DD wore my perfume!

lizzielondon

The_Bride wrote: »

Hardly crime of the century is it? My DD once used my MAC eyeliner as a crayon! Maybe a spell in borstal will do the trick! Honestly some people.......

oh no!!! did she at least draw you a nice picture?

Bumpmakesfour

Wowsers!! You'd consider cancelling a birthday party over a little lie and a squirt of perfume??Yes I agree denying using it IS wrong of her but doesn't sound like you'd have let her have any even if she'd asked you first tbh.
Just my humble opinion but I think you REALLY need to have a bit of a rethink of "crime" appropriate punishments or you're going to have nothing left in reserve when she's a teenager and REALLY really pushes those boundaries!
I consider myself a pretty strict mum..am thought of as that too by friends and teachers..my kids don't get away with things and always face the consequences of inappropriate behavior BUT!!! even I think you are majorly over reacting here.It's perfume .. a squirt of it!!Wow..just wow... :eek:

newlywed

When step son nicked some of his dad's aftershave he was told off by his dad for not asking... then I asked him how much he thought the bottle cost - he thought about £5!


She might have no concept of how much it costs and why you would be upset.

Cherry_Bomb

Like a 9 year old has any idea (nor any need) to know how much Vera Wang perfume costs!! Perfumes perfume to a little girl!

Calm down and ask her to apologise for lying, then you should apologise for overreacting!

Youdontseeme

I'm 36, moved out 20 years ago and still sneak a squirt of Mothers perfume and tryout all her new "face" stuff when I'm back home :o

YDSM

notjustanyone

Youdontseeme wrote: »

I'm 36, moved out 20 years ago and still sneak a squirt of Mothers perfume and tryout all her new "face" stuff when I'm back home :o

YDSM

As long as you leave her purple rinse alone, you're safe :rotfl:

January20

Actually, most posters are correct she is only 9, but if at 9 she is unable to listen to you and do as you ask/ expect then you have to take action because otherwise you will find yourself with a 12, then 16 yo etc who will think that she can do as she pleases and disregard your wishes.

Although, I do agree that cancelling her party is ott, I think she needs to understand that she cannot take what doesn't belong to her. I also think that for you it's the fact she didn't ask (I can't understand how other posters can't see this!) and then lied about it (showing she knew she had done wrong) that is the problem. You have already spoken to her on numerous occasions, to no avail and I think you just need to give her a taste of her own medicine.

OP, I would also ignore the people who say that your views/ upbringing are weird. They're not. You have your own set of principles and you are trying to bring up your daughter to be respectful of other people and their belongings. Can't see what is weird about that and I think there is a touch a ganging up on you because a mob mentally has developed on this thread. Ignore it!

thorsoak

the very first line of your very first post ..."Just sent DD (10 next month) up to my bedroom to blow dry her hair."

You sent her up to your bedroom - she went up their at your instigation - she is a 9 year old girl, for heaven's sake - and what 9 year old girl does not want to try her mother's stuff? And, as other posters have said, if this is the way you normally react when she touches your stuff (just how old are you, btw - you sound like a petulant 13 yo elder sister, imo) - no wonder she lied!

If you want to keep your bedroom sacrosanct - then buy the child her own hairdryer and buy a lock for your bedroom door!

Would you by any chance be married to the guy who objected to children using "his" ensuite shower because they had to go through the parents' bedroom??

System

"She's invaded my personal items"...I just find that a very strange way of saying it, something you would say about a burglar, not for a child who wanted to 'smell nice like mum does and be a bit grown up'. She lied about it, that was wrong...but I suspect she knew as soon as she'd done it just what the reaction would be!

Explain how expensive that perfume is, and tell her that 'less is more' when it comes to wearing it, say that if she asks you she can wear a little on special occasions.And make sure if you borrow anything of hers, even a pencil to scribble a note, that you ask her also.

notjustanyone

January20 wrote: »

Actually, most posters are correct she is only 9, but if at 9 she is unable to listen to you and do as you ask/ expect then you have to take action because otherwise you will find yourself with a 12, then 16 yo etc who will think that she can do as she pleases and disregard your wishes.

Although, I do agree that cancelling her party is ott, I think she needs to understand that she cannot take what doesn't belong to her. I also think that for you it's the fact she didn't ask (I can't understand how other posters can't see this!) and then lied about it (showing she knew she had done wrong) that is the problem. You have already spoken to her on numerous occasions, to no avail and I think you just need to give her a taste of her own medicine.

OP, I would also ignore the people who say that your views/ upbringing are weird. They're not. You have your own set of principles and you are trying to bring her your daughter to be respectful of other people and their belongings. Can't see what is weird about that and I think there is a touch a ganging up on you because a mob mentally has developed on this thread. Ignore it!

There is no ganging up on the OP by a mob mentality

I haven't suggested the up bringing of her child is incorrect at any time, but if the OP is of the opinion she needs to post this on a public forum, then she must be open to constructive replies, which she may or may not agree with hearing :cool: