that this talk of wider horizons may not be what people are used to reading here - but it is where my life is now at, so there is quite a conundrum.

To stay here or not ...

.......... to move primarily onto the Matrix to explore all things abundant, personal development and scary mentors with their scary thoughts ................I am beginning to see that the Matrix works best when there is someone "stirring the pot" a little .................. now that I see this I wonder if that should really be my role? I am in a holding circle there at the moment with tutorials in webbie/ bloggie and social media stuff happening soon that I am dying to try out.

........to focus more on the blog now I have a clear idea of where it is heading - into scary realms of financial abundance, return to work and designing a dream life ..............Mmmmmm! Its also the place I can continue the "money awareness" journey in food and crafts which is so much easier with pictures.

Decisions for another day I think – today is a day for baking and cooking with my boys who were absolute stars last night. My MFin3 team absolutely rocks.

At least my home is sparkling and ready for the holidays LOL ............... although I to have a "Car of doom"as eight bin bags of clutter was moved to the car in the last two days and it is skip-ward bound.

MG

MG

greenbee

How does all this junk get there MG? Life seems to be a constant round of decluttering!

I am making yet more fudge... I had lots of evaporated milk and sugar of various types so have been experimenting. The best stuff so far was made with a mixture of dark and light brown sugar. The batch made with dark muscovado didn't go so well, but I'll reserve judgement until its cold. Last batch is made with light muscovado and is looking better.

I'm out this afternoon (don't really want to go but feel I have to) so this morning needs to be about airing the house and getting some outside jobs done. Then this evening may involve Florentines/chocolates/housework!

Memory_Girl

greenbee wrote: »

How does all this junk get there MG? Life seems to be a constant round of decluttering!

I am making yet more fudge... I had lots of evaporated milk and sugar of various types so have been experimenting. The best stuff so far was made with a mixture of dark and light brown sugar. The batch made with dark muscovado didn't go so well, but I'll reserve judgement until its cold. Last batch is made with light muscovado and is looking better.

I'm out this afternoon (don't really want to go but feel I have to) so this morning needs to be about airing the house and getting some outside jobs done. Then this evening may involve Florentines/chocolates/housework!

No idea - but it is nw in the skip.

BTW "failed"fudge experiments are yummy added to muffins or apple cake ................ waste not want not.

I am now stocked up for a baking day - calories a go go

MG

Bitsy_Beans

Interesting discussion last night.
My 10p worth. I've not been posting as much not because I felt disillusioned as such but because a great deal of it has not really relevant, especially over in the other side. I confess I find much of what is discussed over there to be double dutch as much as I would to be able get into crafting business the reality is I am struggling to fit it into my lifestyle. My life is now firmly in money saving mode having taken a drop in income and wordy posts about business (and business "speak") etc just go over my head.
I am plodding rather than breaking new boundaries and I think that's where me and The Matrix are going our separate ways.
I do read and lurk and send the positive vibes where needed but I will have to admit to considering terminating my Matrix membership because I don't feel I can bring anything to the table.

Have a great Saturday everyone.

dirtyepic

I still love this thread & also the other side. I dip in and out of both on a very regular basis and usually depend on my early morning catch up as a source of motivation and inspiration. I don't feel excluded in any way and sometimes the topics of conversation fly way above my head but i usually find a link to my personal situation and use this to help me stay positive and in control. I would be gutted and very upset to see anything dissolve or disband.

Everyone has their priorities not only in life but especially during this time of year, everything changes.

I love to see old and new faces on the threads, everyone adds their own little opinion or comment to the pot and it's usually very positive.

I hope everyone is okay, plodding on with whatever they have to do at this time. I appreciate you all and am saddened when any unpositive issues are raised. I wish you all a very peaceful time during the Christmas holidays and I hope that during 2012 we are all able to make the decisions to enable us to successfully follow our dreams.

Please stay, everyone. I love hearing about all of your lives, achievements and hurdles!

Dirty epic

Triciaxx

I half followed the discussion on here yesterday evening and then read it through thoroughly this morning. So here’s my thoughts.

I never expected the readership to stay the same forever. That would imply that folk were not progressing towards their goals – whether that be clearing debt or totally changing their lives.

It’s still a great place for support when things go pear shaped and it always warms my heart when people have good things happen – but . . . . . I’ve always seen it as a ‘season and a reason’ thread, not something that will last forever.

DFW has to come first in order to free up our lives to other possibilities. Some are there, some are not but I think everyone who reads here on a regular basis has had a LBM and is on the road to being debt free.

The MSE DFW mindset is one of caution and not taking risks. That is quite right in purely monetary terms but it is not a recipe for progress in other fields. I think that is why some folk stop posting and some will stop reading. They are at a different stage in their lives and should move on if they feel that is right for them.

I still read and occasionally post but my life is busier now than it has been since I retired and so time is scarcer than it was. Reading this thread was one of the factors that made we take a chance with a new venture and I am grateful for that.

Sending good vibes and hugs to you all,