DD wore my perfume!

LMCD

You are an adult and made your small young child feel probably pretty pants for a minor thing done... I have two daughters ( and a son) and as much as I wouldn't want them raking through my stuff - I don't think I would want to make them feel small.. you should just lock your stuff away out of reach if thats how its to be...

patanne

I think that lying about using your perfume is more serious than actually using your perfume and that is what the punishment should be for. We all make mistakes & I can understand her using the perfume without permission, the temptation was probably overwhelming. But lying to you about this or indeed anything is much more of a problem.

shellsuit

She's only 9 !!!!!! and you want to cancel her party at the weekend over this?!

It's only perfume, a squirt or 2, nobody was hurt and nothing got damaged so chill out!

lizzielondon

Kaz2904 wrote: »

It's not because she has my perfume on more about the fact that she didn't ask. If she had asked and we were going somewhere special, I might have let her have a squirt

She's invaded my personal items whilst I was letting her use my hairdryer and my mirror.

My DD has no respect for my belongings despite me constantly telling her that these things are mine NOT hers.

What is a suitable punishment for her to show her I really do mean business and that rummaging in my stuff and using my personal belongings is not allowed?

Do I go as far as cancelling the birthday party she is going to on Sunday?

I want it stopped before she starts thinking it's ok to take my clothes too (she's not far off my height tbh :eek:).

You are being v.silly

by your own admission you only 'might' have let her have a squirt which seems v.selfish

You're being very precious about your hairdryer and your mirror, this is a bit strange, why would you not want to share with your daughter?

I feel very sorry for her being told, in your words 'constantly', not to touch/use your things

Cancelling her trip to a birthday party? That would be insane and totally disproportionate to her actions!

Why are you stressed because she's near to your height? Lots of mums and daughters share clothes. If you don't want her to wear them because they are inappropriate or expensive and she is likely to get them dirty playing etc then just explain that nicely to her

Your whole post is shocking, and as I said disproportionate to the 'crime'

blue_haddock

Why not go the whole hog and just give her away to be adopted.

Or report her to the police for theft, maybe a spell in a young offenders institute will teach her a lesson!

Lunar_Eclipse

Kaz2904 wrote: »

I've sent her to bed but I want to punish her.

Personally, I think that is punishment enough for a 9 year old child.

Also, unless it is crystal clear to her that she isn't allowed to use any of your personal beauty products, I would be more disappointed that she lied to you about using it and would discuss that with her tomorrow.

notjustanyone

Give her a hug and get a life

rachbc

sending her to bed is punishment enough. If she isn't listening to your constant tellings perhaps you need to look for a more effective means of communicating with her in future to prevent situations arising rather than punishing her after the event

My 4 yo uses my lipstick frequently and one day she and her friend came down smelling of my very very expensive wedding day perfume....

Sambucus_Nigra

My DSD has been nicking my toiletry stuff for years. For goodness sakes, calm down and just chill out a bit eh?

shegirl

Lunar_Eclipse wrote: »

Personally, I think that is punishment enough for a 9 year old child.

Also, unless it is crystal clear to her that she isn't allowed to use any of your personal beauty products, I would be more disappointed that she lied to you about using it and would discuss that with her tomorrow.

If the OP reacts like this then I can fully see why the girl lied when asked.I can't imagine it was a calm asking