Objective opinions from the sistahood

Seanymph

Some men are more into the chase than the catching though. I have dated one (who I met on a dating site) - in fact, until the health bit I wondered if he was still doing the same thing...

He could well still be looking, lining up somewhere to fall, I'd ask him - men who are that brazen are generally truthful with it too.

candygirl

Seanymph wrote: »

Some men are more into the chase than the catching though. I have dated one (who I met on a dating site) - in fact, until the health bit I wondered if he was still doing the same thing...

He could well still be looking, lining up somewhere to fall, I'd ask him - men who are that brazen are generally truthful with it too.

Not always hun:mad:

Seanymph

ah - sorry Candygirl. The one I met was. This one seems able to say 'work is so important I will not speak with you between x and x'. Surely it has to be worth asking him?

Person_one

Peater wrote: »

Sounds like you just want an excuse to sit around in pyjama's eating ice-cream with your girly mates talking about how awful men are....

To be fair, that can be a lot of fun...

findingmyownway

JUST ASK HIM!!

Or sit down one night and say "oh that reminds me, we need to cancel our Match (or whatever) profiles don't we? shall we do it now, it would be nice to do it together"

Bufger

Have you asked his wife what she thinks?

Only joking.. but you never know! Confront him and ask him why he goes back there. It may be a social tool for him, he may have friends on there etc. If he's browsing other profiles and chatting to new women then its obviously a bad sign.

I would check the wife thing too.

Acc72

Need_some_help wrote: »

Sisters, please tell me what I need to hear.

I am not sure how asking the advice from random anonymous "sisters" is going to help you !

On the one hand, he just may not have got round to deleting his profile (as you yourself only "recently" closed yours).

On the other hand, he could be on the look out for a partner who does not expect him to drop everything whilst he is at work, who is communicative, does not have trust issues and does not check up on him.

There is only way to find out ...... speak with him - you can then make a decision based on facts rather than supposition.

Need_some_help

Peater wrote: »

You have asked for some objective opinions, which you have recieved many.

But you have shunned them all in favour of a rash decision. So what was the point?

Because it's bad enough having a broken heart, without being made a mug of as well. I don't think it's a rash decision, I have thought about nothing else all night and can't concentrate on my work today. The evidence says one thing, he says another.

Peater wrote: »

Sounds like you just want an excuse to sit around in pyjama's eating ice-cream with your girly mates talking about how awful men are....?

That's not true. I never discuss my relationships with female friends, that's why I posted here. I just want to curl up and hide from everything and everyone.

Peater wrote: »

Talk to the guy! If you have already decided to break it off, what is there to lose?

I don't want to be lied to again, it's so difficult to resist him and much easier to see the reality of the situation when he's not charming me. I don't want him to know that I am devastated, walking away seems like the easier option all round.

paddy's_mum

If this was about illness, I'd be completely justified in calling you a hypochondriac!

You've got a headache, the third one this month so therefore (so your logic goes) you are about to die of a virulent, all encompassing, disgusting and painful septic abcess of the brain.

You've had two painful periods in a row. Therefore, (so your logic goes) you'd better start getting a will made since clearly you have some rare and incurable condition of the womb that will require you to kill yourself before it gets too bad.

How can you possibly justify throwing out, as though it was a pile of vomit the cat left on the kitchen floor, a relationship that you describe as head over heels in love without asking so much as one question?

If this was a trial of an accused person, it would be called a lynch mob! You are condemning the man on the flimsiest possible evidence and not giving him even the most basic right to defend himself. If this was justice - in the legal sense - you'd be a repressive and totalitarian regime shunned by the rest of the world.

Sadly, not only are you condemning him but you are cutting your own throat too and I feel very sorry for you. Won't you stop for a moment or two and reconsider?

Person_one

Need_some_help wrote: »

That's not true. I never discuss my relationships with female friends, that's why I posted here. I just want to curl up and hide from everything and everyone.

Why on earth not? They are just as able to give you a bit of perspective as we are and they actually know and care about you!