Teacher scared my son

meritaten

I may well be the lone dissenting voice - but, I think that the OP should go into school tomorrow and ask the childs class teacher for thier take on this! Coolly and calmly! The OP knows HER SON and to dismiss her, as so many of you have done, doesnt actually help matters. It seems that most of you think the OPs son is lying.........not willing to give the child or the OP the benefit of the doubt.
I would certainly want to get to the bottom of this - and I suspect this is what the OP wants too!

I have noticed a tendency on this thread to belittle parents concerns. this worries me - but then, there do seem to be a lot of teachers who post on here!

thorsoak

Please don't forget how upset and angry somebody can be when they are actually guilty of doing something wrong .....your son could well be embarrassed and upset at whatever it was that happened - and as somebody else has said, it was TWO other children who were involved.

Just go in, and ask the teacher involved what actually transpired ....

Oldernotwiser

Bigdaddy77 wrote: »

Sneezyboots I expect an apology, teachers shouldnt take one childs version over another if they werent there. The only difference is these boys were in her class

Isn't that exactly what you're doing?

GobbledyGook

meritaten wrote: »

I may well be the lone dissenting voice - but, I think that the OP should go into school tomorrow and ask the childs class teacher for thier take on this! Coolly and calmly! The OP knows HER SON and to dismiss her, as so many of you have done, doesnt actually help matters. It seems that most of you think the OPs son is lying.........not willing to give the child or the OP the benefit of the doubt.
I would certainly want to get to the bottom of this - and I suspect this is what the OP wants too!

I have noticed a tendency on this thread to belittle parents concerns. this worries me - but then, there do seem to be a lot of teachers who post on here!

There's at least two people, myself included, who have said that if she feels that strongly about it she should go in.

The OP does know her son, (not a teacher btw - just work in schools) and no child (IMO) goes all the way through school without getting a single row.

There is a difference between seeking clarification on something and wanting the teacher to apologise though. That instant attitude that the teacher is wrong and, rudely imo, implying that the teacher ONLY took the word of the boys because they are in her own class is not an attitude that will go down well at the school.

c0rneL

meritaten wrote: »

I have noticed a tendency on this thread to belittle parents concerns. this worries me - but then, there do seem to be a lot of teachers who post on here!

but, again, in my experience misbehaving children need to learn;
teacher teach them what is appropriate and what is not appropriate;
some children learn right away, some still behave inappropriate;

then there are 2 kind of parents:
- some parents believe what teachers say, have honest discussions with the children and their children improve, and value learning
- some parents blames teachers, take part of children, and their children do not improve and carry on behaving inappropriate

Never have I seen a child behaving and being punished by a teacher, just like that

jamespir

geez calm down have a word with teacher nicely dont tear strips off him/her teachers are their to discipline pupils if they misbehave and i cant see shes/hes done much wrong

Bigdaddy77

I will agree to disagree with some of you, I know my son is telling the truth and no I dont always take his side because I am well aware he isnt perfect. I dont have a problem with him being told off. But I do when on another childs sayso he has got into trouble and I believe he didnt do it. Also telling a child off doesnt have to mean frightening them. I know this teacher on a presonal level as she is my cousins friend so im not out for her. I want to protect my son. He was very distressed and Im expecting trouble tomorrow morning trying to get him into school. All this because he was apparently shouting in the corridor coming in from playtime. Anyway I was looking for opinions I guess im in the minority for having faith in my son

meritaten

is this for real? a teacher takes a child out of class and shouts at him (is THAT professional behaviour - I hope not). The child is distressed and denys any wrongdoing, and his mum posts on here for advice - and all YOU can say is 'The teacher is right, the child did something wrong, SUCK it UP? the mum will only annoy the staff if she questions this .................'
a MUMs JOB is to look after their kids - if that involves questioning the school about an incident, and NOT taking one teachers word for it...........so be it!
Its just too bad if you all think that questioning the school is beyond the pale! Parents have THIER own kids interests at heart! Seems to me this parent needs to know what happened.

Tropez

Out of interest, am I the only one who thinks someone using the username "Bigdaddy77" is likely to be the father?

GobbledyGook

meritaten wrote: »

is this for real? a teacher takes a child out of class and shouts at him (is THAT professional behaviour - I hope not). The child is distressed and denys any wrongdoing, and his mum posts on here for advice - and all YOU can say is 'The teacher is right, the child did something wrong, SUCK it UP? the mum will only annoy the staff if she questions this .................'
a MUMs JOB is to look after their kids - if that involves questioning the school about an incident, and NOT taking one teachers word for it...........so be it!
Its just too bad if you all think that questioning the school is beyond the pale! Parents have THIER own kids interests at heart! Seems to me this parent needs to know what happened.

There's a difference between asking for clarification and assuming that the teacher is in the wrong.


It could be something as simple as the OP's son was being louder than he realised - after playtime it happens ALL the time. Children just go up a number of decibels.

So it could be that no-one is actually in the wrong. The boy could have been loud without reaslising, the teacher could just be a stricter/shoutier teacher than he is used to and it could all be something that is easily sorted.

Assuming that the teacher has just taken the work of children in her class and shouted at a child for no reason is just as unfair on her as it is being said that it is on the boy for assuming he was misbehaving.

Very few schools will have any issues with a parent asking for clarification. I don't know any that would. If you go in ranting about a teacher unfairly treating your child then that is a different kettle of fish.