Would you be angry?

Person_one

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Simple solution - show up to the evening do together. After all, it isn't about getting a temporarily tenuously connected to the family person's face into the photos, is it? As that is always a very, very bad idea.

Oh I don't know, I think it can be quite fun to get the old pictures out and play 'guess the boyfriend'!

Mind you, being married is no guarantee you won't end up with exes on your wedding photos. One of my auntie's is on her fourth husband since the one she was stood with in my parents'! Number two is on my christening pictures.

BugglyB

Person_one wrote: »

Oh I don't know, I think it can be quite fun to get the old pictures out and play 'guess the boyfriend'!

Mind you, being married is no guarantee you won't end up with exes on your wedding photos. One of my auntie's is on her fourth husband since the one she was stood with in my parents'! Number two is on my christening pictures.

My goodness! Husband number four! Did you/your parents go to all her weddings? How do you keep a straight face?!

newcook

the way I see it is that its your event, its your money so you can invite whoever you want (and don’t invite those you don’t want there)
the other year I had a 30th birthday party – I didn’t want my dad there so I didn’t invite him!

thorsoak

Absinthe Fairy - have you shown your mum this thread? If so, what is her reaction?



I'm just curious!

newcook

Person_one wrote: »

Oh I don't know, I think it can be quite fun to get the old pictures out and play 'guess the boyfriend'!

I like this game too though its even better when the people who should know their name are saying 'oh, thats...... erm..... OFFS what IS his name!?!?'

elvis86

freemanl wrote: »

The thing is its up to the people getting married who they invite.

But if I were invited to a wedding and not my wife, I would be offended. I think that if they knew me well enough to invite me, they should know (& want to invite) my wife too. That would count even if I was only with that person for a few months. If the friend/family were that close to me and practially they have yet to meet my partner, then they should trust my judgement that the partner is nice enough to come to the wedding.

A wedding is a celebration of a couple and a party to commence their life together. Personally, I would want people I like & know there, and if I like them that much, then I would have partners too. If that means missing a load of people off then fine. I would still invite all to the evening though, as there is no limit on the number of people to invite to the evening.

Classic! So it's up to people who they invite, but you'll be offended if they choose to invite you and not your wife? Just goes to show what an impossible task compiling a wedding list can be.

Using the example of work colleagues, can you really not understand why a couple may choose not to invite colleague's partners, if doing so would mean that they had to exclude 20+ of their family or friends?

Person_one

BugglyB wrote: »

My goodness! Husband number four! Did you/your parents go to all her weddings? How do you keep a straight face?!

I've been to three, I only remember two. My dad's been to three and my mum to all four!

Maybe that's why I don't fall for all this one special moment princess for a day rubbish, two of my great grandparents were wedding ring collectors too.

Frogletina

I wasn't invited to my brother's wedding as I had a child and he didn't want children there

Was I happy? Not really, I would have liked to have seen him married - but I didn't make a fuss as it was what he wanted so we just went to the reception.

As regards cousins, my auntie had 3 girls

The first one to get married invited the whole of my family (by then I had 3 children) to the ceremony and the reception

The second one invited just my husband and I to the ceremony, the reception and evening do

The third invited us all just to the evening do - I was divorced by then but my ex-husband was invited as well (I wasn't asked if this would be a problem, a little strange, as they only ever met him when we had family get togethers - but it was very amicable, even though my new partner was there).

I think people are just too wound up in their own importance at times - it is not their day, and to be invited to share in it in some capacity is a priviledge, not a right

Scorpio33

elvis86 wrote: »

Classic! So it's up to people who they invite, but you'll be offended if they choose to invite you and not your wife? Just goes to show what an impossible task compiling a wedding list can be.

Using the example of work colleagues, can you really not understand why a couple may choose not to invite colleague's partners, if doing so would mean that they had to exclude 20+ of their family or friends?

I would be offended, as most people who I know would invite my wife. If she wasn't invited, I wouldn't go. The couple can invite who they choose, but if they knew me at all, they would know how I would feel.

In the case of collegues, for me it would be be a case of choosing between colleagues or family/friends. Personally I wouldn't invite colleagues to the day of a wedding, as I feel closer to friends/family. As I said, you can never please everyone.

Similarly, I wouldn't want to go to a colleagues wedding, as it should be close friends and family only.

As I said before though, each to their own. Whatever works for the couple.

74jax

elvis86 wrote: »

Using the example of work colleagues, can you really not understand why a couple may choose not to invite colleague's partners, if doing so would mean that they had to exclude 20+ of their family or friends?

In my office I work with 3 girls and a manager. I'm inviting 2 of the girls as we socialise outside of work, my OH has been out with their OH's, we call each other etc and do consider them close friends. The other girl is a strictly professional relationship. She will not socialise with us outside of work, we do still offer although know it will be a 'no thank you' and has said she see's us a colleagues not friends and that we don't have to keep asking her. Which is absolutely her place to decide that.

I don't see her outside of work, we don't call each other (i've been off work for 6 weeks and signed off for another 4 and I wouldn't text/email/call her) yet because the 2 people at work are coming I'm getting questioned over why I'm not inviting her..............