Knowing where your child is

mummyroysof3

shirlgirl2004 wrote: »

I wouldn't let my child go with someone I didn't trust. If I trust them why do they need to give me their itinerary?

didnt ask for one but wanted to know where she taking her

crazyguy wrote: »

why not fix a tracking device to them,

a country park not too far away is good enough dont need an exact location

will ask which one they been to after though

Fizzpop

I would expect to be told regardless of who i trusted to have my children, my parents or his parents or uncles aunts or in the case of my eldest her dad.

I think its common courtesy to let someone know where you are taking their children and maybe a rough idea of when they will be back that way if anything untoward was to happen you could put in place steps to find out whats going on.

I dont do it so much with grandparents (either side) but i do like to know when, where and how long.

If they weren't prepared to tell me where they were going then they would not be allowed to take them simples.

And that includes my eldest's dad,

3v3

crazyguy wrote: »

why not fix a tracking device to them,

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:;)

Marisco

Fizzpop wrote: »

I would expect to be told regardless of who i trusted to have my children, my parents or his parents or uncles aunts or in the case of my eldest her dad.

I think its common courtesy to let someone know where you are taking their children and maybe a rough idea of when they will be back that way if anything untoward was to happen you could put in place steps to find out whats going on.

I dont do it so much with grandparents (either side) but i do like to know when, where and how long.

If they weren't prepared to tell me where they were going then they would not be allowed to take them simples.

And that includes my eldest's dad,

But what if they don't know? Or change their minds en route? Would you expect them to phone with exact locations? I'd feel very hurt to think that I was thought incapable of looking after my grandchildren. Luckily I've never been in that situation, all my daughter used to say was "behave yourself for Nanna" - as if they wouldn't!!!

neverdespairgirl

If my son's with my parents, or his nanny, then no, unless it's something way out of the ordinary. Particularly if he spends a day with my parents, plans are fluid, but I don't have a problem with that at all.

Fizzpop

Marisco wrote: »

But what if they don't know? Or change their minds en route? Would you expect them to phone with exact locations? I'd feel very hurt to think that I was thought incapable of looking after my grandchildren. Luckily I've never been in that situation, all my daughter used to say was "behave yourself for Nanna" - as if they wouldn't!!!

Since i have 4 children my mum usually has a plan of action lol as to where she is going if plans change then a simple text message to say going to such and such insted will suffice i dont need exact locations i just like to know roughly where they will be just incase

If they dont know where they are going then a text when they get there is ok too.

The only person this doesnt extend to is my eldest's dad but there are very valid reasons for this

Spendless

Can I ask why you feel you need to know other than you feel you should (as the child's parent) know? I am just wondering if this is a battle of wills, and the more you press the point the more stubborn MIL becomes? What does your OH think by the way?

shellsuit

I don't know if some people are missing the point here.

Isn't it that the MIL told the OP she was taking the kids out and when asked where to, MIL wouldn't say.

I don't think (from what I've read) that the OP has a problem with MIL taking her little one out at all, just that when asked where to, she wouldn't say.


If someone told me they wanted to take my little one out, but wouldn't say where to, I'd want to know what on earth was being planned!

mummyroysof3

shellsuit wrote: »

I don't know if some people are missing the point here.

Isn't it that the MIL told the OP she was taking the kids out and when asked where to, MIL wouldn't say.

I don't think (from what I've read) that the OP has a problem with MIL taking her little one out at all, just that when asked where to, she wouldn't say.


If someone told me they wanted to take my little one out, but wouldn't say where to, I'd want to know what on earth was being planned!

its the being secretive bit that i have a problem with more than anything..she has lied to me in the past too

mummyroysof3

Spendless wrote: »

Can I ask why you feel you need to know other than you feel you should (as the child's parent) know? I am just wondering if this is a battle of wills, and the more you press the point the more stubborn MIL becomes? What does your OH think by the way?

well if you turn it round the other way she is making me more stubbon by refusing to answer a simple question.

she has in the past not decided for definate where they going till she picks them up cos of weather but in that case says the 2 places she deciding between then told me for deffo when she has picked them up..its the im not telling you attitude i have a problem with