Teacher scared my son

Bufger

Speaking as a parent and somebody married to a teacher - its usually a different story when the truth comes out. Of course your son could be telling the truth but 99% of the time a leading question like 'did she shout at you loudly' will be met with a quick decision and a 'yes'. Its just what kids do, not necessarily naughty kids.

I would seriously consider speaking to the teacher completely open minded rather than deciding what you want done before hearing the complete story.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Can someone clarify, please?

Was it the boy shouting (which is flaming annoying when other children are in their classes trying to work), which all children know full well is not allowed?

Was it the teacher shouting?

Where does the bullying stuff come from? Is this related to the shouting? Or is this something completely different that has sprung out of thin air?


You really need to find out what exactly happened - and if it turns out that the boy has actually been bullying other children, be prepared to eat humble pie, as it would be only fair that a bully gets the fright of his life from a teacher, in order to put a stop to it in primary, rather than get the message that dad will come and protect him so he can carry on regardless.

If, however, it is telling him off for disrupting half the school, which shouting in a corridor can easily do, then the simple solution is to tell him not to do it again and he won't have a problem.

And if it was a stressed teacher letting rip at someone, then the head/deputy head will look into it and deal with it.


In any case, going down there all guns blazing and shouting 'Big Daddy's Boy is INNOCENT' won't help as much as asking them to clarify what happened.

Peater

I was skinny and shy at school and i am ashamed to admit that i made another lad's life a living hell through taunting and teasing.

My parents knew me to be a 'sensitive soul' but when i was 'dobbed in' by said boy, i was gobsmacked that my parents automatically (and rightly) sided with the staff body as i thought i had spun a decent enough yarn about how i could'nt hurt a fly.

Please, don't rule out that you're angel has more than 1 side. You don't see them when they are at school.

real1314

Bigdaddy77 wrote: »

he got told off by a teacher for shouting in the corridor - Seems to be one view of the facts

She must have really laid in to him and then randomly accused him of bullying two of "her boys" two year 6. Supposiition of how she behaved, assumption that the accusation was "random"

He is really upset and completely denies shouting (I wouldnt mind if he did it its hardly the crime of the century.) Erm, "wouldn't mind if he did it" - Really?

Do I push for an apology You don't know that he deserves an apology. You've only had 1 side of things.

(nobody saw this happen it was his word against two older boys running to tell on him)Sailing very close to "they can't prove it"

I dont send my son to school to be frightened by teachers especially when he isnt in the wrong. Which you don't know.

She has completely overeacted and Im livid on my sons behalf. She told him off is what you've got. The rest is supposition, based on what you've posted. Should I let it go

Based on this version of what happened, the boy got told off for shouting, based on 2 kids telling a teacher immediately.

The teacher may have got it wrong, it's possible; The teacher may have over-reacted, that's possible too.
However on the first draft, most of the problem is supposition based on how the kid reacted to being told off.

Why would you start with "told off" when you then change it to some sort of verbal ear-bashing?
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make_me_wise

Bigdaddy77 wrote: »

She must have really laid in to him and then randomly accused him of bullying two of "her boys" two year 6. My son is only of slight build and shy and has no idea where this other accusation came from.

I dont send my son to school to be frightened by teachers especially when he isnt in the wrong. She has completely overeacted and Im livid on my sons behalf. Should I let it go

You sound like one of those naive mothers who thinks her little angel can do no wrong. All you have is your sons version of events. He is hardly likely to be singing a teachers praises when she has pulled him up for misbehaving.

You weren't there so you dont actually know what went on. How can you be sure that the teacher handled it unprofessionally and completely overreacted. Seems immature and premature to be livid with the teacher over something you have no proof of.

If you are really concerned about things then phone the school and ask for a meeting. Get all sides and work towards a conclusion to this problem. Go in all guns blazing and accuse a teacher of misconduct and you will get no-where.

poppyolivia

Thats not scaring a child, scaring a child is telling them that if they don't behave or do their homework the devil will get them in the night! oh and Jesus will visit you too, frightened so much you hide under the bed in fear........yip my old school closed down!lol (not because of that though)..I'd actually left before all this, the teacher was a bam pot to say the least!
Anyhooo hope you get it sorted!:D

Lotus-eater

Tropez wrote: »

The Head Teacher in my junior school was a nut.

He once yelled at me for about three minutes because I had been rude and barged into him. I was leaving a classroom and he walked into me because he was concentrating on whatever he was reading and not where he was going but obviously who was going to believe a child over the Head Teacher?

That same Head Teacher physically assaulted me once too. In retrospect I should have told my parents.

I had another teacher who gave me some grief for asking him where he would like me to put the chair that he had asked me to pick up. Clearly, I was supposed to stand there all day holding a chair...

In your case, I'd ask the teacher for her version of events. Some teachers really do act in an unprofessional manner but that isn't to say that there can't possibly be a reason for the way in which she chose to act.

I think you must have had the same head teacher as me. He assaulted me twice, but it was allowed in those days.

I did tell my parents, but they told me I must have done something to deserve it. I still feel a little let down by my parents today about that.

He was a thug and a bully, some teachers still are I suppose, but certainly less.

Definitely a talk to the teacher with your son and move it up the ladder if you aren't happy about it moment.
But you certainly don't go in guns blazing, you find out to the best of your ability what happened.

And if your son did something wrong, you let him know. If you feel the teacher did, likewise.

Reggie_Rebel

I wonder if the OP went in and if so what the outcome was?

pollypenny

Shock! Horror!

Teacher shouts at child!

Is there anyone here who was not shouted at in childhood - I don't mean permanently, but on the odd occasion of misbehaviour?

Confession time - I have to admit that I have been known to raise my voice at the little darlings.

Of course, I'd make sure that I'd 'pick on' the child that was always perfectly behaved.

Nicki

Haven't read everything, but just wanted to say that I was shouted at unfairly as a child by a teacher and my dad went in and complained. For the remainder of my time at school I was terrified of that teacher, and he went out of his way to pull me up for every minor transgression. By contrast, I had tellings off from other teachers without dad's intervention and moved on quickly and easily from them. Fighting your child's corner in these circumstances isn't always the best thing to do.