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Kimberley

So is the tart who opened her legs to a married man and spawned an unwanted child... You're comments shows how one dimensional you are. Does this all hit a nerve with you or something DeeDee?????

Why are you calling this women a tart when it takes two? She opened her legs to YOUR husband and i'm sure he was not forced to have sex with her and he clearly never used a condom so that makes it half his fault. Also if you do not like some comments made on this thread then you shouldn't have put your business on this forum for others to read because once you start a thread then you cannot have a go at others for giving their opinions.

I do not understand how anyone can stay with a man who abandons their child and I don't understand how he can love the child he has with you but refuses to have anything to do with his new baby daughter.

I would never take a man back if he had an affair because you can bet he will do it again, maybe not for a year or two but he will cheat on you again. Those type of men can never change and you cannot change them no matter how hard you try.

I hope your husband is forced to pay maintenance for his new baby daughter so at least he supports her financially rather then emotionally but I really do hope that one day he comes to his senses and decides he does want to be involved in his baby daughters life.

alias*alibi

Kimberley wrote: »

Why are you calling this women a tart when it takes two? She opened her legs to YOUR husband and i'm sure he was not forced to have sex with her and he clearly never used a condom so that makes it half his fault. Also if you do not like some comments made on this thread then you shouldn't have put your business on this forum for others to read because once you start a thread then you cannot have a go at others for giving their opinions.

I do not understand how anyone can stay with a man who abandons their child and I don't understand how he can love the child he has with you but refuses to have anything to do with his new baby daughter.

I would never take a man back if he had an affair because you can bet he will do it again, maybe not for a year or two but he will cheat on you again. Those type of men can never change and you cannot change them no matter how hard you try.

I hope your husband is forced to pay maintenance for his new baby daughter so at least he supports her financially rather then emotionally but I really do hope that one day he comes to his senses and decides he does want to be involved in his baby daughters life.

Here we go again; don't you think I've heard this in every single page? He isn't being forced to pay; he is paying CSA. Or did you skim read the entire thread and comment on the bits you felt compelled to?

Kimberley

alias*alibi wrote: »

Here we go again; don't you think I've heard this in every single page? He isn't being forced to pay; he is paying CSA. Or did you skim read the entire thread and comment on the bits you felt compelled to?

I'm glad he is paying for his baby daughter and hope he changes his mind about contact. I did read through parts but couldn't be bothered to read it all but it's obviously what the thread is about and I only read from two pages back when i'm online on long threads.

alias*alibi

Kimberley wrote: »

I'm glad he is paying for his baby daughter and hope he changes his mind about contact. I did read through parts but couldn't be bothered to read it all but it's obviously what the thread is about and I only read from two pages back when i'm online on long threads.

Actually no; it wasn't initially what the thread was about.

Welshwoofs

alias*alibi wrote: »

The anger isn't there most days; it's more of a annoyance than anger. I am angry on here because whether I've read it rightly or wrongly people are viewing me badly because i don't want anything to do with the baby.

I think it's totally understandable that you don't want anything to do with the baby - I wouldn't either. Why would you, it's not your flesh and blood. But people aren't viewing you badly for that, they're viewing your husband badly for him not wanting to be involved because the child is something to do with him.

Anger I totally understand. I found out about my ex because he went off for a weekend to see his kids (supposedly) and had accidentally left himself logged in to Facebook on my laptop. I woke up the machine and the first thing staring me in the face was his Facebook inbox....with a message from a woman saying she couldn't wait to see him that evening (actually, she didn't say 'see', it was rather more...erm...'descriptive'). He hadn't gone to his kids at all. He'd lie to them about not being able to see them and lie to me about going to see them.

Anyway...long story short I discovered 4-5 women, all but one married, who he'd met on Facebook and been sleeping with. I went ballistic and 'anger' doesn't even cover it....my immediate 'animal' reaction was that I wanted them all to die slow, horrible deaths on the spot. The one he was seeing that weekend I could see had A LOT of family and friends on Facebook (as I was logged in to his account and could see her friends' list) - she had 6 kids, her husband was on there as were what appeared to be a couple of sisters and obviously friends. I was SO filled with hatred that I registered a fake Facebook account, put up a fake profile photo and said I came from the same town as her. I then set about friend requesting her friends and family and once one accepted, the rest fell like a house of cards. Once I had them all on, I plastered my profile's FB wall with screenshots of all her messages to my OH (many of which were detailed about dates/times of meetings and VERY explicit) and with chat logs I pulled off MSN. In short, her entire family and circle of friends found out she was cheating on her husband at the same time. I got messages from her kids telling me their Mother wouldn't do that....and in return I simply sent them copies of emails she'd sent and I'd accessed on his Hotmail account.

I pretty much blew an entire family wide open with that move - it was totally done in anger and bitterness; heat of the moment stuff and once I calmed down I was horrified and really ashamed.

So believe me when I say ... DON'T hold bitterness and anger because I can tell you for a fact that doing so will end up hurting other people.

DVardysShadow

alias*alibi wrote: »

MODS - I have emailed you already but please delete this thread.

I know you don't like it, but it is a good thread. I don't think that the fact that the Original Poster does not like the replies is a good enough reason to delete a thread.

alias*alibi

Welshwoofs wrote: »

I think it's totally understandable that you don't want anything to do with the baby - I wouldn't either. Why would you, it's not your flesh and blood. But people aren't viewing you badly for that, they're viewing your husband badly for him not wanting to be involved because the child is something to do with him.

Anger I totally understand. I found out about my ex because he went off for a weekend to see his kids (supposedly) and had accidentally left himself logged in to Facebook on my laptop. I woke up the machine and the first thing staring me in the face was his Facebook inbox....with a message from a woman saying she couldn't wait to see him that evening (actually, she didn't say 'see', it was rather more...erm...'descriptive'). He hadn't gone to his kids at all. He'd lie to them about not being able to see them and lie to me about going to see them.

Anyway...long story short I discovered 4-5 women, all but one married, who he'd met on Facebook and been sleeping with. I went ballistic and 'anger' doesn't even cover it....my immediate 'animal' reaction was that I wanted them all to die slow, horrible deaths on the spot. The one he was seeing that weekend I could see had A LOT of family and friends on Facebook (as I was logged in to his account and could see her friends' list) - she had 6 kids, her husband was on there as were what appeared to be a couple of sisters and obviously friends. I was SO filled with hatred that I registered a fake Facebook account, put up a fake profile photo and said I came from the same town as her. I then set about friend requesting her friends and family and once one accepted, the rest fell like a house of cards. Once I had them all on, I plastered my profile's FB wall with screenshots of all her messages to my OH (many of which were detailed about dates/times of meetings and VERY explicit) and with chat logs I pulled off MSN. In short, her entire family and circle of friends found out she was cheating on her husband at the same time. I got messages from her kids telling me their Mother wouldn't do that....and in return I simply sent them copies of emails she'd sent and I'd accessed on his Hotmail account.

I pretty much blew an entire family wide open with that move - it was totally done in anger and bitterness; heat of the moment stuff and once I calmed down I was horrified and really ashamed.

So believe me when I say ... DON'T hold bitterness and anger because I can tell you for a fact that doing so will end up hurting other people.

Wow. That's some revenge! Yes I know about doing stuff in the heat of the moment and have come close but stopped short.

alias*alibi

DVardysShadow wrote: »

I know you don't like it, but it is a good thread. I don't think that the fact that the Original Poster does not like the replies is a good enough reason to delete a thread.

It's run it's course and as another poster said it's like picking at a scab which will never heal if I keep revisiting it.

System

"She is demented as he said; ive been witness to two episodes myself. Back in January when he asked us to try again and he told her it was over she went loopy and chased him through the house at 8 weeks pregnant and broke down a door to get at him."

Actually I'd not say that was "demented", I'd say it was a natural enough reaction ...8 weeks pregnant, hormones all over the place and the man she thought she had a relationship with is running back to his wife...the wife who he has doubtless told her is all the awful things under the sun... No that's not "demented" that's an angry, upset, unhappy woman who is watching her world collapse round her ears...just as you have watched yours do the same.

Kay_Peel

Welshwoofs wrote: »

There's no solidarity; I'd think everyone would acknowledge that she made a stupid mistake.

However, for my part, I just don't believe that she's this demented psychopath that you say she is.


Will all best intentions, you really need to sort your head out and sharpish.

Jeez, I've read some patronising, pontificating clap-trap but this takes the biscuit.

You haven't met the Scorned Women, AA has. What evidence do you have that the OP is deluded or a liar? None whatsoever.

And as for no solidarity amongst the "He's-A-Scumbag-And-How-Dare-He-Turn-His-Back-On-A-Baby" group - do me a favour! :whistle: