DD wore my perfume!

Stephb1986_2

Cor blimey I think you need to take some chill pills, If I punished my mum for every time she uses my perfume she would permanantly be in her bedroom!!

She was obviously just trying to be grown up at 9 years old you can't blame her! I'd be worried if she wasn't doing things like that.

As for cancelling her going to the party I think that is going far to far she is a child you are an adult act like it!

vroombroom

what would you do if when she's a bit older and one day runs out of pads and has a rummage to see if you have any?? poor kid!

claire16c

Omg. I honestly cant believe this post. This is a crazy over reaction. No wonder your daughter lied to you - I would have if I was her - she's probably terrified of you.

Id love to have a little girl day one who wanted to spray a bit of my perfume on her and 'be like mum.'

What are you going to do when your child actually does something naughty one day?

You say theyre your 'personal items.' Perfume is hardly a prized possession and its unlikely a child would know its expensive. I think its very sad that instead of using the incident with your aunt as a way NOT to treat your child, you are infact carrying it on. Hopefully your daughter will grow up to be nicer to others.

Infact reading your post again makes me think you resent your child, the way you say they get more than the adults. Is it some kind of competition? Surely you knew when having children they become your priority?

Ada_Doom

My first reaction is to agree with the above posters, you are over-reacting. But I do know the feeling of not having anything in the house that is just yours, particulaly when you don't have much in the first place. I sometimes feel that my kids stuff spread all over our tiny house, and it is impossible to keep there toys out of my very small bedroom. It does somethimes make me want to stamp my feet is a very childlike manner and think "not fair"! However, I think maybe you need to have a think about the way you have reacted to your little girl borrowing your perfume, as there may be more to your anger than this one little incident. Go easy on her, bet she feels terrible.

Mojisola

Kaz2904 wrote: »

My DD has no respect for my belongings despite me constantly telling her that these things are mine NOT hers.

I have done all the explaining to her many many times about how hurtful it is and how she wouldn't like it if someone came and took something of hers without asking.

Isn't today's perfume episode the last straw in what sounds like a long-running issue?

Kaz - as talking obviously isn't the desired effect, does she have anything that you could use so that she might understand how you feel when she takes your stuff?

If not, I'd talk less and take action sooner. If she takes anything else, stop her favourite activity - no discussion, no argument, just action.

mrcow

I don't think it's about the punishment.

It's about the admitting that she's lying and apologising to you.

You sound very angry atm - you need to calm down or you're going to react out of temper. Talk with her in the morning and give her the chance to apologise. THEN see how you feel.

Sambucus_Nigra

the first thing I thought of when I read the title was:

choccybikkie_2

Agree with the above! Chill out! I thought I was tough on my kids sometimes but you're totally OTT! Your poor daughter, regardless of how the older generation made YOU feel as a child why would you want to make your daughter feel like she can't touch any of your things? I agree that kids can't do whatever they choose and use other peoples things. But, you've told her now, given her a punishment. Draw a line move on!

Mayflower10cat

My own Mum, now a grandmother to my younger sisters children, has a lockable drawer in her old fashioned dressing table and before the children arrive for visits, she hides away anything she doesn't want dearest 12 yr old grandaughter to help herself to.... Years ago it would be nail polish (such a mess after GD spilt a bottle all over the stool and carpet) and now more likely to be designer perfume or expensive moisturiser. In a way, it's a compliment your daughter has sampled your scent - she has taste and likes the way you smell! Perhaps you could invest in some of the Vera Wang smellalike perfume oil from Perfume Parlour (huge thread already) and indulge together or at their pocket money prices, you could choose a few new scents together and have a lovely bonding session dabbing and sniffing!

Nicki

Kaz2904 wrote: »

When I was a child, we all used to think we were so grown up being allowed to use the grown ups bedrooms and their mirror and their hairdryers to do our hair. QUOTE]

Seriously? I would have been shocked as a child to have to ask permission to look in the mirror in my parents bedroom. What an odd upbringing you had.

As a child I was allowed in every room in the house, and to use every mirror and piece of furniture, as are my children. And my mum would not have given it a second thought if I tried a squirt of her perfume or a dab of her lipstick, and nor would I if my DD tried it for me.

You have some strange ideas, and preventing your child going to a birthday party because she did something most people would consider to be normal acceptable childhood behaviour is just unkind