MG - The Matrix Re-wired

cashsaver

Hi Memory Girl...
I have followed your Diary for a long time... lurking in the background but have now felt compelled to cast my vote your way in the MADS challenge.

So, with that done... just wanted to say good luck to one of the most inspiring women I have 'virtually' met!!!:T

That sofa is ruddy well amazing!

Cashsaver

Memory_Girl

Thanks cashsaver - that is a lovely way for me start the morning -Yay!!!

And the sofa is holding up really well under the pressure of two active wee men - it still makes my heart sing when I go into the room.

DS2 slept right through from 5pm till half six this morning and is now full of the joys of spring - and I laid out all the towels, bucket etc as I was convinced we were going to have a night of it, but NOTHING!!! YAY!!!

Mind Mapping day today - gotta go earn some pennies, thankfully the book this time is pretty interesting so I have some great images planned.

Going to get a wiggle on as I want to get back to some sewing soon.

MG

crickett1234

Morning Matrix.

I think the enormity of what happened at the weekend has hit home. I feel like an extra in a zombie flick! We went to see Dad in the Chapel of Ease on Monday, and yesterday we got the results of the post mortem. He died of a pulmonary embolism as a result of a deep vein thrombosis. Absolutely nothing anyone could have done for him. In a very weird way, that makes me feel better. I had begun to think that I had not done all I could have to help him, but I had.

Now we begin the organisation stuff. There is so much paperwork, it makes your head spin.

Lots of love to you all. I am off to have a shower and then drive to my homoeopath appointment. Mum is waiting in for a DHL package to be delivered. And she has said she will do washing and ironing for me too. Bless her!

maryb

Crickett it's hardest for those left behind but I can see why the result of the PM makes you feel better. And I hope it is some comfort that it was not a protracted painful end. May he rest in peace.

Dorastar

Still sending lots of (((hugs))) your way Crickett and filled in a little pentecost dove on Sunday praying for peace for you and your family.

Dentist today and tried repeating a little saying while having two fillings - "I can feel no pain" and surprisingly I actually didn't feel any - I am still physically shaking from the actual being there and having something done but very pleased with myself as normally I cry buckets while I'm there (which is why dad takes the kids not me!)

robsmum_2

Crickett: Only just logged on after a few days abscense and wanted to add my thought and parayers and hugs to you and your family.

Memory_Girl

I agree with the ladies crickett - now is the time to just "be" and to not "do" - I am certain you would tell us all the same about taking our time and being kind to ourselves.

We are always a soft place to fall remember that.

MG

Alisonpennypincher

Hello ladies,

I am a long time lurker, so i hope that you will forgive me for being so forward to ask for your help without being "active", but i don't know where to turn at the moment and i'm crumbling.

Long story short, My mum has had a bad chest for weeks now, yesterday she had a follow up appointment at the hospital, where she was told she would need a lung biopsy, as she has "ground glass shadowing" on her lungs.

Now i know i shouldn't, but i googled this term and the results are not good. Mum goes in for her biopsy a week on friday and i'm in bits. I have not mentioned my fears to her at the moment as i do not want her under any further stress. And as she does not have a computer, luckily she won't be able to find anything out for herself.

My DS aged 7 does not know either, and trying to put on my "Mummy" act whilst worrying and falling to bits is doing me in. Please forgive me for asking when i know we are all in need ladies, but any spare vibes would be truly appreciated. I promise to try not to lurk so much anymore, i'm just a bit rubbish at posting!

Hope that you are all well, Crickett my deepest sympathies to you at the moment, and i can only imagine what a very sad time you are experiencing, as such my spare hugs and hopes/prayers are winging their way to you.

Thanks for listening(reading)

APP x

crickett1234

APP, while my family and I are still in the holding pattern before dates get set and stuff, you can have all my spare vibes darling. Keep strong, and crumble if you need to.

Mum and I have been amazingly productive today, despite both of us being really tired. We have a meeting with the registrar tomorrow to formally register the death and get the certificates and what not. We are getting a visit from my friend the funeral director tomorrow and hopefully we will get some stuff organised. All this waiting around is hacking us off! However, if you think that it is less than a week since it happened, we are doing really well.

We have done all the washing, sorted out all the ironing, although our iron just blew up, so we are going to have to get a new one before tackling the horridness that is 3 baskets of ironing! One of those is Mum's clothes, but still. I loathe ironing. It will be penance to do it all! Luckily Mum wants to do most of it as a thank you for putting her up. Bless her! :A

There is still lots of stuff to do, but we want to have a quiet and restful Jubilee weekend, so we are going to do shopping and housework tomorrow, so we can just rest, and recuperate.

Thanks again everyone. Lots of love and positive vibes.

groatie_queen

Alison, what a stressful situation to be dealing with. I can sense how worried and anxious you are. It's hard to be the one holding scary thoughts and keeping strong for others.

I suggest you share with someone you know and trust who is not directly involved, and can listen to your concerns. If not someone you know, then you can phone Samaritans who are excellent listeners. Face to face counselling might take more time to organise but can be very valuable.

Keep posting here and sharing with us. There's always someone around for virtual tea, sympathy and hugs. Some of us have been through the toils of supporting unwell loved ones and understand the fears and anxiety you're facing.

Big hugs ((((( )))))