I Have Messed Up My Life Bigtime

messedup_3

Deep breath a little more pain dealt with on road to recoverey.Feel better.

southernscouser

messedup wrote:

Deep breath a little more pain dealt with on road to recoverey.Feel better.

Well imagine how much better you might feel talking to a professional?

They can help you more than we can but not with money! Thats our forte!

WANDA

You CAN deal with this, because you are a good person, you are loved by your boys and partner and one day you will again love yourself again. Tomorrow morning make an appointment with your GP, talk about your fears and ask for help in dealing with them. Be strong and take small steps to dealing with this.

messedup_3

I will go to see the doctor on my week off next week.
As for the debt I am in the boat and rowing with you SS can I have a tea break now I am supposed to be working tomorrow...oh such fun stock take day...I run someone elses franchise looking after costs and P & L s and I mess my own up...
Stop slacking SS row row row LOL

messedup_3

goodnite everyone and thankyou xx

smashedbooboo

Goodnight hun. Try and sleep and wake up with a positive head on tomorrow. But that goes for all of us as well. Night night to every one else, Meet up on here tomorrow chicks. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

messedup_3

Will also be thinking of you all tomorrow as I go to work in my car and as we all toil together for our debts. I might not whistle whilst I work though LOL

teapot2

Just read the thread - echo what everyone says, sleep well, tomorrow is another day..................

Chai_2

I dont mean to sound negative but i have been reading this thread and i really feel that you need to see a counselor to beat this. If what has happened to you is the route cause of your problems then you need to start dealing with your grief properly otherwise what is stopping you from doing something detrimental the next time you are overwhelmed with grief?
Counselors are really good to help you to talk through how you feel and explore what is going on in your head.

Good luck
Your a brave, inspirational women

C

tesuhoha

Ive just read all this and I am so sorry about your daughter. I just cant imagine that in a million years but I can imagine the non-stop stress and worrying about the debt and mixed up with the pain of loss that must be unbearable. Therefore you must realise that its only natural the way you are feeling. With regard to the debt I think you have to stop thinking back to what you have messed up financially in the past. Its done and thats all there is to it; there's no point agonising about it or feeling guilty. You have enough to bear without guilt. What you did is totally understandable under the circumstances. Accept that you have debt and try to make a plan for the way forward and you might feel a bit better though I know you will still worry. I dont know what else to say; you are getting a lot of good advice. Please do see your doctor. They are used to hearing things like that. Please also look after yourself because you are your boys' precious mum and you are worth it. They will care more about you than the debt you are in. I hope the pain eases for your daughter. I really wish that someone could make you feel better but I think you have to look to your family for comfort. Let them in and dont push them away. Let your grief out. Write a letter to your daughter and tell her how you feel or write about her and keep it to yourself. Hope you dont mind me saying all this. Lots of love Tes xxxxxxxxxxxx