Knowing where your child is

Sublime_2

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

MIL is playing silly !!!!!!s and wont say where she taking my 4 year old tomorrow and SIL 3 year old...dispite both of us stating we need to be told..just wondering if we being unreasonable

Thats strange. I would insist, and want a contact number. Sorry but, she sounds like she's being a bit strange. My exs parent are wonderful, can't do enough for me, and treat me almost like a daughter. I would not let my children go, if she was being childish, as think very irresponsible, what if something happened.

I wouldn't trust my dear children with someone that petty, and irresponsible. Harsh, but true. Thank my lucky stars never had that problem. Mind you was always firm from day one.

Feel for you, its can't be nice, to be in that situation.

zzzLazyDaisy

Is she refusing to say because it is a surprise and she doesn't want to spoil it?

Or is she refusing to tell you because she is just being awkward and/or controlling?

Whatever... if it was my child and another adult wanted to take them out but refused to say where they were taking them, I would be seriously considering whether to let them take the child.

What does your OH think?

VfM4meplse

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

MIL is playing silly !!!!!!s and wont say where she taking my 4 year old tomorrow and SIL 3 year old...dispite both of us stating we need to be told..just wondering if we being unreasonable

No you are not. If she wants it to be a surprise and can't trust you both to keep it then she is guilty of treating you like children. So treat her like one too and refuse to entrust her with your most precious gifts.

Emmzi

See, my head is now assuming MIL is doing something sneaky like getting their ears pierced or buying affection by giving them a grand each in Toys r Us to go mad with... but only you know her! Do you trust her? I am guessing not, if you had to ask the question.

mummyroysof3

well im trying not to let it wind me up as thats prob why she does it..just hope she rings later to say as i dont even know what time she picking her up etc... she just likes tofeel in control i think and thinks we wont say anything and let her do as she likes..does my head in tbh her being like this

3v3

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

MIL is playing silly !!!!!!s and wont say where she taking my 4 year old tomorrow and SIL 3 year old...dispite both of us stating we need to be told..just wondering if we being unreasonable

Do you not trust her, then?

Personally, if I trusted someone enough to take out my 4yo, I wouldn't be worrying over where they were going. My MIL used to take my little one's out for day trips; I trusted her and never worried - half the time she didn't even have a "plan" in mind and would say to the children "Shall I turn left here, or right?" (all part of the game of surprise: kids loved it!) It's Autumn so you dress your child in layers.

VfM4meplse

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

well im trying not to let it wind me up as thats prob why she does it..just hope she rings later to say as i dont even know what time she picking her up etc... she just likes tofeel in control i think and thinks we wont say anything and let her do as she likes..does my head in tbh her being like this

Show her who's the boss here and give it back with bells on.

3v3

VfM4meplse wrote: »

... and refuse to entrust her with your most precious gifts.

Are you suggesting that Grandchildren are not a "most precious gift" for Grandparents?

whitewing

It would annoy me. However, the chances are that she is waiting to see what the weather is like, what else is going on etc etc I think it is most likely that she doesn't have a plan yet and you are irritating her by demanding one. It could very quickly get into a bout of stubbornness from all sides. I think she should be more considerate.

paidinchickens

MIL can annoy you just by breathing IMO. Some people are lucky to have fab inlaws but I have never had such luck