Would you be angry?

sassyblue

RadoJo wrote: »

I have to disagree with those who say 'you can't please everyone with a wedding guest list' as we didn't have any trouble! When we started planning the wedding, we began with the guest list (including +1s for everyone who didn't have a named partner and asking our parents who they wanted us to invite) and our budget and picked a venue/menu/everything else based on those numbers so that we could afford to have everyone we wanted. It doesn't necessarily have to be a case of sacrificing one person for another - it just depends how you prioritise your budget and what's important to you.

Same as us. It's how you deal with it isn't it? I had a couple of people express surprise they hadn't been invited to the main reception but it was about numbers in the reception venue, they weren't annoyed afterwards, no-one fell out and we're still friends today.

magenta22

Not at all. Weddings are often limited in numbers and they are expensive, we can't all be as lavish as the likes of these celebrities as much as we would like to be.

Personally I would go to just either the wedding or the evening party, that way she doesn't have to entertain herself while they are at the reception.

lostinrates

claire16c wrote: »

I didnt have any problems either, but that doesnt mean others dont.
The problem is sometimes the bride and groom have people in their families who act unreasonably, and therefore mean they can not please everyone ever..

My dh's family had 250 on their had to invite list. 250 bloody people, at least 200 of who I hadn't met, who live all around the world (as do my family, but I simply wasn't thnking they'd come home for a wedding to me to someone they hadn't me either!) and were talking about dates two years in advance because that's how long was needed to coordinate dates and lfights and a date free when every one could do.


DH and I solved it by inviting NOBODY and got married alone (we took two friends for witnesses). It annoyed most of both families, but at least they all knew they were equally annoyed and rebuffed and most have forgiven us now.

split_second

elvis86 wrote: »

Your gender had nothing to do with your post or my reaction to it.

You stated that if you were to receive an invitation that didn't include your fiance, you would demand that the host included your fiance or you would refuse to attend.

You then went on to recall that a friend admitted that your fiance was only invited to an event to prevent you from refusing to attend, and you objected to this.

That's equally as rude, regardless of whether you're a man or a woman.:cool:

i would expect my fiance to be invited- i would never demand it, i would never speak up, no point, i'm the total opposite of how you describe me

yes my friend's fiance said my fiance was invited so i would go, she also didnt know i would expect my fiance to be invited, and to this day doesnt know my mutual friend told me this was said in front of him, i'll never tell her that i know this as she would know who told me (the most honest person we both know). then again this is the same woman that causes a scene any time any woman joins our group of friends, she made any social setting unpleasant for my best friend's fiance and it has started getting a few peoples backs up, she was the only person that was unpleasant about us getting engaged, making crude remarks by text

bit of a different spin when you read what actually happened :beer:

sassyblue

split_second wrote: »

i would expect my fiance to be invited- i would never demand it, i would never speak up, no point, i'm the total opposite of how you describe me

Ignore it. Elvis86 is intentionally insulting people on the thread for a reaction, her cronies think she's a 'legend' for doing it so it fuels her bile. I'm sure this Elvis has been hacked because l remember the poster from other threads and she was nice then.

Besides, I'm sure you don't need her approval for your posts do you?

elvis86

split_second wrote: »

i would expect my fiance to be invited- i would never demand it, i would never speak up, no point, i'm the total opposite of how you describe me

You're completely contradicting yourself now. Which part of the below did you not post?

split_second wrote: »

''well over a year'' i think you are being a bit harsh to be honest, then again i got engaged after 11 months (knew my fiance about 3 1/2 years by that time) and we were living together too :rotfl: if someone turned round and said i was invited and fiance not i would say both of us or i'm not going- one of my friends said she was inviting my fiance so i would go, made us both not want to go

split_second wrote: »

bit of a different spin when you read what actually happened :beer:

No, bit of a "different spin" when someone posts one thing and then completely contradicts themselves in a later post.:beer:

sassyblue wrote: »

Ignore it. Elvis86 is intentionally insulting people on the thread for a reaction, her cronies think she's a 'legend' for doing it so it fuels her bile. I'm sure this Elvis has been hacked because l remember the poster from other threads and she was nice then.

I don't think I've been hacked? Pretty sure this is me. I'm just disagreeing with people who are then backtracking completely on statements they have made earlier in the thread.

sassyblue wrote: »

Besides, I'm sure you don't need her approval for your posts do you?

And incidentally, I'm not a woman. But I won't make a big deal about it, it's completely irrelevant, you think I'm a **** regardless.;)