Would you sell DD's old toys on ebay for new ones for Christmas?

74jax

moomoomama27 wrote: »

I'm lost!

I would really like to offer some help, but I don't know what to say because this thread has changed so many times!

What I'm understanding is that your DD sold her stuff, and wants you to buy things from a list and give them to her now, so it's a surprise, however you have already bought things from that list? No, she now wants the money, the problem is i've already ordered from the list, so I will have to either send them back (don't want to do) or pay for them and give them to her for christmas off me (i had other plans for presents for her) I think though, I will still keep them, as they are ordered now.

Firstly why don;t you just buy the things from her list that you havn't already bought? it wasn't a 'christmas present' list, i already have that. this was a list of what to buy with money from ebay. only there was too much on the list and she couldn't decide so asked me to pick, so it was a surprise.Secondly, if it's toys and they were given to her as a present, they are hers,the money should be hers at the point of sale, not to go towards somehitng that you would have had to get had she not sold her belongings. I wouldn't have got her these items, these were to be bought with ebay money For me it would be an extra!

My son sold all his duplo not long ago, it was all goven to him as presents, he then bought lego with it as it was hi property he sold.

Clothes are different.

I don't mind classing everything the same, she has the money for the old toys and her coat. I was torn over the coat though, but couldn't differentiate the two so she got the lot.

newcook

74jax wrote: »

Plus, she always gets me slippers and has really good taste!

So you are still going to be giving her money to buy you a Christmas present?!!? Does anyone in your family buy someone else presents or do you all pay for your own!!!!

I don’t think there is anything wrong with DD buying something for herself (I buy myself a xmas present, and wrap it and write ‘to me from me’ on the card) but she should also be encouraged to save some of the money or to get something from her list in the sales.
You have already said that money is tighter than normal yet you are still going to give DD money to buy you a present – she has £150 but you are happy for her to spend it all on herself and still give her money for your own present?!

I used to sell my toys as a teenager (good old misc pages in the local paper!) but the money would be split so I would have money for me and money to spend on presents – I didn’t get additional funds!

Lunar_Eclipse

74jax wrote: »

She asked for the money (can't blame her when she saw how much it was).

I transferred her the money.

HOWEVER, i have already ordered (though not arrived) 2 items that the money was going to be used for.

I've edited my original post quoted here. I would have deducted the amount you've already spent, since it's a natural consequence of her changing her mind. You could ask her if she'd prefer you to return them (if you can?)

2gorgeousgirls

CountingPennies wrote: »

Wow... I must be a terrible mother. I sell my kids clothes to buy new ones once they have outgrown them. Someone call social services :cool:

I don't view this in the same way as the OP's pressie issue. Clothes are a necessity and once they are outgrown I don't see a problem with selling them to buy new (as long as you don't give them as pressies!). However, OP stated she was getting rid of DVD, games etc, all of which are DD's possessions, and, as DD is 13, she should have the right to do as she chooses with them. If she chooses to sell them, she should also be able to spend the money as she sees fit.

I think the problem here is that the OP stated she is going to buy DD Christmas pressies with the money.

74jax

bestpud wrote: »

Honestly, I think you may as well give up, as people are not reading the thread properly now!

You're going to be getting these misinformed, knee-jerk responses all day!

No point going over it again and again as you will frazzle yourself!

Those of us who have read it properly know where you are coming from, if that's any help!

Ok thanks, I do feel I am just answering all the posts the same.

So, in order to bring this to a close the situ is:

DD picked ALL items to be sold.
DD has the money.
Items which she said she would pay for with the money I will keep and pay for myself and hope she doesn't buy them herself.
I will continue to give her extra money at Christmas, as I can afford it and I like too (maybe in future if the situation changes then I won't do this, but whilst I can, I will continue) I don't want her to worry about having to skimp and save over christmas present when it makes no difference to me if I give her a little more.

Lunar_Eclipse

newcook wrote: »

So you are still going to be giving her money to buy you a Christmas present?!!? Does anyone in your family buy someone else presents or do you all pay for your own!!!!

Brilliant! :rotfl:

Off topic, but I'm another that thinks the £30 to buy you a gift is a bit odd. It's also quite a lot of money for a 13 year old. A week's pocket money is probably roughly a good amount (which would mean that buying for 2 parents and 1/2 siblings would take about a month's saving) so I'd expect something along the lines of a bar of chocolate, a book or a magazine from my daughters, although they know homemade is best.;)

*max*

This is like something out of the twilight zone....OP is repeating the same things but with slightly different words and everyone is getting more and more confused.

I think we should all stop and have a cuppa/valium before we all look like this :drool:. Or go make papier mache or something.

74jax

newcook wrote: »

So you are still going to be giving her money to buy you a Christmas present?!!? Does anyone in your family buy someone else presents or do you all pay for your own!!!!

It used to be that her Dad gave her some money to get mine, and I did the same for him.

Over time, he no longer gives her money, but I still do. I think it's hard having two families to buy for. She loves her brother and sister dearly and I would rather she just got them something, but she wants to buy for her Dad and Step mum and me, it's a lot of money and if I can help out I really don't mind.

aliasojo

74jax wrote: »

DD picked ALL items to be sold.
DD has the money.
Items which she said she would pay for with the money I will keep and pay for myself and hope she doesn't buy them herself.
I will continue to give her extra money at Christmas, as I can afford it and I like too (maybe in future if the situation changes then I won't do this, but whilst I can, I will continue) I don't want her to worry about having to skimp and save over christmas present when it makes no difference to me if I give her a little more.

74jax wrote: »

Question is really as per title.

I asked DD if she had anything she wanted to sell for money for Christmas, and she picked a few things for me to put on ebay and give her the money.

I then got together old DS games she didn't use (box one side of the room, game somewhere under the bed etc) DVD's and bits and bobs and placed these on ebay for myself to keep the money. DD saw what I was doing but was ok with me saying it was for new Christmas presents.

and now what I had planned on getting her for xmas I can't.

Ok, I was happy with bestpud's interpretation until I read this.

It just really seems to me as if you change the goalposts with every post you make in order to address whatever point a poster has made. :undecided

newcook

74jax wrote: »

I don't want her to worry about having to skimp and save over christmas present when it makes no difference to me if I give her a little more.

but she doesnt have to scrimp and save - she has £150!! (well £170 if you include the money you are giving her)