5 year old boy very much into 'girl' things

jamespir

anniemf2508 wrote: »

To be honest at 5 years old i don't think you need to worry. My 5 year old son loves to dress up at school, his favourite costume being a disney princess one, this really doesn't bother me as i know he'll grow out of it, his Dad isn't comfortable with it tho

does he have to grow out of it


and i cant believe how potentially homophobic some dads are

anniemf2508

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

What do you mean you know he will grow out of it? He might not...

very true....i was just going on my experiences, my brother was pretty much the same at my sons age, hes 21 now and prefers boys stuff.

anniemf2508

jamespir wrote: »

does he have to grow out of it


and i cant believe how potentially homophobic some dads are

it wouldn't bother me if he didn't grow out of it, i love my children come what may

shellsuit

Is he happy and healthy?

If so, does it really matter that he prefers girlie things??

Sublime_2

jamespir wrote: »

does he have to grow out of it


and i cant believe how potentially homophobic some dads are

Thats what causes children to have insecurities, and problems, by making issues, where there are none. I love my children unconditionally, so let them be as they are. They are wonderful.

My son loves cars mainly now, yet still plays with his Dolls House from the ELC Happyland range, along with the farm, fire-station, police-station, airport, plus loads more. Makes for a village scene, and isn't too girly.

This is the house, if you see by the reviews, loads of parents buy for their sons, as it isn't a putrid shade of pink. My son likes the noises, esp putting the television on.

http://www.elc.co.uk/HappyLand-Rose-Cottage/118615,default,pd.html

Hermia

Could you maybe find some gender-neutral activities that your husband could do with your son? E.g. physical activities that aren't too macho and which boys and girls both enjoy. Then your husband could enjoy some activities with him without pushing him into things he hates. Ultimately your son should be allowed to be himself though. I know a couple of boys who are sensitive and creative and are made to go to football etc. They are so miserable and are very aware that dad is ashamed of them. My friend's son wanted me to teach him to sew and his father banned it! Your son will only be more clingy and shy if he is made to feel that he is not behaving normally.

I know soooo many people who don't conform to gender stereotypes so I am always surprised when parents assume their kid will be a "typical" girl or boy.

peachyprice

jamespir wrote: »

oh no he might turn out gay ............ tell dad to get over himself just cause a boy likes girls toys dont mean they gonna be gay

And so what if he does!

OP, your OH needs to get a grip. Not all boys like football, it's a myth. I have two, neither of them like football, never have, never will. The only sports they have ever liked is swimming and trampolining.

They both had pushchairs when they were little, and dolls to go in them, and a play kitchen and various other 'girls' toys.


Not all boys like rough play, not all boys fight, not all boys wrestle. And guess what, not all girls like dolls, or the colour pink.

Just let your boy be a child without you or your husband trying to pigeon hole him at the tender age of 5, poor little mite.

j.e.j.

Aww, try and reassure dad that there's nothing 'wrong' with your son. He's going to have his own likes and dislikes, - he won't always necessarily like or do the same as his dad!

It's funny, this reminds me of last Christmas when there was a bit of a hoo-ha which got reported in the local paper. One of the major chain stores here had aisles of gifts marked 'boys toys' and 'girls toys'. Someone wrote in and challenged that, saying why are they giving the message that boys 'should' be given sciencey things, cars, trains, etc as gifts, and girls 'should' be given dolls, and anything pink and pampering.

Cherry_Bomb

This is exactly why I wanted to post on here, having no other children nor many friends with children I wasn't really sure what to think.

Just to answer a couple of questions I did think about bullying but have spoken to both his school and kids club he attends before and after school and they both assure me he is not being bullied. Nor is he having any sort of trouble with other children. I've asked DS too and he says no so I really don't think that's a problem.

Will definitely look at cheap days out perhaps OH and DS can do together. We did do the Natural History Museum for his 5th birthday and DS loved it. Everything from the busy tube (odd child ) to the dinosaurs. It really was the best day out we've had in a long long time.

I think a big part of the problem is OH but not sure how to tackle it. He absolutely adores DS and would never do anything to hurt his feelings (no matter how much he disagrees with him playing with dolls for example)
I've come home from work plenty of times to find them 2 playing on PS3 together so they do have a good relationship. It's just not as good as mine and DS's but I guess that happens in a lot of families?
Does it??

Nimeth

I think his dad needs to relax a little and let his son be who he wants to be. Son will be much happier now and down the line if he's encouraged to be happy with himself iyswim. I really do hate gender stereotyping, I don't see much point to it, all they do is enforce rigid social ideas onto sets of people who by and large don't conform to those ideas.

Whether or not he eventually grows out of it, my guess is that you'll love him either way.

I think wannabehermit and Sublime said everything else I wanted to say.