Would you be angry?

elvis86

split_second wrote: »

''well over a year'' i think you are being a bit harsh to be honest, then again i got engaged after 11 months (knew my fiance about 3 1/2 years by that time) and we were living together too :rotfl: if someone turned round and said i was invited and fiance not i would say both of us or i'm not going- one of my friends said she was inviting my fiance so i would go, made us both not want to go

As I understand this (I may have misunderstood, it's not very well written - try puntuating):

You take the stance that you would only accept an invitation if it included your fiance (even when you had been togther for less than a year and were not engaged), and you would demand that he was invited too or threaten that you wouldn't go?

Now, a friend has admitted that she was forced to invite your fiance as she knew this was the only way to ensure that you would attend (ie she has given into your demands), and this makes you not want to attend?!

So, you think it's acceptable for you to be open in demanding that people invite your fiance to occasions, but you object to anyone else being open in admitting that your fiance is only invited to please you?! Unbelievable!

haras_nosirrah

If someone said to me that unless my partner is invited I won't come then they would be off the guest list.
Unless it was mine or husbands sister, parents or grandparents everyone else it would be nice to be there but not the be all and end all.

I wouldn't be blackmailed into inviting someone that I have to pay for if I don't want them there.

19lottie82

hezza86 wrote: »

unless baby is under 1 yr old (which there will be 5 and is being discussed with parents,and already some have said great,we'll bring them to ceremony then granny/grandad is coming to collect to give mum and dad a nice meal and evening)

i'm a bit confused here, what on earth would be the point in bringing a baby just to the ceremony (where, based on experience, they are likely to cry), but then get someone to baby sit them during the meal?

I would have thought it would be the whole thing or nothing at all (unless you were only invited to the evening do)

I just don't understand it, I mean it's not like the kid is going to remember the ceremony?

newcook

19lottie82 wrote: »

i'm a bit confused here, what on earth would be the point in bringing a baby just to the ceremony (where, based on experience, they are likely to cry), but then get someone to baby sit them during the meal?

I would have thought it would be the whole thing or nothing at all (unless you were only invited to the evening do)

I just don't understand it, I mean it's not like the kid is going to remember the ceremony?

Maybe the parents cant get (or want to get) a sitter for the whole day and evening?

A baby will need to eat too - meaning a high-chair, a drop mat, mom and dad taking it in turns to eat so they can feed baby, room under the table for the changing bag and car seat etc.

elvis86

19lottie82 wrote: »

i'm a bit confused here, what on earth would be the point in bringing a baby just to the ceremony (where, based on experience, they are likely to cry), but then get someone to baby sit them during the meal?

I would have thought it would be the whole thing or nothing at all (unless you were only invited to the evening do)

I just don't understand it, I mean it's not like the kid is going to remember the ceremony?

That doesn't make much sense to me either!:D

Then again, stipulating that your wedding will be a child-free event, but making allowance for 9 children to attend seems a bit odd too!

hezza86 wrote: »

p.s. I am not having any children at the wedding only 2 rules for this -except my 4 nieces (flowergirls) and unless baby is under 1 yr old (which there will be 5 and is being discussed with parents,and already some have said great,we'll bring them to ceremony then granny/grandad is coming to collect to give mum and dad a nice meal and evening)

I wonder how many additional children there would actually be if the "no children" rule was dropped?!:eek:

newcook

elvis86 wrote: »

That doesn't make much sense to me either!:D

Then again, stipulating that your wedding will be a child-free event, but making allowance for 9 children to attend seems a bit odd too!



I wonder how many additional children there would actually be if the "no children" rule was dropped?!:eek:

I went to a wedding reception earlier this year (just the evening - Im still fuming now ) and they had said they didnt want guests apart from immediate family bringing their children mainly because the place would be over-run with children!
at first I thought it a bit odd but then I counted up how many kids there were from just 4 close friends – 11 between ages of 2 and 10 :eek:

split_second

elvis86 wrote: »

As I understand this (I may have misunderstood, it's not very well written - try puntuating):

You take the stance that you would only accept an invitation if it included your fiance (even when you had been togther for less than a year and were not engaged), and you would demand that he was invited too or threaten that you wouldn't go?

Now, a friend has admitted that she was forced to invite your fiance as she knew this was the only way to ensure that you would attend (ie she has given into your demands), and this makes you not want to attend?!

So, you think it's acceptable for you to be open in demanding that people invite your fiance to occasions, but you object to anyone else being open in admitting that your fiance is only invited to please you?! Unbelievable!

three small points
1. i dont punctuaute much out of laziness, not lack of knowledge.

2. i'm male, my fiance is female, i would have thought the avatar would suggest a male- have a look for jeff dunham on youtube

3. what was said about my friend's wedding has never involved the friend speaking to me directly about it, she is a massive bridezilla anyway and said the only reason she invited my fiance was so i would go, this came after she made remarks about us getting engaged, i never said to her i expected invites for both of us, what i say on an internet forum and what i say in front of people are different things

Frogletina

split_second wrote: »

1. i dont punctuaute much out of laziness, not lack of knowledge.

2. i'm male, my fiance is female, i would have thought the avatar would suggest a male- have a look for jeff dunham on youtube

I think you may have confused people by using the word fiance not fiancee

~*Lady~Jane*~

As others have said, it depends on their reasons for not inviting her!

I'm currently planning a wedding and have had to consider who to invite... friends' partners etc! Bottom line is, although in an ideal world you'd invite everyone and their partners, if funds are limited you have to keep numbers down. Does your cousin know your brother's gf well? If not, you can't really blame her... personally I feel that I will invite only partners I've met and spent time with. I'm not prepared to strike an old friend or other person who I'd like to see there off the list to invite a +1 who I dont really know!

Just a thought...

elvis86

split_second wrote: »

three small points
1. i dont punctuaute much out of laziness, not lack of knowledge.

Regardless, it's not helpful when you're expecting other people to read and understand what you're saying.

split_second wrote: »

2. i'm male, my fiance is female, i would have thought the avatar would suggest a male- have a look for jeff dunham on youtube

This is irrelevant.

split_second wrote: »

3. what was said about my friend's wedding has never involved the friend speaking to me directly about it, she is a massive bridezilla anyway and said the only reason she invited my fiance was so i would go, this came after she made remarks about us getting engaged, i never said to her i expected invites for both of us, what i say on an internet forum and what i say in front of people are different things

How is anyone on said internet forum to know that you post one thing and do another in rel al life? I can only go by what you said, and that was:

split_second wrote: »

if someone turned round and said i was invited and fiance not i would say both of us or i'm not going- one of my friends said she was inviting my fiance so i would go, made us both not want to go

On this basis, I stand by my original post.