Objective opinions from the sistahood

Acc72

VfM4meplse wrote: »

Seriously, if the OP has been stressing all night, there must be more to it than what's been posted. It sounds like she is scared of her b/f, and if this is the case, she is better off w/o him.

Seriously ? ...............

If you come to that conclusion based on what the OP has written, you should be recruited by Special Branch ........

Oldernotwiser

Need_some_help wrote: »

My man has a very particular personality that many women would not fiind attractive, let alone be able to manage. He also has a health condition that would put many people off him, but just makes me love him more.

I know I'm being nosy but I bet I'm not the only one who wants more information!

Slinky

I think this poor bloke is about to have a lucky escape.............

Youdontseeme

Need_some_help wrote: »

I don't think I could frame this in an objective way, I'll just end up crying and behaving like a pathetic wreck. That's the last thing that either of us need.

My man has a very particular personality that many women would not fiind attractive, let alone be able to manage. He also has a health condition that would put many people off him, but just makes me love him more. This is going to be so hard because I really wanted to make a life with him.

Geeeeeeeeez, you make it sound like your doing him a huge favour by going out with him, I wouldn't be surprised if he is more than a tad insecure!

Talk to him!

Its a lot easier to get over making a fool of yourself than it is to get over a broken heart.

YDSM

katerinasol

... Wow. Didn't expect this to turn out to be so melodramatic.

paddy's_mum

Stop crying ... start fighting!!

Person_one

VfM4meplse wrote: »

I think this post is harsh, but then again the OP is acting like a teenager in love .

Yeah, fair enough, it is harsh. Sorry OP, some days I just have patience and empathy failure, not your fault.

I do think you might want to have a serious think about what the bare bones of this situation are though and try to figure out why you're having such a strong reaction. You don't talk to your friends about this stuff but if they're sensible good friends it would probably do you a lot of good.

candygirl

I think some people, not only blokes, get addicted to these dating sites, and like to keep their hand in ,so to speak, even when they're in a relationship:D
OP only you know if you can live with it, but i'd deffo have a frank discussion about it, and tell him you're not happy with the current situation;):D

jaqui59

OP ... You are obviously afraid to ask this man the question you should be asking, for fear of hearing what you don't want to hear ... Be brave, swallow your pride and ASK!!! The relief you will feel will be immense, whatever the outcome.

Jinx

I met my hubby on a dating site. I often chatted to him on msn while we were dating (we lived miles apart) and was chatting on the dating site as it had a chat room and I touch type and hubby doesnt..... There was nothing untoward in it. I do think there is a point where you have to cancel the dating site but its not an immediate thing.

I can be melodramatic too and when you are newly with someone sometimes its not easy to stay rational, but you have to try! lol A good chat is in order...