Would you sell DD's old toys on ebay for new ones for Christmas?

barbiedoll

I haven't read all of the thread but from from the replies on the first couple of pages, it seems that OP is a terrible mother for selling her daughter's OLD toys, most, if not all of which were probably paid for by OP, in order to buy her DD new, expensive Christmas gifts. What's the problem with that?

I've been selling my son's old toys, all of which he has grown out of and doesn't play with any longer. He wouldn't dream of demanding the money for them, nor would I give it to him. He knows how strapped we've been this year and he hasn't asked for anything expensive, he knows that the money we make by selling his (and our) stuff, will go towards making our Christmas better. He also knows that me and DH aren't buying each other presents this year, simply because we can't afford it. On the other hand, he saves up his pocket money to buy video games so when he sells them on, that money is his, he has "earned" it so he can keep it.

I've just asked him his view on this....he said that if we made lots of money (unlikely!) then he would love to have some! He knows that if he wants something badly enough, we will do our best to get it for him, if that means that we have to sell some of his old toys in order to pay for it, he has no problem with that. In our family, we're all in it together and we all make sacrifices to get what we want/need. My son is on board with that, and I don't feel guilty about it. He knows that we all work hard in our house and that we have to save for what we want. He wouldn't even think of asking for the money for his old toys, he knows who paid for them in the first place!

chelle230

74jax wrote: »

Thanks, that's interesting.

It's similar to us only DD gave me a list of what she wanted and wanted a surprise. So i guess you're saying if your DS gave you some Nintendo games to pick from with the money you would rather give him the money and him pick the games.

Maybe i should have just done this from the start:rotfl:

sorry, have only just come back to this.
my DS likes to keep the money in his own piggy bank in his room, and if we go out and he wants to buy something, he'll take some out with us (I obv look after it while we're out and about).
it's his money so I don't mind him keeping it in his room, he's actually much better with money now, and is beginning (slowly) to learn the value of it

victory

I really don't get this thread and it is not for the want of trying as have been back many times to see other people's point of view and the posters replies, is it a question of mother paid initially for toys and clothes etc so feels she has the right to keep the money and re use it for xmas presents for her daughter?

Or is it that the gifts were given to the daughter bought by the mother but the daughter owns the gifts and can be given the money because they are here items?

aliasojo

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

I get the 'feeling' that people critisising may have never had to make difficult descisions to do what they think is best for their kids.

What a foolish comment.

You have no clue what some of us have had to do.

Just because some of us didn't agree with the OP does not mean we have not had our share of tough times and tough decisions to make.

MarilynMonroe_2

Although I sided with the op's other half, I can also see that sometimes ''needs must'' and kids should start understanding that these days, so when times are hard for them as adults they dont just go into debt, but rather look for solutions, which the op did xx

newcook

mumofjusttwo wrote: »

Would it be easier to just wrap the presents up and say they are from Ebay and you can still buy a present from yourself as you would do normally.

So the money she got from selling her stuff comes wrapped with tags from Ebay and what you purchase come with tags from you and your family. This way she gets the surprise she wants and you can clearly separate the two sets of gifts.

Whatever you decide I hope that you all have a wonderful Christmas.

I think the OP was going to give the items from her/family but is now slightly anxious that DD will buy them between now and xmas for herself with the money from ebay!!

mummyroysof3

i have in the past sold stuff my kids are no longer interested in and have used the money to get something else..would i wrap it up for christmas/birthday? maybe but it would be in adittion to what i would have bought anyway..if i think they will already have enough i would save the money till another time in the year when they ask for something or they need clothing or i see something they like

ifi hadnt sold the items then they would have gone to the charity shop or been given away so at least they get something with the money and tbh at 6 and under mine would just be excited at getting another present..not sure i would do same at 13 unless they had told me i could.

Scorpio_girlie

We are in the middle of selling stuff to make some much needed money!! Some of it is ours and most of it belongs to our 4 year old.

I am very clear about what money belongs to us and what money belongs to our son. We are selling a travel system, high chair, travel cot, clothing etc - that money is ours. However, anything that has been bought specifically for our son, the money is his and goes in his bank account.

I wouldn't feel easy buying him Christmas presents (from me) with his own money.

Hope you manage to sort it out in your own head!!

SG
x

pearl123

74jax wrote: »

As it was quite a bit of money, i was going to offer her half the money, however OH said if it was given to her as a gift then all money should go to her. DD loved this idea and so now I am in the position of having to transfer her £150 (shes 13, so this is a HUGE amount) and now what I had planned on getting her for xmas I can't.

OH is saying it wasn't my money anyway and would I have been happy spending her money on her again (errrr yes I would......)

I'm quite shocked that you thought that it would be acceptable to only give her half of the cash from HER presents !

And you would have been happy on spending her money on her again?!

Dip in your own purse this Christmas and spend the money you can afford on your daughter, but don't use what belongs to her already!

Young minds have very long memories!!!

pearl123

I've got the feeling this tread it's going to run and run !!!