Teacher scared my son

sneezyboots

If you speak to the deputy tomorrow as you are suggesting I can assure you they will say they know nothing of the matter and therefore can't say/do anything without speaking to them. You may well then be embarrassed IF they speak to teacher and child and find out he did something wrong and was told off. If the teacher did do something out of line you will be told the issue has now been addressed.

balletshoes

Bigdaddy77 wrote: »

OK same scene in your office boss comes up to you gets right up close in your face and starts shouting would you like it.
I dont even do that to my own children. Yes im probably overreacting but I have every right hes my son. In the morning Ill have calmed down and will mention it to the the teacher. Thanks I was on a rant.

no, the same scene would be the boss calling you into his office and starts shouting. You might just have a shouty boss, in which case you might be kind of used to it if you'd been in the workplace for a while. You might also have mucked something up and needed to be told about it. So many scenarios, and the school one with your son has more than one scenario too. Until you've spoken to the teacher to find out where they were coming from, you really don't have any idea what went on.

McKneff

Bigdaddy77 wrote: »

Its her lack of professionalism that gets me the most, ok kids need to follow rules but really shouting in the corridor, she actually got him out of class to speak to him because they had just got in from playtime. Total overreaction, invading a childs personal space is downright intimidating

You need to take a step back.

You only have your sons side of the story, I bet there is a lot more to it than he is telling you. Kids will tell you exactly and only what keeps them out of trouble.

You need to speak calmly and in adult manner to the teacher, at the moment you seem to be jumping up and down in temper at a teacher who will give you another story tomorrow.

Now calm down and deal with it when you get the full facts.

Sally_A

The best approach is to tell the teacher your son was upset, but ask if they know what led up to the situation so it could be an issue you could reslove better at home on a one to one with your child.

McKneff

Hi Tropez
You quote

I had another teacher who gave me some grief for asking him where he would like me to put the chair that he had asked me to pick up. Clearly, I was supposed to stand there all day holding a chair...

I'll bet a pound to a penny you had one eyebrow raised at the time eh.:D:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Bigdaddy77

Sally thank you, sensible advice readin these replies has made me calm down abit lol! Just not nice seeing your child come out of school shaking in distress

Tropez

McKneff wrote: »

Hi Tropez
You quote

I had another teacher who gave me some grief for asking him where he would like me to put the chair that he had asked me to pick up. Clearly, I was supposed to stand there all day holding a chair...

I'll bet a pound to a penny you had one eyebrow raised at the time eh.:D:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

:rotfl::rotfl:

To be honest, the teacher in that case was well known for being completely bonkers. He would yell at anyone for anything. I remember he was ill for a while and when he came back he was nice to people - calm, collected, complimentary even! We all thought he'd found God or something...

One week later, back to his usual self...

I later figured that there must be something dodgy coming out of the tap in his classroom from which he made his coffee. Whatever effects it was having had left his system when he was away ill (and probably made him ill) but after a week back on that stuff it changed him back!

pimento

Bigdaddy77 wrote: »

Sneezyboots I expect an apology, teachers shouldnt take one childs version over another if they werent there. The only difference is these boys were in her class

Why should the teacher apologise? Aren't they supposed to be in loco parentis?

I hope your son isn't hearing you saying how you're going to go to the school and tear the teacher off a strip.

c0rneL

In my experience no teacher will take action unless in the best interest of the children; why would a teacher pick on some well behaved child? So many parents react to quickly when children tell their side of the story, then they encourage children to disregard teachers ( by taking their part in incriminating teachers for for telling the children off ).

If a teacher tells my child off, even-though I love my child, I will trust the teacher unless I can fully verify what my child say;

In my opinion, parents are overprotecting and make children believe that whatever they do teachers are wrong to discipline them (things like, just a bit of misbehaving but teachers overreacted, etc) ; when children become teens they disregard teachers, schools, and in the end they disregard families.

Society has an duty to educate, teachers are trusted with this education, parents needs to support rather than fight.

I must admit, that there are rogue teachers, but those are easy to be identified with and dealt with within the school environment.

GobbledyGook

Bigdaddy77 wrote: »

Sneezyboots I expect an apology, teachers shouldnt take one childs version over another if they werent there. The only difference is these boys were in her class

She didn't take one child's word over another - she took the word of two children over that of one child. That is the difference, two witnesses as opposed to one child claiming innocence. School staff often have to take the word of children - staff can't be everywhere watching every child every second of the day.

When an incident is reported then you speak to all children involved and use your knowledge of the children to work out the most likely thing that happened. You can't simply ignore two children reporting something just because you were not there.

Teachers (in fact all staff in schools) will take a child aside or out of their class to speak to them because they/we'd get all sorts of grief from parents if we rowed their child in front of a whole class. We'd be accused of humiliating them.

I think you are over-reacting personally. It's obviously upset your son, which is a shame, but lots of children get upset when they get in trouble. This is especially the case when it is not their own teacher who rows them.

Just because your child normally owns up doesn't mean he was unfairly treated. Just because the teacher handles things differently to his own teacher doesn't mean he was unfairly treated. The fact that the two boys who reported him are in the shouting teachers class is in no way a certainty that she just took their word regardless. To suggest such will be insulting to the teacher and I think you should word it carefully.

If it has really upset your son then there's no harm in speaking to the school and asking for clarification on what happened, but I really wouldn't advise going in all guns blazing. That really doesn't help any situation.