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Kimberley

alias*alibi wrote: »

I know I certainly wouldn't had taken out a big loan in my own name to pay off someone elses debts if I didn't love them or want to be with them.

If he loved you then he wouldn't have had an affair in the first place. I'm sorry but people who want to sleep with other people should stay single. I really do hope he never cheats on you again but I very much doubt it. It may be cosy for a year or two but then he will sleep around again but as someone else said if he has the snip now then at least he won't father another child behind your back so thats a good thing.

whitewing

So what? He either will cheat or he won't cheat again. Shall we just come back every day and ask OP if he has cheated again yet? That would be a depressing thread. OP knows the majority of posters think he'll let her down again. I happen to disagree. OP also knows that plenty of people think that other, related matters could end the marriage. Perhaps, but perhaps not. I am happy to support the OP for the next hour, day, week, month, year, decade or however long the marriage lasts. And right now, assuming they're not Jehova's witnesses, however you spell it, we have Christmas to look forward to. I would love to take DD to the Winter Wonderland at Centreparcs but we can't afford it yet, and DH is not keen anyway - has things he'd rather do. Maybe next year.

onetomany

op this isnt about money its about trust

euronorris

Welshwoofs wrote: »

By the way, may sound like a totally off the wall idea, but have you thought about taking up something like boxercise or other exercise that can be a bit of an outlet to work out anger? Beating the living carp out of something inanimate gets rid of all that nasty adrenaline.... I learnt that one on a week's retreat once where we were invited to beat up pillows with a baseball bat. I think the air was white with feathers by the time I'd finished

I second this. Qi Kwan Do has helped keep me sane this year.

Kicking, punching etc a mat for almost a solid hour allows you to take your anger and frustration out on the mats, and you'll get an endorphin surge from the exercise too which will help to lift your mood in general.

So, if there are any classes like that (Boxercise, Thai Kwan Do, Qi Kwan Do, Karate etc etc), I would heartily recommend taking them up. As a plus, you'll probably learn some defensive moves as well.

newcook

alias*alibi wrote: »

Too old now WW; approaching the big 40

not to scare you or owt but my stepmom had my sister when she was 43!!