Teacher scared my son

Proc

People like OP are the reason why teachers are getting sick and tired of always treading on egg shells and can't discipline kids. They're also normally the first to complain about teacher's and school's failings when actually their own kids are just cocky little gobsh1tes who know mummy will always have their back.

Your son was scared. Boo hoo. He won't fu*k about with that teacher again. If you make a big deal your son is going to grow up to be a new strain of super-pansy.

Sally_A

Tropez wrote: »

Out of interest, am I the only one who thinks someone using the username "Bigdaddy77" is likely to be the father?

Not at all, I've kept my replies gender neutral

GobbledyGook

Bigdaddy - lots of children are frightened when they get in trouble for the first time. He'll get over it and he'll learn that some teacher's are louder or shoutier than others.

If he's not a boy who gets in trouble then getting a row from another teacher will have been a big thing. Probably as much as the teacher's manner and the incident itself. Children don't like being rowed by teacher's they don't know. It's probably one of the biggest things they get used to in school imo, especially if they have quiet teachers and then encouter a bigger one (either in voice or stature).

Bigdaddy77

Proc I am not bringing up a tearaway if I was I wouldnt be asking for advice on how to deal with this. Please dont judge me I love my children but Im not blind to their inperfections nor do i expect them to disregard their teachers. I think Ill go now cant believe the some of the responses perhaps I should let my eight year old fight his own corner from now on

balletshoes

I don't think most posters do think its the child's fault. I certainly don't - but I also don't think there should be an automatic assumption that the teacher is completely in the wrong and an apology is to be expected from them as soon as the OP goes into school.

And no, I'm not a teacher, or in any way connected with the education profession.

meritaten

No BigDaddy - dont go! Its about time that parents fought their corner! I have been on here a couple of years now and it seems to me that the number of parents who will actually stick up for their child is declining!
There are a number of teachers who post on this thread who jump all over parents who dare to question the school system. I have noticed that they tend to post with negative comments about parents - as if parents who actually believe what their kids tell them are gullible and stupid!
to them - Teachers are ALWAYS wise, kids always lie, school rules trump the law of the land - and parents are always WRONG!
stick to your guns hun! YOU know your child - find out what happened!

Oldernotwiser

meritaten wrote: »

is this for real? a teacher takes a child out of class and shouts at him (is THAT professional behaviour - I hope not). The child is distressed and denys any wrongdoing, and his mum posts on here for advice - and all YOU can say is 'The teacher is right, the child did something wrong, SUCK it UP? the mum will only annoy the staff if she questions this .................'
a MUMs JOB is to look after their kids - if that involves questioning the school about an incident, and NOT taking one teachers word for it...........so be it!
Its just too bad if you all think that questioning the school is beyond the pale! Parents have THIER own kids interests at heart! Seems to me this parent needs to know what happened.

Which pretty well explains why discipline in schools is so difficult these days!

jamespir

meritaten wrote: »

is this for real? a teacher takes a child out of class and shouts at him (is THAT professional behaviour - I hope not). The child is distressed and denys any wrongdoing, and his mum posts on here for advice - and all YOU can say is 'The teacher is right, the child did something wrong, SUCK it UP? the mum will only annoy the staff if she questions this .................'
a MUMs JOB is to look after their kids - if that involves questioning the school about an incident, and NOT taking one teachers word for it...........so be it!
Its just too bad if you all think that questioning the school is beyond the pale! Parents have THIER own kids interests at heart! Seems to me this parent needs to know what happened.

sorry but that attitude its little wonder kids have no respect for authority these days

Yorkie1

Nobody is saying that the OP shouldn't go in and ask what happened.

But the OP wasn't going to do that. The OP was simply going to go in, all guns blazing, having pre-judged what happened and why, and demanding an apology.

Those are 2 completely different scenarios and likely to get 2 different outcomes. One constructive, and one simply labelling the OP as an obnoxious interfering parent. There are ways and means of doing things and OP's original proposal (now moderated) was not the constructive way.

jamespir

Bigdaddy77 wrote: »

Proc I am not bringing up a tearaway if I was I wouldnt be asking for advice on how to deal with this. Please dont judge me I love my children but Im not blind to their inperfections nor do i expect them to disregard their teachers. I think Ill go now cant believe the some of the responses perhaps I should let my eight year old fight his own corner from now on

im not judging you as that would be unfair but dont judge the teacher either untill youve heard all the facts

kids at 8 do exaggerate and tell fibs (not saying your son has)

but would it not be better to talk to the teacher with your son and find out what actually went on
rather than kicking up a stink and kicking things out of proportion

if you feel at the end your sons teacher was still in the wrong and hasnt given you a satifactory explantion then go to the deputy head