MG - The Matrix Re-wired

Firewalker

Aesop wrote: »

any chance you could let me borrow some of your tips please? for someone who has their blog nearly in the top 1%, you are doing something right!

During the holidays I'll be writing a short article and publish it on the other side (are you there? if not ask to join you need two people to recomend you but this should not be a problem).

As to doing things right - learning but not very fast. These young American kids are wiping the floor with me. Ha; age has longevity and no chance I am leaving the contest.

FW

Aesop

Firewalker wrote: »

During the holidays I'll be writing a short article and publish it on the other side (are you there? if not ask to join you need two people to recomend you but this should not be a problem).

As to doing things right - learning but not very fast. These young American kids are wiping the floor with me. Ha; age has longevity and no chance I am leaving the contest.

FW

not yet, will ask later.

these young kids.... just have more time on their hands, that's all ..... you will be top soon

MrsMoo2U

Aesop wrote: »

not like me then I post lots of drivel

I disagree on that. ........ I have come to learn that I have verbal diahorrea (sp?) sometimes so I am trying to learn to listen and ponder more rather than just jump in.

Aesop

MrsMoo2U wrote: »

I disagree on that. ........ I have come to learn that I have verbal diahorrea (sp?) sometimes so I am trying to learn to listen and ponder more rather than just jump in.

I drivel on another thread, where I am allowed to drivel it is allowed... well it is not supposed to be drivel, it is supposed to be about coupons but we drivel

Marru

Just a quick one: if you were going to donate money to NSPCC this year then THIS would be a great way to do it. I have just ordered a letter for DD and I am sure she will be more excited about that than any present.

Eager_Elephant

Marru wrote: »

Just a quick one: if you were going to donate money to NSPCC this year then THIS would be a great way to do it. I have just ordered a letter for DD and I am sure she will be more excited about that than any present.

My DH did one for our DD - she was so pleased as she had written him a letter.

She had asked that her 2 little cousins get a present too and he had written about them - she could not believe it.

I was so overcome with emotion about the way she reacted that I had a lump in my throat!!!

Alisonpennypincher

Have you all tried the video on Portablenorthpole.tv too? You can personalise it with childs picture, where they live whether they are at school/nuresery and information of presents they've asked for etc. Utterly magical and i can not recommend enough. I always cry when i see this for DS.

Karmacat

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Happy Birthday Karma xxx

I don't post very often, I think I am lucky that I have been on MSE for a while and a solid group of online support(that frankly I wouldn't have managed without in the last few weeks). I sort of liken this thread to watching a really good TV show, I care about the characters, I want them to be successful but I am not part of it, I simply don't have the drive or share the same beliefs. However I do really root for you all and hope that your plans work out. I am amazed and impressed by all the achievements so far. it is very inspiring. I get the impression there are a lo of Lurkers on here who support from the sidelines.

I didn't expect all the "Happy Birthdays", so thank you all very much :o:o

The bit of Buffy's post that I bolded, that speaks to me

Firewalker wrote: »

Happy Birthday KC (I said this elsewhere in cyber space as well).

You did, and thank you :kisses3:

KC, I am not going to shoot you but will have to clarify something. I never saw the Matrix as being about one person. Probably this is why I gave and I received; sometimes I didn't get much; but then sometimes I couldn't offer much either. My feeling is that there is a bit of the mentality of MSE forums here (which btw are not much different from multiplicity of small blogs within the large umbrella of Martin's site). They have to have a story (any blog does) but the story has to be one of deprivation, strive and eventually victory. Anybody who has appeared on the DFW forum, who can write (and many can) and can entertain (in different ways) gets a following. Few manage to keep the following when they start doin well (my hat goes off to Hypno here; though I visit with her very occasionally because I am not that interested in her latest night out; often enough to offer a hand if needed though).

The structure of the Matrix - well, its complicated, as facebook used to let you say (don't know if it still does!). A matrix is by definition a to-and-fro, interconnected and integrated, and not about one person. And very often, it does that. But it also doesn't - MrsMoo's point about MG being the only one to start the thread, and the very title of this thread, tell the story. That underlying structure has implications for MG herself, and for the group of people on here.

I like the matrix, I enjoy the matrix. I can't say the same for MG's Matrix, sorry. And I don't think its right to go into the psychological reasoning behind that, although what I can say about me is that, in the ordinary sense of things, my life is moving away from the mse forum in general. In any case, that reasoning grew up after I started to pay attention to a gut feeling, which is what brought the whole issue into the light for me.

I know thats as clear as mud, and I do apologise, but thats where I am.

MrsMoo2U wrote: »

I have been reading, pondering and considering all of the posts today. I have spoken with Fantasia seperately about my own feeling of seperation from the Matrix and I would like to thank Fantasia for raising her thoughts about this. It is good to be able to discuss things on here in a grown up fashion without any sniping, bitterness or accusations. Where else on MSE can this happen.
KC and Tricia have both really summed up the thoughts that I have been having. Those of you from "the other side" know that I publicly stepped back because I felt that the time I was spending around the forum was holding me back and that my own mentality had moved on from Make do and Mend and I had nothing more to give. This is a natural cycle of events if you think about the change curve and this curve comes into play for all circumstances in our lives as we deal with change. Quite a few people have popped up and said the same thing.
I think that what KC was saying with regards to MG is a valid point. Whilst each diary has to have a story as FW points out it is unfair to expect MG to be the one that drives the thread forward all of the time. This thread has evolved into much more than MGs own personal diary as other people are posting on here more than she does (that is not a criticism just an observation), so many people have so much to discuss a lot of the time that sometimes a call for help can be lost in the melee. This is nobody's fault it is as it is. People are busy and skim read the fast moving posts. I did almost post something at the end of the last thread about the Matrix maybe not needing MG to be the one to set up the new thread and even that she may wish to start her own seperate diary to allow her to focus on her journey but I deleted it for fear of upsetting people. No courage you see, I am like the lion in Oz.

You make some really good points, MrsMoo. And you forget that the lion in Oz proved that he *did* have a heart, he just didn't have the confidence in it!

scottishlass

Its been a while since I posted on here...but have been following what's going on...I'd previously made the decision to not post on here and move to the other side and was fairly active on there for a while but I think like most people on here I/my life began to change and went through a phase of feeling like I didn't fit anywhere and so stopped posting completely. Not on here as I'm not a DFW, not on the other side as I didn't have a M to be MFI3 however the funny thing is I do now have a house but I'm not sure that MFI3 is where I belong.

Not quite sure where I'm going with this post but what I do know is that I've certainly learnt plenty from being on here and over there and I know that I now need to decide how much more involve I get in the future as at one point I did feel quite frustrated but I agree that its most likely down to the time of the year as I'm sure the Matrix had a similar down point last year.

I wish everyone good luck in their own journey - and I hope those that have previously mentioned that they would like to join the other side do get the chance

Memory_Girl

Wow - I know I have said it before, but "you ladies can talk" - but what really cheered my cockles is that unlike some threads on this site not a single soul has resorted to being a BMW (B**tcher, moaner and whiner). A full and frank discussion about feelings and perceptions without anyone getting defensive or angry.

SO ......................... I think it would be a waste to let this community dissipate on here, so today's challenge is to ask someone who is further back along the curve of change to pick up the reins and gather the Matrix on here around them.

I think it has been too valuable a resource, to me and to others,to just stop without consideration for others. But I see the point about my post DFW not being the one that people can relate to ( at least within the context of the ethos of this particular website)

My focus has moved outwards now - to building a future for my littlies, because FW's Economist is right I think we are only at the beginning of a 1950's style and for me as a single Mum with two kids there is no way will be able to survive on the minimum wage jobs on offer around here. I NEED to do something bigger / different / riskier because they are my entire life focus.

So fantasia has made me be "grown-up" about this - and really look (a la Tim Ferris and "The Four Hour Work Week") about where my limited time needs to be properly leveraged. But ladies - it is all so positive, please believe me .................. I may be cocooned in my wee hoose up here in the snow, but it has been productive time.

1. I have daily calls with the Mentors and have eight months of daily lessons and challenges written for our ladies on the other side.

2. Using those lessons I have a journalist, Media Agent and PR Guy putting the final touches to a MFin3 media campaign (hence the photo shoot this week)

3. I have (let me check) 1137 daily posts ready for the MFin3 site. Mr F is in the last stages of his own launch and will then turn his eye onto there to get it working right as we chatted about. Including I hope reinstating the email prompt of new posts. Novembers challenges were previously run on the Matrix Forum - and it was suggested by some matrix Ladies they were published where everyone else could access them (hence the duplication BTW)

4. In the meantime I am enjoying precious time with my boys - preparing for a very lovely holiday that is all bought and paid for .............

............... these are not justifications BTW - rather these are examples of some of the things you have all given me the strength, motivation and skills to go out and do. Without this forum I should have lost our home and as a family we should be in a much more precarious situation and for that you all have my everlasting support and love.

So do not think for one moment this is "Goodbye" - but lets instead find someone else to be the focus on here, someone else who can benefit from your support and advice.

What do you think?

MG